Journeys Mental Health Services

12/20/2025

If you win and your partner loses, you both lose.

So many couples get stuck here. Locked in battles over who’s right, who remembers correctly, and who started it.

But when you make being right more important than being connected, you turn your partner into your opponent.

And that is the moment that you stop being intimate.

I teach that the relational answer to the question, “Who’s right?” is “Who cares?”

Objectivity has no place in close personal relationships.

As a healthy couple, you must be willing to drop your case, step out of the courtroom, and ask yourself:

“Am I trying to make things better? Or am I trying to win?”

One builds connection. The other destroys it.

10/28/2025

A non-exhaustive list.

10/21/2025

The dance of distancing and pursuit is a classic one for couples in conflict. Couple therapy can help disrupt the dance and change the music, and make greater closeness possible.

10/21/2025

We expect much from our partners, and our relationships often benefit from holding more realistic expectations of them.

These things happen in relationships. The most important thing here is to learn to repair after ruptures in connection.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

10/07/2025

Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings. At the same time, taking all our thoughts at face value can take us to unnecessarily painful places. Mindfulness and cognitive de-fusion practices can help with this and give us a different perspective on the workings of our minds.

Cognitive Defusion at its best

09/15/2025

Changes in thoughts, changes in readiness, changes in willingness…. Here’s to all the subtler growth that may not always be easy to spot.🎉

08/16/2025

For many of us, an emotion will last a few seconds to minutes, unless we do something to hold onto it in some way. We can also re-prompt emotions with “overthinking” or revisiting the same situation that caused the emotion. They always pass, however, if we let them.

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08/12/2025

A different perspective on the old saying, “You can’t love someone else until you first love yourself”.

07/31/2025

Sometimes progress can be hard to see, especially if we continue to react to tough situations in ways that we regret. Nonetheless, progress is happening when we react with more wisdom, more self-control, and more care for our relationships and long-term priorities.

05/31/2025

We all ruminate for different reasons, but one common effect is that it makes a bad moment spill into the next moment, and the next, and the next…

We all felt this one

05/07/2025

While habits involve more than two brain cells, this video shows how the brain’s wiring is not set in stone. In fact, your brain’s wiring is constantly changing throughout your lifespan. Having new experiences in therapy and practicing new skills outside of therapy can help make this re-wiring happen, too!

04/25/2025

To engage in science that serves everyone, we must ensure our research reflects the realities, needs, and perspectives of all populations.

Read APA’s full statement on the termination of NSF-funded active research projects: https://at.apa.org/j1p