Jennifer English Counselling

02/27/2026

Disenfranchised grief

02/27/2026

Being stuck will always be a part of the process. As we work towards healing childhood trauma, the work can be so difficult that part of us almost longs to return to the stuck phase—simply because it felt safer or more familiar than the pain of change. ⁠
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Keep going.⁠
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We just have to go through it.⁠
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Being stuck, much like many of our trauma reactions, is not a choice. ⁠
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People become ready when they are ready. ⁠
I am not saying we are choosing to be stuck nor is it healthy. ⁠
It's just part of a long process. ⁠
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Look towards the moments where you said 'enough' and somehow shifted. Those moments are golden. Often, a crisis is the catalyst that finally forces us out of that stagnation.⁠
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Another way to frame stuckness is a bit dark: it’s almost like the tax we have to pay on top of our childhood trauma for the relief that eventually comes with healing.⁠
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For me, looking back, the stuck place is actually the hardest because it is so much like childhood. We didn’t have any help, resources, or connection. ⁠
Being stuck felt like forever.⁠
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Today, I’ll take the messy pain of the active healing part over the helpless waiting any day.⁠
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What has been your experience?

02/26/2026

02/26/2026

02/26/2026

Source: Amanda Nicole

02/26/2026

"Healing is possible. It begins the moment you decide your pain matters enough to be faced with compassion. It grows in spaces where you are believed, supported, and allowed to take your time.

"The journey might feel lonely, but you are not alone-and you are not broken. Each boundary you set, each emotion you let yourself feel, each moment you choose gentleness over shame is part of the healing. It's hard. It's slow. But it's real. And you're allowed to take it one breath, one step, one day at a time." – Moses Kuria