04/03/2025
It's April 2nd, which means it's "Autism Acceptance Day." In lieu of this day, I'd like to bust a few myths & share a few perspectives as a late diagnosed autistic woman.
1.) Autism in females can present differently than in males - the core characteristics are the same, but young girls often learn to mask their differences in order to fit in. These girls may appear as if they have a lot of friends, or they excel in school (writing, reading, or the arts), when in reality they are bouncing from friend group to friend group, having trouble keeping friends, and may be an outcast or called "weird, "attention seeking," "sensitive," "shy," etc. She may be unapologetically loud, unable to control the volume of her voice, dominate conversations about one topic, and have intense interests.
2.) Autism, in the current DSM 5 (or, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is classified all under one label; ASD or Autism Spectrum Disorder." The term "Aspergers" is not a diagnosis anymore due to several reasons and hasn't been in this manual since 2013. Autism is not a monolith, nor is Autism a one size fits all diagnosis. Autism doesn't have "a look," and isn't a scale that goes from "low to high" functioning. In fact, many autistics consider these terms to be outdated and offensive. The spectrum is more like a circle, where one person can exhibit a variety of traits. Some autistic people are non-speaking while others are hyper-verbal.
3.) "Autism Speaks" is generally considered a hate group in the autism community. In 2009 they had several ads, including the infamous "I Am Autism," ad where they depicted Autism as a horrible condition that would literally ruin your life and destroy your marriage. They even had an ad where a woman said she would rather drive her autistic child off a bridge than deal with them. Don't support "Autism Speaks," puzzle pieces, and "Light it up Blue." Use gold or red and the infinity symbol instead. โพ๏ธ
4. Most people in the autistic community wish to be referred to as, "autistic," rather than the pathologized "person with Autism," or "they have Autism." This isn't true for all autistics and obviously, it's best to get that person's opinion on what they wish to be referred to as. Most prefer "autistic" because they don't see Autism as something outside of themselves. Autism isn't a disease, it's a neurotype and dictates everything about who that person is. You can't really separate Autism from the person. However, higher rates of ID (intellectual disability) are seen in the autistic population, as well as "gifted" individuals. Please note that most autistic people aren't savants.. (Like most TV or movie depictions.)
I do realize some people refer to this day as "Autism Awareness Day," however most in the community advocate for "Autism Acceptance Day," because people are already "aware" that Autism exists but we need more acceptance.. โค๏ธ