Elite Counselling & Consulting

12/08/2025

Some people cope by going numb or disconnecting. Others become more alert, tense, or watchful.
These reactions may look different, but both can be nervous system patterns that develop when certain experiences felt overwhelming or unsupported.

It is not about being dramatic or having a “big trauma story.”
Sometimes the body holds on to what the mind moved past.

If you want to understand how these patterns show up and how the body remembers even when we do not feel traumatized, we explore this gently and in depth in our newest Therapy Inspired episode.

The full conversation is now on YouTube and on Spotify: Therapy Inspired Podcast. 🔗Links in the bio

Save this if you want to come back to it.

12/04/2025

You carried things this year that no one saw.

The roles, the pressure, the emotional labour, the expectations you never agreed to, your nervous system held it all, even on the days you tried to stay strong.

If you’ve been feeling heavier than usual or wondering why this year felt different in your body… it makes sense.

Your mind pushes through.
Your body remembers.

I wrote a new blog to help you make sense of what this year might have held for you and there’s a FREE reflection guide at the end if you want a softer way to close out the year.

Read & download HERE https://www.elitec-c.com/what-this-year-taught-your-nervous-system/

Save this for when you have a quiet moment.

12/03/2025

If you’ve been feeling heavier than usual, it isn’t in your head.
Your nervous system carries the parts of the year you didn’t have space to process, the roles you stepped into, the expectations you never chose, and the emotional weight you pushed through quietly.

I wrote a new blog to help you understand what your body has been holding:
What This Year Taught Your Nervous System
…and inside it, you’ll find a free reflection guide you can download to pause, soften, and take inventory of what this year meant for you.

If this resonated, save it for a moment when you can breathe a little deeper.

To read the blog & download the guide https://www.elitec-c.com/what-this-year-taught-your-nervous-system/

12/02/2025

This year, your nervous system held so much more than you were able to name.

The pushing through.
The burnout.
The emotional labour.
The quiet strength no one saw.

Your body carried the story of the year, even when your mind tried to outrun it.

I wrote a new blog, What This Year Taught Your Nervous System, to help you slow down, make sense of what you carried, and notice what you might need next.

Inside it, you’ll also find a free reflection guide you can download to explore this more gently.

If this spoke to you, save it for a quiet moment.💜
Link in bio to read the blog + download the guide.

11/28/2025

Most couples think they’re arguing about the dishes, the tone, the timing, the mess, the plan…

But the truth is this:
You’re not fighting about what you think you’re fighting about.

Under almost every recurring argument is a feeling that hasn’t been named yet:
feeling unheard
unseen
unsupported
overwhelmed
or alone in the relationship.

And when the deeper feeling goes unspoken, every tiny moment starts to feel like a trigger.

So if the small things feel big lately, it isn’t because you're dramatic or “too sensitive.”
It’s because something underneath hasn’t been acknowledged yet.

Save this if it hit something tender.

Share it with someone who needs the reminder that the real issue is worth talking about.

11/27/2025

Before you give up… remember this:
Safety* in a relationship doesn’t come from big talks or fixing everything at once.
It comes from the tiny moments where you feel considered, supported, or understood.

A softer tone.
A warm glance.
A partner taking one small thing off your plate.
Checking in before assuming.

These are the micro-cues that tell your nervous system:
You’re safe here.

If things feel tense or disconnected lately, don’t underestimate the impact of one small shift. Big change often starts in the smallest moments.

If you found this grounding, save it to come back to. And if you want support learning how to rebuild safety + connection… I’m here.

*Referring to emotional safety & nervous system sense of safety

11/27/2025

Most of us are not trying to start a fight.

We are trying to feel understood.
What turns conversations tense isn’t usually the issue itself.

It is how the opening lands.

Criticism activates the nervous system.
Connection settles it.

When we lead with acknowledgment, care, or validation, it signals safety.

It reminds our partner that we are on the same team even if we see things differently.

A softer opening does not guarantee a perfect conversation.

It simply keeps both people engaged instead of defended.

Connection makes hard conversations easier to hold.

Criticism makes them harder to hear.
If you and your partner want support shifting these patterns, we offer free consults, link in bio.

11/26/2025

You know when you try to bring something up to make things better and the whole conversation shifts before you even get to the point?

That moment is rarely about the issue.
It's about how the opening lands.

Our nervous system reacts to tone and emotional cues before it processes the words.
Which is why the start of a conversation can make everything feel easier or harder.

A soft start-up is not about perfect phrasing.

It's about keeping both people in a place where they can stay open instead of defensive.

My personal approach is to begin with validation first:
“I know this has been a long week…”
“I see how much you’ve been carrying…”
“I get where you’re coming from…”

Then naming your feeling and what you’re hoping for:
“…and I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’d like us to figure out dinner together.”
“…and I’m feeling a bit alone in this. I could use your support.”
The goal is simple:
To remind your partner you’re not adversaries.
You're someone who cares about them, values them, and wants connection while also having your own needs.

Soft start-ups are less about scripts and more about tone, intention, and creating safety for both people to stay engaged.

If you and your partner feel stuck in the same patterns, therapy can help you shift the cycle and rebuild connection.

Book Your Free consult in bio.

11/25/2025

Some wounds don’t disappear just because time has passed.

In so many relationships I see, the real issue isn’t the argument happening today…
It’s the unresolved hurt underneath it.

When old things keep resurfacing, it doesn’t mean you or your partner are “too sensitive,” “still mad,” or “holding a grudge.”
It usually means: that part of you still needs care.

Sometimes the past shows up because the relationship is asking for something different, softness, safety, repair, or simply being heard in the way you needed back then.

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
More couples carry old pain into new chapters than you’d ever guess and you deserve support in breaking that cycle.

Save this if you’re trying to understand your patterns.
Share it with someone who might need compassion today.
And if you want a space to work through this together, we’re here.

11/24/2025

Ever been in the middle of an argument and thought, “Here we go again”?
So many couples feel this loop.
The same topic.
The same tension.
The same roles you both fall into… even when you don’t want to.

It’s not because you don’t love each other.
It’s because the pattern takes over before either of you can catch it.

What plays out is some variation of: 
One person shuts down.
One gets louder.
Someone tries to keep the peace,
And the hurt stays, even after the words stop.

Most couples try to fix this alone for years, books. podcasts, long talks…
and still end up back in the same cycle, wondering why it keeps happening.

Sometimes it isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about getting support to interrupt the pattern so the same fight stops stealing your connection.

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
You don’t have to keep doing this by yourselves.

Save this if it hit something tender.
Follow for more real conversations on relationships and emotional wellness.

11/23/2025

11/21/2025

You’re allowed to enjoy this season without carrying all of it.
If you’ve been feeling the pressure build earlier this year, you’re not imagining it.

Women often hold more of the invisible load. During the holidays this can mean
planning, tracking details, remembering gifts, keeping traditions alive,
and trying to create magic for everyone else.

Here are a few things that help moms I support in therapy:

• Lower the bar, not your joy
• Choose one or two traditions that truly matter and let the rest be flexible
• Share the invisible load by naming it out loud
• Ask yourself “What do I need to enjoy this?”
• Your rest and pleasure count, too

You matter in this season, not just what you do for everyone else.

If this resonates, save it for later or share it with another mom who needs it. 💚