Soothe Your Grief with BreakingstibaH

07/29/2025

Grief is often soothed with a hug. These babies are ready for a home. Both the smaller bears with sweaters are yours with a donation to my August Challenge. Big Teddy is mine and he keeps the others company until they find a forever home. Do you have a Teddy that needs a sweater. I can send a sweater for your teddy!

Donate here:
https://www.canadahelps.org/en/charities/help-bolivia-foundation/p2p/5thAugustChallenge/team/ontario-team/member/dancyn-40-challenge

07/27/2025

Building resilience comes with knowing who you are and asking questions of yourself. This series of short videos will help with asking questions and pondering historical teachings that has been handed down to you by others.

Are you curious to know more about yourself?
Do you want to build resilience?
Tired of being and feeling sad?

These videos will probe your spirit and bring your ego and unconscious into conversation.

Find a renewed sense of spirit. Learn how to connect to your own soul. Learning about spirituality. As I build this short video series I invite you to offer ...

07/14/2025

As I help others to soothe their soul and any grief that is challenging them I am pleased to announce the traffic to my website is growing! My blog is seeing more action and I am excited my writing is being enjoyed. Would you like to help me? Have you visited my website? Have you subscribed to my blog? It would help me so much if you could take a moment and subscribe! I would be so grateful!

You cannot suffer the past or the future... they do not exist!

07/07/2025

Sometimes soothing your grief means acceptance of things the way they are instead of wishing them to be different. The gateway is often part of the journey. We just need to accept and walk through .... onward!

07/06/2025

Today I got to take out the garbage! Can you imagine?! I tied up the bag, grabbed my keys, put on my flip flops (in my day they were called "thongs" but don't call them that now or the younger gen will be rolling on the floor laughing that you put a "thong" on your foot!), then I went out and walked down three flights of stairs, across the parking lot and placed the bag of garbage in the dumpster. Do you know how many people would LOVE to do that? Wow how lucky am I?

Yesterday, I got to run 5 kms in the forest listening to the birds, watching for bears, and I don't mean Paddington Bear, the real thing. Bears that will rip my limbs off. Tear at my flesh.... well not really, they are more frightened of me than I am of them, unless I have a sandwich in my hand and then they might maul me for it! I got to meet new friends again, people who welcomed me and were happy I was there.

Later today, I get to read through a paper that must be submitted by the 12th as the last piece to a course I took this summer called "spiritually integrated psychotherapy". I got to learn at the hand of a practicing compassionate therapist who loves his work and is curious about people in their hard work of finding their way through life. I got to study, learn and glean from a class of people from the age of 20 to my ripe old age of 65. It was there, in the hands of their stories I got to see we are all people on a journey of human experience seeking to find our way.

Grief can rob us of the joy of "getting" to live on. Grief stagnates the ego in the lost love of life and unless we learn what else we can love so the soul can get on with this human experience. When we suffer losses it is fine to grieve, necessary to grieve and important to honour and push through the pain. When we love we get to grieve. It is a natural process.

What are you grieving that you have not pushed through to the get yet?
Are you stagnated in loss so consuming you have forgotten you get to live on while what you lost is gone?

As the rain washes the land, let the process of grieving wash your soul. Tie up the garbage bag and allow yourself to get it to the bin. Let it go while holding on to the love. That is the beauty we get to keep the memories, keep the love! It's a precarious balance between grief and living.

07/03/2025

Well I am here in my new abode and I am feeling much happiness. Truly! This move feels positive. That said, I am a person who chooses to make happiness happen wherever I am! I choose to be happy. I choose to welcome challenge and I choose to make good things happen for myself.

This move is a choice to afford, on my limited income, the place where I live. It is a smaller northern community that is alive with others thinking the same thoughts. It is a community focused on making third third living successful. It is a collection of people choosing to live here.

I have heard it called "isolated". My first response is, "what is isolated in today's standards?" I order from online resources and my packages are delivered within a few days. The stores have what I need and nature welcomes me.

The days are long right now, reminding me the darkness will be long as well. When I head into winter it must be with the realization the sun will set earlier than I am used to and rise after I have had breakfast and morning coffee. So planning is my friend.

Are you programmed for happiness?
Do you choose how you feel?
What do you do to satisfy your needs?





As I ponder, and have my balancing stones in sight, life is good!

06/24/2025

There was a conference I wanted to attend with a person who was well known in the field of spiritual awareness and third third living, but I could not attend. I was in class that day. I was grateful they created a video of the day and when I logged in the speaker I wanted to see was not there. It was said she had a medical emergency and could not attend. They changed direction and the person speaking was amazing.

I am listening now to a follow-up recording with the original speaker and she shared her near death experience and how it has created a kaleidoscope of colour to her already present awareness of spirituality. It is an amazing story! All near death stories are. I asked myself tho' how can we create that kaleidoscope of colour without the near death experience?

We have been taught to have gratitude and be grateful and to remember there is always someone worse off than we are. We have been dragged to the alter of hope with this thought in mind. I scream when I hear this because our own grief is the near death experience we just don't have the MRI, CAT scan or seams up our chest to validate it for others to respect. Grieving is a near death experience no matter what the story.

I agree we can find others worse off than we are. I agree we can find gratitude in life. I agree, often, our woes can be weathered with little damage. What I fail to agree with is any grief is less worthy of our attention. Take the time to grieve your losses. Honour that which is challenging you and sit in the sadness brought on by even the most wonderful of life's gifts. Grandchildren are beautiful but they represent your and your child's aging. Take the time to feel this.

Yesterday as I drove to Elliot Lake to start my new life I listened to a podcast with a Buddhist Monk. He told his story of a four year silent retreat and how at the two year mark he climbed the wall and ran away. I asked myself, am I running away? What wall am I climbing and am I escaping? I had to stop and think, work it through. So I stopped at a roadside picnic area and walked. I listened to the fears and questions that were bubbling up. I am told I am courageous and adventurous, but not without trepidation and fear. I just do it anyway.

What fears are you avoiding?
Where do you want to go but anxiety rears its head?
When you grieve to you honour it and welcome the road to recovery?

06/10/2024

Rumi said, "I/we are not a drop in the ocean, I/we are the entire ocean in a single drop!" This spoke so deeply to me today as I meditated this morning.

The road is always before us as we flow into our lives. Being connected to the earth through water, fire, dirt and air keeps balance and connection.

05/03/2024

How lovely is it that even a video that I am not totally happy with editing wise has enough views I am going to let it ride. People are curious about Scotland and this DanCyn' Adventures Mamma and her journey! Enjoy the wee peek at Orkney Islands and my visit to, down inside, a cairn that is from 2000 B.C.

https://youtu.be/UzK6cMWExN4?si=_w-FA_MqqD4wIEVw

Heading off the northern tip of Scotland I ventured into the Orkney Islands. This beautiful few days was surely time remembered. I traveled around Kirkwall a...

04/10/2024

Beautiful morning! Look at all the birds I caught on my bird call app today!

04/05/2024

Funny how things do not affect us until they do! I have now seen first hand what the censoring/limiting of Canadian news links means. I can no longer share the link to BradfordToday.ca media group where my column is published. So that said, I invite you, if you are interested to Google "Life with Cynthia" and you will find many of my columns popping up. I am proud of the many words that are now out in the world, both through my column and in my book!

Recently, I was invited to share my book as a LTC group put together seven "meaningful visit" baskets. My book will be included for reading to a loved one to create a more meaningful visit. Nice moment for me!

Thank you for you support as I write and as I share my thoughts and do the spiritual care work I do. Last night as I cared for people with my hands, gloved or not, helped someone shower and then shared a moment with a woman and her daughter, I know my work is valid, even if it is very hard to see that in this world of limitations, censorship, and roadblocks.

Blessings upon your day as we break through winter into the new life of spring!




While the trail may be rocky at times, watch for the blue blaze of hope to keep you on track!