09/17/2025
Often, people will ask me why they never feel like they’re good enough. Watching the pain show up when this question is asked is always hard.
Here’s what I tell them…
Not feeling good enough often comes from being taught that we need to earn our place instead of belonging. It comes from learning that your worth is measured by the things you do and how little space you take up in others lives.
The more you gave, the more love you received. The less you needed, the more acceptance you saw. The more you hid your emotions, the more “support” you got.
So it follows you throughout your life because that’s all you know.
It’s hard to feel like you’re enough when your earliest proof of love was conditional.
Be gentle with yourself ❤️
