10/05/2025
Tips We Share with Parents of Teens:
Raising teenagers can feel like a rollercoaster, but with the right tools, it becomes an opportunity to strengthen connection and build independence. Here are some of the common strategies our therapists at Canoe Therapy share with parents:
• Validate, validate, validate. Look beneath the behaviour. If your teen is procrastinating, instead of lecturing, try reflecting: “You seem low. Is something else adding to the stress?”
• Set expectations just ahead. Treat your teen as if they are six months older. This communicates confidence in their ability to grow and fosters independence.
• Focus on what you can control. You cannot control your teen—you can only control your own responses and the environment you create.
• “Never react, always respond.” Pause, plan, and come back to the issue later with a calm, united front.
• Don’t get pulled into the storm. Treat your teen as capable of handling their own moods and anxiety. This builds resilience and self-regulation.
• Know the difference in transgressions. If it’s “out in their world,” step back and let natural consequences unfold while offering support. If it’s in “shared life,” calmly reinforce rules—short, clear, and consistent.
Parenting teens is not about perfection, it’s about planting the seeds for independence, resilience, and confidence.
At Canoe Therapy, we’re here to support you every step of the way.
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