Bayridge Counselling Centres

02/02/2026

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02/02/2026

We all get overwhelmed, angry, upset so it’s important to pause to cool down a regulate and it’s important to communicate this to our person. 🧠👍

Stressful meetings, intense conversations, therapy sessions, and any other emotional situation should involve walking. Either during or after. Walking is the body’s most natural way of regulating and processing emotions. It’s how we make sense of what happens to us. The next time you have to talk about something hard, do it while you walk. The next time you need to make an important decision walk on it before you decide

02/01/2026

Parents arguing and fighting around children

02/01/2026

Many of us grew up with the idea of spare the rods spoiled a child, which then gave us permission to actually hit our child and believe that it is good parenting. It is not just like getting hit as an adult is not if our partner hit us we call it domestic abuse likewise if we hit our child, it is abuse. The child’s nervous system learns that they are not safe and it programs to brain and they’re on all the time trying to please us because they’re afraid of us and that is not healthy and that goes on in their body in their nervous system forever unless somewhere they decide to get therapy and do the hard work to try to heal that core wound.

Discipline was never meant to frighten, shame, or hurt a child.
Its roots are in teaching, guiding, and helping a young nervous system learn what to do next time.

When behaviour is met with fear, children don’t learn better choices — they learn to hide, to shut down, or to believe they are the problem.
Real discipline builds skills, not scars.

If this resonates, save it for the hard days — and share it with someone who needs the reminder.

02/01/2026

Have you ever been in a car where the person driving is just having road rage and just stressed and mad and you just feel weary and unsafe? Sometimes it’s just hearing them complain about other people on the road and you feel like your body is tensing up when you’re feeling ink inside your body like they’re stress is coming inside your body. Many people talk about this actually in particular particularly in relationships as a couple and it is problematic so if you’ve been thinking, am I making things up or making a problem when they’re one does not exist then take a read to get your clarification. 🧠

02/01/2026

Before Monday begins, let’s pause and look at the importance of boundaries. Think how you might level up yours this week. ☝️🧠

01/31/2026

Eventually KIDS get old enough to realize which parent was the issue.

You can lie to kids when they're young. You can paint yourself as the victim, twist the story, make the other parent look bad. But children grow up. And when they do, they start connecting the dots you thought you covered.

They notice the patterns. They remember who actually showed up versus who just talked about showing up. They see who was consistent and who only played the role when it was convenient. They recognize manipulation, lies, and emotional games once they're old enough to understand what those things actually are.
The parent who bad-mouthed the other, alienated them, or weaponized the kids to hurt their ex? That truth comes out. The one who prioritized their ego over their child's well-being? Kids figure that out too.

You can't hide forever behind a false narrative. Time reveals everything, and kids aren't stupid, they just needed to grow up to fully understand what was really happening.
Eventually KIDS get old enough to realize which parent was the issue.

So if you're the parent doing the right thing even when it's hard, even when you're being villainized, keep going. The truth always finds its way out.

01/31/2026

Everytime I addressed something that troubled me, I became the issue

You'd bring up a legitimate concern, something they did that hurt you, a boundary they crossed, a pattern you noticed, and somehow, by the end of the conversation, you're the one apologizing. You're the one being too sensitive, overreacting, making things difficult.

That's manipulation. When someone flips the script every time you speak up, making you the villain for having feelings or needs, they're not interested in resolving anything. They're interested in silencing you so they can keep doing what they're doing without consequences.

Real partners, real friends, real healthy relationships don't make you regret speaking up. They listen. They take accountability. They try to understand your perspective even if they don't fully agree. They don't gaslight you into thinking your feelings are the problem.
Everytime I addressed something that troubled me, I became the issue

If this is your reality, you're not in a safe relationship. You're in one where your voice is treated as an inconvenience. And that's not okay.

You deserve people who hear you without making you feel crazy for needing to be heard.

01/30/2026

All healthy people cry! :-)

Go ahead and cry.
There is a lot to cry about. 😢

01/30/2026

Anger is a secondary emotion. What we must feel before we can even feel anger is sadness, and if sadness is not resolved it goes to anger. Every time you get angry, a child, or anyone really is someone that not only feels like an injustice to them has happened, but the belief behind it is 'that they do not matter' which is why there is sadness.

When their voice rises,
let yours soften.
Your calm won’t end the storm,
but it will keep them from drowning in it.🩶

01/30/2026

What does it mean that your sibling and you had different parents? It's true. Even though we have the same DNA parents, how they parent each child is different which explains so much.