Bayridge Counselling Centres

11/22/2025

We know, because we have anxiety. And we are working so hard to heal and have skills they did not have do we do not do the same to our children.

Your anxiety has a history.

11/22/2025

It’s a beautiful truth that needs education, tenderness, with new skills.

Every relationship is two nervous systems learning each other’s storms, and two inner children trying to feel safe in the same room.
This is why love is not just chemistry it’s childhood trauma meeting childhood trauma, patterns meeting patterns, wounds meeting mirrors.
It’s the sacred work of unlearning survival habits, softening the armor, reparenting the parts of us we abandoned just to cope.

Real connection isn’t perfect energy it’s aligned healing.
It’s two souls choosing awareness over reaction, presence over projection, truth over triggers.
It’s sitting with the discomfort, holding space for the scared little kid inside your partner while honoring the one inside you.

This is divine alignment:
two humans, two histories, one conscious path building safety, not repeating pain.

11/22/2025

5 Tips to Teach Consent and Boundaries to Kids

How can you prepare your child to handle social situations with respect and self-awareness? Teaching consent and boundaries early helps them understand their feelings, speak clearly, and respect differences in others. These early lessons create a strong base for healthy relationships and emotional security. Give your child the tools they need to discover more - https://shorturl.at/xxQdB

11/21/2025

Swoon! 👌☝️🧠💪😊❤️

11/21/2025

All of us will argue. It’s part of being a human living among other humans. The key though is learning how to do it healthy and find out new things to do healthy moving forward. However what do that look like excactly?

11/21/2025

That angst all the time. Ugh.

Let’s change that! 🧠☝️👌❤️‍🩹

❤️❤️

11/21/2025

Behind every tantrum or act of defiance is usually a story — one of unmet needs, overwhelm, or unspoken hurt.

When we pause long enough to see the story instead of just the behavior, everything changes.
Because nine times out of ten, what’s underneath won’t make you angry — it will break your heart.

Lead with empathy. Respond with connection. 💛

11/20/2025

Domestic violence is defined more accurately which is important because we often normalize and excuse the abuser.

IT'S STILL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE they don't have to hit you, choke you, or slam your head into a wall in order for it to be domestic violence. they can degrade you, humiliate you, blame you, scream at you, lie to you, cheat on you, and withhold finances, or even just try to control you & it IS still domestic violence.

These behaviors are just as damaging, just as hurtful, and just as unacceptable as physical violence. They chip away at your self-worth, your confidence, and your sense of self. They make you feel trapped, isolated, and powerless. And they're a clear sign that the person is exerting control over you, dictating what you can and can't do, and manipulating your reality.

It's not just about physical harm; it's about emotional, psychological, and financial abuse. It's about recognizing that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and compassion. You deserve to be in a relationship that's built on mutual trust, communication, and support. Not control, not manipulation, and not fear.

11/20/2025

Often when we avoid, it’s because we do not like the uncomfortable feels that happen to do the thing. Some of us have a strong fear that if we do the thing, it will not be good. So we avoid to give us that relief however then we beat ourselves up, have intrusive thoughts, shame, etc., that makes our anxiety worst.

When we start to feel anxious, we want to do anything to get that feeling out of our body. And not only do we want it gone, but we add the story that there's something *wrong* with feeling this way.

We also usually have a go-to coping mechanism - it can be avoidance, numbing, or myriad other things, and while it can offer some temporary relief, that coping mechanism isn't getting to the root of the anxious feeling.

When you just avoid the situation or thing that you associate with the anxiety, it makes the anxiety worse. It increases the anxious association with the thing, and increases our dependence on the coping mechanism.

Healing anxiety requires learning how to be with the anxiety safely.
It requires allowing the feeling to exist in our bodies and to do so without judgment.

It requires getting compassionately curious about what my body is trying to tell me, and allowing that feeling to really come up.

For me, my public speaking anxiety used to be all-consuming. But over the years, it's softened as I got to know what was beneath the fear. When I came back to my own body and allowed myself to feel the fear and sadness related to rejection, that fear and anxiety no longer took control. I learned that I was safe, and that I could create safety in my own body, and then I was better able to show up as myself to share my work.

The key has been connecting to my own needs, bodily signals, and finding out how to safely connect to my own body and feelings. It’s taken being compassionate with the little girl who used to be put on the spot and intensely criticized and allowing her to feel sad about that. And it's taken a long while to get here, but boy has it been worth it!

In case you missed it, The EQ School can send daily texts to your phone — which is great if you’re trying to spend less time on social media but still want reminders that help you check in with yourself, and to remind you of why you’re doing this life changing work.
https://hdly.me/theeqschool

11/20/2025

It hurts, it harms.

Emotional abandonment is when they see your pain… and choose to ignore it. That kind of indifference doesn’t just hurt—it leaves a wound you can’t see but can feel in every part of your body. When someone you care about looks directly at your sadness, your fear, your exhaustion, and simply turns away, it sends a message deeper than any words ever could.

It tells your nervous system that you don’t matter.
That your feelings are inconvenient.
That your needs are “too much.”
That your vulnerability is something to be dismissed rather than cared for.

And that’s where the trauma forms—not from the pain itself, but from facing it alone while standing next to someone who promised to be there. Emotional abandonment teaches you to silence yourself, to shrink your needs, to stop reaching out, because the person you trusted showed you that your hurt won’t be met with comfort, only coldness.

Over time, you stop expressing what you feel.
You stop expecting support.
You stop believing anyone will choose you when it counts.

What people don’t understand is that being ignored at your lowest changes the way you love, the way you trust, and the way you show up in relationships. You learn to rely on yourself not out of strength, but out of survival.

Emotional abandonment isn’t just neglect—
It’s a deep betrayal of the heart.
And healing from it means relearning that your feelings do matter, your pain does deserve compassion, and you are not unworthy of being cared for.
“Andy Burg”