09/18/2025
We want deep connection.
We want emotional safety, honesty, repair, passion, presence.
We want to feel seen. Held. Understood.
That’s the filet mignon.
But when it comes to how we relate — how we speak, listen, set limits, stay in the room when things get hard — most of us don't have the recipe.
We were raised inside systems that prized performance over presence, obedience over authenticity.
We didn’t learn to name what we feel, let alone say it skillfully.
We learned to protect, please, avoid, attack.
And then we wonder why intimacy feels out of reach.
We’re asking for a five-star connection with fast food habits.
That gap is not your fault — but it is your responsibility. No one else will fill it for you.
Intimacy asks more of us than most of us were ever taught to give.
But the skills can be learned. And when they are, what once felt impossible starts to feel within reach. Not because love got easier, but because you got better at showing up for it.
