Dr. Gloria Lee, 530-4445 Lougheed Highway, Burnaby, BC (2025)

10/14/2025

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Your apology means nothing if your behavior stays the same.

I see this constantly. Good people who apologize and then do the exact same thing next week. Meanwhile, their partner is drowning. Carrying everything alone. Profoundly lonely with someone who’s right there.

Small betrayals of trust are often more damaging than big ones. Daily unreliability? Daily defensiveness? Daily broken promises? That’s a slow poison that kills relationships just as dead.

Your partner doesn’t need another apology. They need proof. They need to see you follow through, own mistakes without defensiveness, and choose their trust over your comfort every single day.

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10/11/2025

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The irony of control? The tighter you grip, the more disconnected you become.

Real intimacy requires risk. Risk of being your true self to ask for what you need instead of covertly controlling your partner.

Your anxiety isn’t the problem. It’s information about what needs attention inside you.

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10/08/2025

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After 27 years of working with couples, here’s what I know:

You’re not stuck because you’re broken.

You’re stuck because you’re following myths that were never true.

These myths aren’t harmless. When you believe love should be easy, you panic when things get hard. When you wait for your partner to read your mind, you stay resentful. When you think good couples don’t fight, you either avoid conflict or fight without repairing.

Meanwhile, months turn into years. The distance grows.

The couples who thrive aren’t lucky. They learned what actually creates safety and connection. Then they practiced those skills until they became natural.

That’s what happens at my Relationship Reboot Retreat.

This isn’t another workshop where you sit and take notes. This is an immersive experience where you and your partner completely reset how you relate to each other.

You’ll understand why you keep having the same fight. You’ll learn to repair instead of staying disconnected. You’ll feel like teammates again.

My last retreat sold out. If you’re tired of tips that don’t stick and ready to break the patterns running your relationship, this is for you.

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10/06/2025

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I’m serious—these 5 rules will reduce your fights by 80%. But here’s what most couples don’t realize: You’ve never been taught HOW to argue.

Nobody sat you down and said, “Here’s what to do when you’re flooded with emotion.” Or “Here’s how to pause without your partner thinking you’re stonewalling them.”

So you default to what you learned growing up. Maybe that’s yelling. Maybe it’s the silent treatment. Maybe it’s people-pleasing until you explode.

And then you feel terrible because you love this person—you just don’t know how to navigate conflict without destroying each other in the process.

Rule #3 saved my own relationship more times than I can count. Learning to take a break when I’m escalating—and actually coming back—meant we stopped having fights that lasted for days. We started having conversations that lasted 20 minutes and ended with understanding.

That’s what these rules do. They transform conflict from something you dread into something you can navigate together.

But knowing the rules isn’t enough. You need to practice them. In real time. With support.

That’s exactly what we do at my Relationship Reboot Retreat. One immersive weekend where you learn the frameworks, practice the skills, and leave with a completely different way of handling conflict.

No more walking on eggshells. No more explosive fights. No more three-day silent treatments.

Just two people who know how to disagree without disconnecting.

If you’ve been stuck in the same fight for months (or years), this retreat will break the cycle. Early bird pricing ends this week, and we only have space for a few more couples.

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10/03/2025

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09/29/2025

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09/26/2025

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Obviously not every struggling marriage shows all these signs, but if you’re nodding along to half of these, your relationship needs immediate intervention.

The most dangerous marriages aren’t the conflictual ones - they’re the dead ones. At least fighting couples still feel something. Dead marriages feel nothing.

This didn’t happen overnight. It happened in a thousand tiny disconnections. A thousand moments where you chose safety over vulnerability, distance over intimacy, silence over truth.

Here’s the brutal truth: This is where most marriages end up if nobody intervenes. Not in dramatic explosions, but in quiet suffocation.

But here’s the hopeful truth: Emotional death isn’t permanent death. Marriages can be resurrected, but only if you are willing to stop settling for survival and start fighting for connection again.

My Relationship Reboot Retreat isn’t just another marriage workshop. It’s intensive care for relationships on life support.

Over two transformative days, couples learn to breathe life back into their connection and remember why they chose each other.

The question is: Do you want to save your marriage, or just preserve it?

Most couples wait until the marriage is emotionally dead before seeking help. Don’t be most couples.

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09/21/2025

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You know that feeling when you’re putting in all the effort and getting nothing back? When you’re the one always initiating conversations, planning date nights, and trying to fix things while your partner seems to just coast along?

I get it. And I’ve got news for you - this pattern can absolutely change, but not how you think.

After 27 years of working with couples, I’ve learned that the partner who’s “trying harder” often holds the key to transformation. Not because it’s your fault, but because when you shift how you show up, the entire dance changes.

Here’s what I mean: If you’re always the pursuer, your partner becomes the withdrawer. If you’re always managing emotions, they never learn to manage their own. The very behaviors you think are helping might be keeping both of you stuck.

This doesn’t mean stop caring or become cold. It means learning to show up differently so your partner has space to step up.

The couples who transform their relationships don’t wait for their partner to change first.

They understand that shifting their own patterns creates space for new possibilities.

Your relationship isn’t broken beyond repair. You just need new tools and a different approach.

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09/19/2025

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The hardest part about choosing your spouse over your mother isn’t the choice itself - it’s breaking the invisible contract you signed as a child that said you’d always put family first.
But here’s what that contract didn’t tell you: it was never meant to last forever.

Healthy families raise children to leave. They celebrate when their kids create new families. They step back gracefully and let the next generation lead their own lives.

Unhealthy families? They keep their adult children trapped in childhood roles, demanding loyalty that destroys marriages.
Your mother may have given you life, but your spouse chose to build a life WITH you. That choice deserves protection.

When you stand up to your mother for the first time, it feels like betrayal. But you’re not betraying her - you’re finally honoring the adult relationship you chose to create.

Your children are watching how you handle this. They’re learning whether marriage is sacred or if it comes second to extended family drama.

The family you create with your spouse is your primary responsibility now. Everything else, including your relationship with your mother, is secondary.

This doesn’t mean you stop loving her. It means you love her as an adult, with boundaries, instead of as a child seeking approval.

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09/17/2025

Your body knows you’re triggered before your mind catches up. These four responses - fight, flight, freeze, fawn - aren’t personality flaws. They’re survival strategies your nervous system learned in childhood to keep you safe.

The problem is what worked then is sabotaging your relationship now. But here’s what makes it worse: these responses create a vicious cycle that escalates every fight.

When you attack, your partner shuts down. When you shut down, your partner attacks harder. When you freeze, your partner feels ignored and gets louder. When you people-please, your partner loses respect and pushes further.

You’re both trapped in a dance where each person’s protective response triggers the other’s trauma.

Understanding YOUR primary response and your partner’s is the first step to breaking this cycle.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about awareness. The moment you notice your nervous system activating, you have a choice. You can follow the old pattern or pause and choose a healthier response.

Your partner isn’t the enemy. They’re just accidentally triggering your old wounds while you’re triggering theirs. When you both learn to regulate your nervous systems, everything in your relationship changes.

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09/15/2025

Most couples think good communication means talking better. Wrong.

It means listening deeper.

Your partner doesn’t need another person trying to fix them. They need someone brave enough to witness their truth without making it about themselves.

When you learn to listen beneath the words - to hear the fear behind the anger, the hurt behind the criticism - everything changes. Your partner stops fighting to be heard and starts trusting you with their most vulnerable parts.

This isn’t about agreeing with everything they say. It’s about understanding their emotional reality so completely that they feel safe enough to be real with you.

The couples who master this don’t just communicate better - they create emotional safety that heals old wounds and builds unshakeable intimacy.

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