01/06/2026
I want to guide you through a short exploration.
Bring to mind a time you said yes when you really wanted to say no.
You can close your eyes if that feels good.
Notice what happens in your body.
Do you feel tight or hot?
Does your jaw clench or your shoulders subtly rise?
Maybe there’s a sinking in your belly… or a heaviness through your chest.
Now notice what happens after you say yes.
What stories show up?
Maybe something like:
“Ugh, why did you do that again?”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“Why can’t you just say no?”
(And maybe it’s different for you, just notice without judgement)
Now take a slow breath in through your nose…
and a long exhale out through your mouth.
Take another.
And if it feels right, say this out loud:
“This is people-pleasing.
This is what people-pleasing feels like in my body.
And it’s okay to let it go now.”
Just acknowledging it brings awareness.
And here’s the important part…
this pattern isn’t a flaw.
It’s a very clever protective mechanism.
Have you ever heard of fawning?
Fawning is a nervous system response where we appease, accommodate, or abandon ourselves in order to feel safe, connected, or accepted.
And for many of us, it started early.
On January 18, we’re exploring this in person.
In our SubSoma Series: People-Pleasing, we’ll look at:
• how the nervous system drives people-pleasing
• why “just say no” doesn’t work
• what fawning actually looks and feels like in the body
• and how to gently rewrite these subconscious patterns
Through SIT and SoulFlow™️, we’ll give the body space to move, discharge, and integrate so you’re not just understanding people-pleasing… you’re changing your relationship to it.
If this exploration landed, your body already knows this work is for you.
January 18 • In person
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We’d love to have you in the room.
With care,
Kristi & Daisy
