Ilera Psychological Services

Ilera Psychological Services I am a caring, and nonjudgmental psychotherapist.

✨ NEW WEEK, NEW REMINDER✨It’s easy to slip into patterns that feel comforting but keep us stuck, avoiding people, ignori...
09/22/2025

✨ NEW WEEK, NEW REMINDER✨

It’s easy to slip into patterns that feel comforting but keep us stuck, avoiding people, ignoring emotions, or numbing out with distractions. They may provide short-term relief, but in the long run, they silence your needs.

This week, choose differently. 🌱
✔️ Open up, even if it’s just to one person.
✔️ Name your feelings instead of burying them.
✔️ Give your mind the chance to breathe through mindfulness.
✔️ And remember, talking to a therapist isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom.

Your wellbeing deserves consistent care, not silence. 💜

👉🏽 What’s one small step you’ll take this week to care for your mental health?

✨ MENTAL HEALTH CHECK-IN ✨Your mood tells a story, even when your words don’t.This weekend, pause for a moment and ask y...
09/20/2025

✨ MENTAL HEALTH CHECK-IN ✨

Your mood tells a story, even when your words don’t.
This weekend, pause for a moment and ask yourself where am I emotionally?

Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, numb but still moving, getting lighter, or finally feeling like yourself again, every stage matters. None of these feelings make you weak; they make you human. 💛

Therapy reminds us that emotions aren’t permanent; they shift, they teach, and they signal what needs care. Checking in with yourself regularly can be the first step toward healing and balance.

👉🏽 Which emoji reflects your current mood?

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SU***DE IS NOT ABOUT WEAKNESS.It is about pain that feels too heavy to carry alone.In psychology, we understand su***de ...
09/12/2025

SU***DE IS NOT ABOUT WEAKNESS.
It is about pain that feels too heavy to carry alone.

In psychology, we understand su***de as an attempt to end unbearable suffering, not necessarily life itself. Many people who struggle with suicidal thoughts don’t want to die; they want an escape from the hurt, the loneliness, or the hopelessness that feels endless.

💙 If you’ve ever felt this way, your feelings are valid. You are not broken, you are not beyond help. What you’re experiencing is a sign of deep pain, and pain can be cared for, eased, and healed with the right support.

Healing is not instant. But there is hope in small steps reaching out, talking to someone safe, leaning into therapy, or even just admitting “I’m not okay.” Each step is a light that pushes back the darkness.

You are needed. You are loved. And the world is better with you in it. 🌍✨

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👉🏾 AS A PSYCHOLOGIST, I’VE SEEN HOW OFTEN WE CONFUSE THERAPY WITH HEALING. Therapy language is powerful, it gives us the...
09/11/2025

👉🏾 AS A PSYCHOLOGIST, I’VE SEEN HOW OFTEN WE CONFUSE THERAPY WITH HEALING.

Therapy language is powerful, it gives us the words: boundaries, trauma, toxic, accountability. But the real transformation happens when we take those words and apply them in our daily lives.

🌿 Therapy = the language.
🌱 Healing = the practice.
Together, they create growth.

I had the opportunity to unpack this in my recent SECRETS AND LEGACY feature.

👉 Swipe through and scan the QR on the last slide to read more.

💭 Which one do you find harder: naming your pain or practicing the healing?

SEPTEMBER ISN’T JUST A NEW MONTH, IT’S A RESET.This quarter, success doesn’t have to feel like guilt. Rest doesn’t need ...
09/01/2025

SEPTEMBER ISN’T JUST A NEW MONTH, IT’S A RESET.

This quarter, success doesn’t have to feel like guilt. Rest doesn’t need an apology. Boundaries don’t require an explanation. Healing doesn’t mean you’re broken. And joy? It’s allowed to be yours without question.

✨ What are you choosing differently this third quarter of 2025?

✨ "If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader." – John Quincy ...
08/31/2025

✨ "If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader."

– John Quincy Adams 👏🏾✨

Today, I had the privilege of being part of something truly historic—witnessing the final stretch of Mr. Peter Adeleke’s bold attempt to break the Guinness World Record for the longest leadership session. 🤩✨

It wasn’t just about the hours logged, but about the message behind it: leadership is endurance, vision, and service.

👏🏾✨ Sitting in that room, I was reminded that leadership is not measured only by titles or positions but by the impact we have on others. 🤩✨

Mr. Adeleke’s determination is a testament to the kind of leadership that keeps going when others would stop, that inspires people to gather, listen, and reflect on what it means to lead in today’s world. 👏🏾✨

I left feeling inspired—reminded that leadership is a ripple effect. 🤩✨ One person’s dedication can spark courage, learning, and action in so many others. 👏🏾✨

Congratulations, Mr. Adeleke, on this remarkable achievement and for modeling the very essence of leadership in action. 👏🏾✨

We live in a time where AI can “listen,” “comfort,” and even mimic empathy. But here’s the truth, AI is not human. It do...
08/26/2025

We live in a time where AI can “listen,” “comfort,” and even mimic empathy. But here’s the truth, AI is not human. It doesn’t feel, it doesn’t challenge, and it doesn’t carry the responsibility of real therapeutic care.

Dr. Keith Sakata’s observations remind us that while AI can seem like a safe companion, it can also fuel confusion, delusion, and isolation when it replaces human interaction.

True healing happens in the space where empathy meets accountability, something only a trained professional, rooted in human experience, can provide.

AI can support, but it cannot substitute. Comfort without reality-check can quickly become chaos. And mental health is far too important to leave in the hands of an algorithm.

Which of these emotions have you been brushing aside lately?Every emotion is a messenger, not a nuisance. Ignoring them ...
08/22/2025

Which of these emotions have you been brushing aside lately?

Every emotion is a messenger, not a nuisance. Ignoring them doesn’t erase them, it only delays the healing.

FRIENDS LISTEN. THERAPISTS HELP YOU HEAL.We’ve all heard the phrase “I don’t need therapy, I have my friends.” And yes, ...
08/16/2025

FRIENDS LISTEN. THERAPISTS HELP YOU HEAL.

We’ve all heard the phrase “I don’t need therapy, I have my friends.” And yes, friends are beautiful, necessary, and priceless. They give us comfort, they listen when life feels heavy, and they remind us we’re not alone.

But here’s the truth many don’t want to admit:
Friends are not trained to carry the weight of our trauma. They’re not equipped to untangle years of unspoken pain, or to help us rewire patterns that keep hurting us. And sometimes, unknowingly, friends project their own struggles back onto us.

A therapist is different. Therapy is not just about being heard, it’s about being guided toward healing.

👉 Where a friend might say, “You’ll be fine, don’t think about it,” a therapist helps you ask, “Why does this hurt so deeply, and how do we work through it?”

Your friends can hold your hand, but a therapist can help you heal your heart.
You don’t have to choose one over the other, you need both. One gives you love, the other helps you find lasting peace.

When you are ready to have that conversation, we are right here for you. 💚

BOUNDARIES ARE NOT WALLS; THEY ARE DOORS TO HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIPS.Too often, people mistake boundaries for rejection. ...
08/16/2025

BOUNDARIES ARE NOT WALLS; THEY ARE DOORS TO HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIPS.

Too often, people mistake boundaries for rejection. But the truth is, boundaries are not about shutting people out, they’re about letting the right kind of love and respect in.

Here’s a simple emotional checklist to reflect on 👇🏽

✅ Do I feel drained after every interaction with this person?
If yes, it’s a sign your energy is being overdrawn. Boundaries can restore balance.

✅ Am I constantly saying “yes” when I mean “no”?
That “yes” isn’t kindness, it’s self-abandonment. Boundaries honor both your truth and theirs.

✅ Do I feel guilty for putting myself first?
Remember, protecting your peace is not selfish, it’s necessary. Boundaries make space for you and the relationship to grow.

✅ Am I respected when I express my needs?
Healthy people won’t leave when you set boundaries, they’ll lean in with understanding.

✅ Do I confuse distance with safety?
Walls keep everyone out, but doors boundaries, decide who comes in and how.

THE SOLUTION!
Start small. Say “no” without over-explaining. Express what feels safe and what doesn’t. Protect your time, your emotions, your energy.

Because when boundaries are honored, love becomes freer, friendships become lighter, and relationships, whether family, work, or romantic, they become healthier.

Boundaries don’t push people away. They invite the right people to stay.

HERE’S THE TRUTH, YOUR BRAIN IS A MASTER ARCHIVIST.It stores sights, sounds, smells, and sensations you thought you’d fo...
08/09/2025

HERE’S THE TRUTH, YOUR BRAIN IS A MASTER ARCHIVIST.

It stores sights, sounds, smells, and sensations you thought you’d forgotten. It remembers the way someone’s voice made you feel small. It remembers the smell of the room where you got bad news. It even remembers the little tremor in your chest when you were trying to hold back tears.

And yet… when someone asks, “What’s wrong?” your mouth says, “I’m fine.” Not because you’re lying, but because sometimes there aren’t enough words to explain the weight of what’s stored inside.

That’s why healing isn’t only about talking, It’s also about understanding what your brain has been holding for you. Because until you tend to the silent memories, they’ll keep echoing in your emotions, your body, and even your decisions.

So ask yourself, what is your brain still carrying that your words haven’t yet released?…

The LAST SLIDE has your name boldly written on it. ❤️❤️❤️This is your soft reminder that you are not behind, you’re not ...
08/04/2025

The LAST SLIDE has your name boldly written on it. ❤️❤️❤️

This is your soft reminder that you are not behind, you’re not too late, and you don’t need to have it all figured out. 💯

August is your reset, permission to breathe, heal quietly, start again, and take up space without apology.

Speak softly to yourself. Choose peace over pressure. And remember, progress doesn’t always roar; sometimes, it whispers “keep going.” 💚

Wishing you a BLESSED week. 💃

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