04/06/2026
My daughter said something to me this weekend that I'm still thinking about.
She told me she could feel anger building up and she wanted to figure out a way to get it out before it came out at the wrong person or at the wrong time.
She didn't have a solution. She wasn't even sure what was causing it. She just knew she could feel herself starting to spiral with it and she didn't want to let it get there.
I am so freaking proud of her.
We ended up in a really good conversation about what was triggering it and I kept thinking about how many of us never got that modelled for us. How many of us learned early that anger was either something to keep very quiet about or something that got used against us. Especially as women. You're too much, too emotional or a "bad girl" if you let any of it show. And then we wonder why it feels so confusing to even admit it's there.
And I'll be honest, I'm still figuring this out myself. I'm in my forties and I'm still unlearning the part of me that just wants to bury it and move on. Still catching myself going quiet when I probably shouldn't be.
Was anger something you ever felt like you could actually have or is it still something you're figuring out what to do with?