InShift

01/10/2026

This one’s funny and also very true.

Feelings want the steering wheel.

Healing says, “I hear you...but I’m driving.”

Because if emotions were in charge, we’d be crying at a stoplight, taking a random exit, and saying “what the actual f**k” the whole way.

You can ride along.
You can talk your s**t.
But you are NOT driving.

😂 Annie

01/09/2026

01/09/2026

Understanding the childhood bonds that shape adult relationships
👉 https://bit.ly/yt-bowlbys-attachment-theory

We've updated our most-watched video using Rory's digital avatar to bring you current, evidence-based insight into John Bowlby's attachment theory - one of the most influential concepts in developmental psychology and psychotherapy.

This refreshed session guides you through:
✅ Bowlby's core ideas about the emotional bond between child and caregiver
✅ How secure attachment in childhood impacts adult relationships
✅ The three primary attachment styles identified by Mary Ainsworth
✅ Why attachment is both learned behaviour and a biological survival mechanism
✅ How these early patterns influence trust, connection, and emotional regulation in adulthood

The professional application:
As counsellors, recognising how clients' early attachment experiences mirror their current relational patterns provides invaluable therapeutic insight. This theory underpins entire therapeutic approaches and continues to shape modern practice.

The evolution continues: From Bowlby's original work through Ainsworth's observational studies to the 1980s introduction of disorganised attachment, this theory has grown richer and more nuanced over decades.

Whether you're a student counsellor building your theoretical foundation or a qualified practitioner revisiting core concepts, this updated exploration offers clarity on why attachment theory remains central to understanding human connection.

01/09/2026

Jim Carrey talks about his battle with depression 🔥👉🏼 https://elejrnl.com?p=1272877

01/09/2026

We’re living in a time where roles are often blurred.
Adults overwhelmed by unprocessed emotions.
Children carrying responsibilities they were never meant to hold.

When grown-ups lose access to regulation,
children are quietly asked to step up —
to manage feelings, smooth tension,
or grow up faster than their nervous systems can handle.

This isn’t a moral failing.
It’s a relational one.
A sign of people carrying more than they were meant to carry,
often without enough support.

Children don’t need to be strong for us.
They don’t need to be wise beyond their years.
They need adults who can stay steady,
who can hold emotion without handing it over,
who can lead without leaning.

And adults don’t need perfection.
But they do need places to offload,
to regulate,
to be supported themselves —
so that children don’t become the container
for what adults haven’t had space to process.

That often means adults finding places
to process what they carry,
to regulate their own nervous systems,
and to receive support —
instead of asking children to hold it for them.

When we reclaim our role as the grounded ones,
and our children are freed to stay in theirs,
something essential is restored.

Not control.
Not fault.
But balance.

And then — finally —
everyone can breathe. ❤️

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01/08/2026

Selflovehealer

01/08/2026

A quiet observation worth holding.

Empathy often moves outward first. It listens, accommodates, and makes space. Over time, that outward focus can become so familiar that its cost goes unnoticed.

There are moments when care for others expands faster than care for oneself. When that happens, emotional energy can thin out, not from lack of generosity, but from how often it is extended beyond personal limits.

Noticing this balance — between giving and inner capacity — can be part of understanding how emotional wellbeing is shaped over time.

Educational content only. No therapy relationship is established.

01/08/2026

Ever noticed how a child can “hold it together” all day… then explode at home? It is also relevant for us as adults.

This is one of my favourite ways to explain why that happens — and it’s simple enough to do with a real Coke bottle.

Sit with your child and pass the bottle back and forth.
As you talk about their day, gently shake it each time a stress or trigger comes up. Share your own triggers also.
Noise. Work pressure. Friendship stuff. Trying to behave. Trying not to cry.

Then pause and ask:
“What do you think will happen if I take the top off now?”

That moment matters.

It helps children see that the explosion isn’t about being naughty or out of control — it’s about pressure building with nowhere to go.

From there, you can explore the real question:
How do we take the lid off without an explosion?

We talk about letting the bottle settle first.
Deep breathing.
Quiet time.
Food.
Movement.
Connection.
Time to decompress.

Regulation isn’t about forcing calm.
It’s about releasing pressure safely — a little at a time.

👉 You can find The Coke Bottle Activity linked in the comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

I’d love to know — what “shakes the bottle” most for your child after school?

01/08/2026

So simple, but so true.

One incredible way to take care of yourself is to LIGHTEN your load! Here are 100 ideas of things you can QUIT today—https://ericalayne.co/doless/

01/06/2026

Loving an avoidant teaches lessons you never asked for, but had to learn anyway.

You learn that silence isn’t neutral — it’s information. That mixed signals aren’t confusion, they’re clarity you don’t want to accept yet. That effort that only shows up when you’re halfway out the door isn’t growth, it’s fear of loss. And slowly, painfully, you learn that your needs were never “too much.” They were simply inconvenient to someone who wasn’t ready to meet them.

The hardest lesson is realizing that love alone can’t heal someone else’s wounds. You can be patient, understanding, and endlessly hopeful — and still end up abandoned emotionally. Letting go doesn’t mean you failed. It means you finally stopped betraying yourself to keep the connection alive.