Dragonfly Therapeutics of Calgary

01/10/2026

There are moments in life when the path narrows.

When the light feels far away and the ground beneath you changes.
We don’t choose those moments.

They choose us.
The horses have taught me that the dark isn’t a mistake.
It’s a passage.

A place where the old ways fall away and something truer begins to form. A horse will walk into the dark without panic.

Not because it knows what’s ahead —
but because it trusts what’s guiding it.

So if you find yourself in a season that feels heavy, uncertain, or unfamiliar,
this isn’t a sign you’re lost.

It’s a sign you’re crossing something.
And on the other side of that crossing,
you don’t return the same.

You return clearer.
More honest.
More yourself.

The Way of the Horse isn’t about avoiding the dark.
It’s about learning how to walk through it —
guided, held, and deeply connected to what matters.

12/30/2025

Abusers don’t rely on violence to maintain control.
They rely on loyalty.

Not earned loyalty.
Enforced loyalty.

The kind that’s installed early and reinforced quietly:
Don’t embarrass the family.
Don’t make things worse.
Don’t take sides.
Don’t air private matters.

Loyalty becomes the rule that overrides reality.

In these systems, harm isn’t denied —
it’s managed.

Managed through silence.
Managed through minimising.
Managed through pressure to “be the bigger person.”
Managed through fear of being the one who breaks ranks.

This is why the truth-teller becomes the threat.

Because once someone stops being loyal to the story,
the entire structure destabilises.

Enablers aren’t protecting the abuser.
They’re protecting the system that protects them —
the roles, the belonging, the moral cover.

Loyalty keeps their hands clean.
Silence keeps their conscience intact.
Distance keeps them from having to choose.

And when you leave,
they don’t mourn the relationship.
They panic about exposure.

“You’ve changed.”
“You’re tearing the family apart.”
“You’re unforgiving.”
“You think you’re better than us.”

Those aren’t accusations.
They’re containment strategies.

Because in abusive systems,
loyalty is never about love.
It’s about control without accountability.

Real loyalty can survive truth.
Weaponized loyalty cannot.

That’s why your boundaries feel like betrayal to them.
That’s why your absence feels dangerous.
That’s why your clarity gets punished.

You didn’t abandon them.
You withdrew consent from a system that required your silence to function.

And once you see that,
you stop confusing guilt with wrongdoing.

12/19/2025

Love this

Snakes shed so horses can run.

The Truth of 2025.

This year hasn’t been about speed or spectacle.
It’s been about pressure. About things rubbing where they used to fit.

About realising, slowly and sometimes unwillingly, that certain roles, relationships, and ways of being just don’t work anymore.

Snake years turn you inward.
They make you less tolerant of noise.
Less willing to over-explain.
Less interested in carrying things that were never really yours to begin with.

Shedding isn’t pretty.
It can be uncomfortable. Lonely. Irritating in a way you can’t quite name.
But it’s exact. Nothing comes off by accident.

And that matters, because what comes next requires movement.

The Year of the Horse is about momentum. Direction. Freedom.
But horses don’t run well when they’re tight or restricted.
They need space. They need clarity. They need to trust where they’re headed.

So Snake slows you down first.
Not to stall you, but to stop you bolting in the wrong direction.
It teaches discernment before speed.

You don’t move into a Horse year dragging old skins behind you.
You move in lighter.
Clearer.
More honest about where you’re actually willing to go.

So if 2025 has felt confronting, quieter than you expected, or strangely clarifying, you’re not stuck.

You’re shedding.

The work is mostly unseen.
But it’s the reason the horse will be able to run when the time comes.

12/18/2025

Zenda-Lee Williams • Survivor

12/16/2025

Behind every repeat abuser
is an enabler
who tells the victim
to forgive.

they call it grace.
they call it peace.
they call it keeping the family together.

but what they’re really doing
is protecting comfort
over accountability.

forgiveness without change
is permission.

every time the victim is pressured
to stay quiet,
to be understanding,
to move on,

the abuser learns
there are no real consequences.

enablers don’t throw the punches.
they just make sure
the cycle never stops.

and healing doesn’t begin
until the silence ends
and accountability finally starts.

12/07/2025

✨ There comes a moment where the soul simply refuses to carry one more ounce of old weight.

2025 has been that moment for many of us. Heavy lessons. Strange pauses. That “in-between” feeling where nothing is quite ending, but nothing is quite beginning either. A year of spiritual friction, emotional clutter, and inner truths trying to surface.

And then the message starts to appear from everywhere:
Shed. Let go. Release. Make space.

🌿 Shedding is not gentle.
It is uncomfortable.
It is raw.
It is the phase where the old identity loosens and the new one has not formed yet.
A spiritual moulting.
A soul finally admitting what can’t come any further.

In many traditions, shedding is the precursor to a shift in destiny. The space between cycles. The thinning of old stories and the dissolving of the armour that once kept everything together.

And this time, the timing matters.
2026 is the Year of the Horse in the Chinese zodiac.

🐎 Historically, a Horse year is:
• a breaker of stagnation
• a mover of truth
• a catalyst for courage
• a year where intuition sharpens
• a year where buried feelings rise
• a year of doors opening in quick, bold ways

Horse years pull life forward. They untangle knots. They refuse to entertain anything that drains spirit or slows momentum. They are known for clarity after long periods of confusion.

To step into that energy, the shedding becomes essential.
You cannot carry the emotional debris of 2025 into a cycle built for movement.
A new year asks for a new skin.

🔥 Shedding becomes:

Releasing resentment.
Letting guilt dissolve.
Retiring survival habits that no longer match your season.
Allowing old versions of the self to fall away without ceremony.

When something leaves, something else can enter.
That is the ancient rhythm of renewal.

2026 is not asking for perfection.
It is asking for space.
For honesty.
For a willingness to loosen what never truly fit.

🌙 The shedding is the doorway.
The Horse year is the stride through it.

Everything begins the moment the weight drops.

12/06/2025

💯

- Zenda-Lee Williams
- Survivor
⚠️ This is my experience. Those people didn’t directly harm me but they hurt me terribly in other ways. So much trust was broken.

11/26/2025

Economic abuse isn’t talked about enough.
It happens when an abuser controls a survivor’s access to money, work, transportation, or basic resources — keeping them dependent and unable to leave safely.
No one deserves to live under financial control.

11/26/2025

She didn’t abandon the family —
the family abandoned her truth.
If you had to walk away to survive, we see you.