Sacred Hearts Wellness

01/19/2026

A beautiful sharing about grief and our nervous system 💗🙏

Grief has a profound, whole-body effect on the nervous system—not just emotionally, but neurologically, hormonally, and physically.
Here’s what’s happening beneath the surface:

🧠 Grief & the Nervous System
Grief is perceived as a threat and a loss of safety.
The nervous system doesn’t differentiate between emotional loss and physical danger. To the body, loss = danger.

🔥 Survival Activation (Fight / Flight / Freeze)
Grief often pushes the nervous system into chronic survival mode:
Fight / Flight: anxiety, restlessness, racing thoughts, panic, irritability
Freeze / Shutdown: numbness, heaviness, fatigue, dissociation, depression
Fluctuation between states: feeling “okay” one moment and overwhelmed the next
This happens because the sympathetic nervous system stays activated while the parasympathetic system struggles to fully engage.

🫀 Vagus Nerve & Safety
Grief can dampen vagal tone, meaning:
Reduced ability to self-soothe
Shallow breathing
Digestive changes
Tight chest or throat
Difficulty feeling connected or present
This is why grief often feels like a weight in the chest or a lump in the throat—these are vagal responses.

🧬 Memory Stored in the Body
Grief isn’t just held in the mind—it’s stored in the tissues and nervous system:
The body remembers attachment
The spine often holds grief as protective tension
The nervous system braces against more loss
If grief isn’t safely processed, the body may stay in a state of anticipatory guarding, always preparing for the next heartbreak.

🌀 Why Grief Comes in Waves
Grief moves in waves because the nervous system can only process small doses at a time. Regulation → overwhelm → rest → repeat
This is not regression—it’s intelligent pacing by the nervous system.

🤍 What the Nervous System Needs During Grief
Not fixing. Not bypassing. Safety and permission.
Gentle regulation (breath, touch, presence)
Predictability and routine
Being witnessed without being rushed
Allowing rest without guilt

💫 Grief isn’t something to “get over.”
It’s something the nervous system learns to move through when it finally feels safe enough to soften.

01/09/2026

Lately I’ve been reflecting on what belonging really means—and how often we search for it outside of ourselves.

I wrote a blog about letting go of chasing, redefining success, and learning to belong to myself. If you feel different, tired of performing, or quietly craving something more honest and embodied, this might resonate. 💛

What if we allowed ourselves to be so different that we finally belong?Can we imagine what it would be like to live outside of our social conditioning—free to live as empowered, free-thinking individuals? Every day we are told who we need to be in order to be loved and to belong, when in truth, th...

01/07/2026

💗🙌🙌💗💗

01/02/2026

Let yourself receive the love, support, and gifts that come your way 💗💗

A wish for you for the year ahead...

12/28/2025

Hard, vulnerable, scary to do if you aren't used to listening and honoring your inner signals. BUT doing so opens sooo many doors that you might not have even known were closed 💗

'Listen to those inner signals that help you make the right choices—no matter what anyone thinks.'

12/22/2025

I invite you to be mindful of where you place and share your energy this holiday season. 💗💗

Cory Allen

12/16/2025

Can I ask an honest question about grief and the words we offer?

I’ve noticed over the years that “I’m sorry for your loss” can land very differently for different people. Some find comfort in it, while others don’t — even when it’s offered with care.

I’m curious:
How does it land for you?
Are there words or responses that felt more (or less) supportive when you were grieving?

No right or wrong answers — just listening and learning 🤍
Thank you for your insight and sharing!!

12/11/2025

"Feel it to heal it"💗

Admit the pain instead of outrunning it.

Say it plainly: “Nasaktan ako.”
Not as a sign of weakness,
but as an act of truth and courage.

Because the moment you name the pain,
you loosen its grip on your heart.
What you acknowledge begins to soften.
What you face begins to heal.

Real freedom starts when you stop running
and start allowing yourself to feel,
without shame, without apology.

Because healing isn’t about being strong all the time;
it’s about being honest enough to let the heart break
so it can finally begin to mend.

12/07/2025

This Christmas looks different for me. It holds both grief and gratitude, heaviness and light. I’m sharing my heart today in hopes it reminds you that you’re not alone if this season feels hard too. 🤍

Christmas is often wrapped in expectations of joy, gratitude, and togetherness — yet for many of us, it’s also wrapped in loss, longing, and quiet, or not so quiet ache. This is a reflection on what it’s like to carry grief through the holidays. It’s not about fixing the pain or pretending i...

12/03/2025

Let me guess — you have people on your list that are impossible to shop for.

They already have everything… except a little more rest, grounding, and care.

That’s why this season, I’m offering something truly different:

🎁 Gift Certificates — for any of my healing services (Spinal Flow, Cranio, Spiritual Direction, Grief Support)
🌿 One-Day Healing Retreat in the New Year
(2–3 upcoming dates will soon be released to choose from)

This retreat is intentionally small, personal + sacred.

It is limited to 3 participants only — keeping the space quiet, meaningful, and distraction-free.

More space to just be.
More support.
More connection.
More healing that actually stays with you.

You can expect a gentle day of honoring your:

🌀 Body — through 3 restorative Spinal Flow sessions
🍃 Mind — with grounding, self-care and somatic practices
💛 Soul — with heartfelt sharing + space to be truly heard
🥗 Nourishment — including a nourishing lunch designed to care for you from the inside out

And a few whispers from those who’ve felt this space before:

💬 “A beautiful, refreshing reset.”
💬 “I found something I didn’t know I needed.”
💬 “Supported. Safe. Spacious.”

Gifting a retreat pass or gift certificate isn’t another thing.

It’s care in action.

It says, gently and clearly:
“Your well-being matters to me.”
“You deserve to feel good in your body.”

If you’d like to purchase a Gift Certificate, or reserve one of the upcoming Retreat Spots ($175), just hit reply — I’ll handle the details and make it easy.

With warmth,
Lyndell 💛

PS: Spots are limited to 3 for a reason — deep care can’t happen in crowded distraction.

Reserve early, and begin the New Year already feeling held + restored. ✨

With Gratitude,

Lyndell

-Unfortunately, the retreat is not in a warm place like the pic.... however, you will feel relaxed and at peace 😊

12/02/2025

The Holiday season isn't always joyful...for many it's incredibly stressful, lonely, and isolating. Trying to be festive and happy when you aren't can be exhausting. Please know it's 💯 okay if you aren't up to all the "normal" expectations that come with this time of year. If you need a safe space to be REAL, to be heard and accepted please reach out 💗

11/29/2025

Grief can make the familiar look and feel absolutely unfamiliar. Be gentle and patient with yourself and others💗

Your brain tries to make sense of things, but everything feels scrambled. You see people talking, moving, doing normal life, and it all feels slightly off, like you used to know this place but somehow lost the map. Even simple conversations feel confusing, because your heart is too tired to make sense of anything subtle.
You reach for words, but the language for this kind of pain does not exist. You try to explain what is going on inside you, and nothing comes out right. You are standing in the same rooms, looking at the same faces, but it all feels foreign now. You are the one who has changed, and no one else sees it.
The people around you still speak the old language. They say things about moving on, staying strong, closure, healing. They mean well, but their words do not match the world you are living in. You are not standing where they are, and you cannot hear things the way they expect you to.
You do not have to understand any of this right now. There is no right way to do grief. You are learning to live in a world that no longer matches the one you knew, and that takes time. Even if it feels isolating, you are not the only one standing in this foreign place. Others of us are here too, and it will not always feel this confusing or this hard.