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09/04/2025

Imagine a 6-year-old girl, named Lily, skips up to you carrying a piece of paper. She proudly displays to you her work of art on which she has focused her effort for a whole 15 minutes.

You see the black outline of a Disney princess with several colours scribbled here and there. The little girl didn’t colour inside the lines and it appears that she chose to make the princess’s dress dark brown and the shoes mint green - not matching at all.

You say, “Oh! You should try to colour inside the lines. And a brown dress doesn’t really go with that green.”

Imagine a 5-year-old boy, named James, comes home from the first day of school, crying. He explains how the other boys formed friend groups and he felt left out of all of them.

You say, “That’s ok. You are a strong boy. You don’t need friends.”

Imagine a 4-year-old boy, named Stu, throwing a tantrum on the living room floor because his little brother took his toy.

You say, “Stop it! You have to learn to share.”

There is a similar theme in these scenarios: children not getting their needs met.

It comes as a surprise to many people to hear that there are 2 sources of trauma. According to Gabor Maté, a trauma and addictions expert, trauma can result from 1) something happening to you and 2) something that should have happened for you and it didn’t.

The children in these scenarios needed validation, encouragement, to be seen, to be heard, to feel accepted and loved just as they are and how they are feeling. And they didn’t get it. That’s actually traumatic.

To Lily, the princess picture was beautiful. To an adult, it was ugly. But Lily didn’t need you to tell her how to do it better; she needed you to see and validate her efforts.

To James, the pain of being left out is very real. But James didn’t need advice from you on how to stuff the feeling down; he needed his pain acknowledged and validated. He needed an adult to tell him that his feelings make sense because being left out can feel painful, even to adults.

To Stu, that was his favourite toy and ever since his younger brother was born, he feels a great sense of loss - his room, his space, his parents, his toys (and now apparently his feelings). Stu didn’t need you to tell him what lessons he has to learn; he needed you to see how hard this is for him and feel with him.

What the children needed was connection. Connection to a calm, emotionally stable and emotionally available leader. A leader who can help them navigate the world and their emotions and feelings while experiencing psychological and neurophysiological safety.

Why’s that important?

On some level, children know that they absolutely need their caregiver(s) for survival - warmth, shelter, food, drink, clothing, changing wet diapers - so they have to stay part of the family tribe otherwise it means death. Anytime there is any indication from the environment of the potential of being shunned/pushed out/not loved/not accepted, the stress response kicks in to prevent “death”. (Sounds dramatic, but that is the reality.)

The stress response is a good thing if it only happens once in a while - it activates the necessary systems to fight/flee from danger.

If the stress response happens frequently, especially at a young age, “stress” becomes the “normal”/familiar state of being, even into adulthood, meaning you are stuck in the state of stress with all of the harmful effects that go with that - including accelerated aging, brain cell death, declined immune system function, decreased bone density, increased inflammation, and poor metabolism.

If Lily, James, and Stu didn’t get their needs met once or twice, it isn’t a big deal. It becomes a problem when not getting their needs met becomes a pattern. From the pattern, beliefs are formed that shape who they are and how they see themselves and the world. These beliefs will be carried into adulthood and will shape life experiences. They could believe: “I need to be perfect/everything I do needs to be perfect.” “I can only be strong.” “I never need friends/I have to be independent.” “My feelings don’t matter.” “I can’t have what I want.”

The goal when encountering situations like with Lily, James, and Stu is unconditionally love and acceptance. That doesn’t mean that everything is permissible and it’s a free-for-all. It means that no matter what the child does or doesn’t do, he/she still feels loved and accepted. That there is no way to be kicked out of the family tribe.

The subtle messages a child needs from a caregiver through their actions, words, attitudes, and energy are: “You are safe. You are loved. You are accepted. You belong. And that will never change.”

Because when we feel safe, loved, accepted, and have a sense of belonging, we are resilient, calm, competent, confident, healthy, happy people.

How can you give your children that message today?

How can you give your inner child that message today? How can you let her/him know that you will always have unconditional love and acceptance for yourself?

If you are not at peace and feeling ease in your life, chances are you received subtle traumatic messages when you were young. Let me help you find the peace and confidence you crave. Start with a free 30-minute discovery call! thestressexperts.setmore.com

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts

08/21/2025

This week marks the one year anniversary of my sister’s death. She died at the age of 42 from cancer. It was a short journey with cancer, from diagnosis to passing away - only 5 months.

But I never lost hope.

And I still haven’t lost it.

When it comes to illness, “having hope” does NOT strictly mean hoping the ill person survives. It takes different forms. Hope can change and still remain hope.

If you Google “hope” you will get a few definitions:

a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.
grounds for believing that something good may happen.
a feeling of trust.
When my sister was diagnosed with cancer, I hoped for a certain thing to happen: I hoped they were going to say they were wrong.

When she got sicker, I again hoped for a certain thing to happen: I hoped she got better.

When I knew she wouldn’t get better, I hoped that something good may happen: I hoped she would die at peace.

Now that she is gone, I have a feeling of trust: I hope to see her again.

My hope has changed, but I have never lost it.

I believe changing hope is what it means to “stay positive” about a serious or terminal illness. I believe it is about being open to the idea of remission, while also being open to reality - that death is going to happen…for everyone.

If I would have been closed to the idea of the death of my sister, I would have been desperate for her to survive - needing her to cling to life and defy the inevitable, death - an impossible feat. How stressful for both her and me!

And then when she died, I probably would have felt blindsided or even betrayed…in addition to feeling grief. All depleting emotions and therefore very stressful.

Hope, on the other hand, is a renewing emotion. It is a soothing salve on the ugly, raw wound of the devastation of illness.
Hope decreases stress, builds resilience, and allows the hopeful one to hold all possibilities of reality, without clinging or resistance.

Hope allows you to be at peace with what is as you anticipate what might be.

If you or a loved one is experiencing illness, what are you hoping for?

How might you change your hope to more fully encompass the reality of your situation and therefore decrease stress?

If illness is not in your life right now, how might hope serve you in other areas of your life?

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts
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08/07/2025

We all have an inner voice. Sometimes that voice can be hurtful. It can steal our motivation and make it difficult to persevere. Some examples are: “Who do you think you are?” “That’s not going to work out.” “I’m a failure.” “I am a fat loser.”

Many of us mistakenly believe that the Inner Critic is a renegade that needs to be fought, controlled, and silenced.

The “Inner Critic” has a bad reputation. It is seen as the “bad guy” who is mean, who keeps you stuck, holds you back, and picks you apart. While this may be what it looks like on the surface, there is much more going on underneath.
And in order to silence the Inner Critic so you can feel less stressed and accomplish your goals, you have to first understand it.

The first thing to understand is...
READ MORE HERE -> https://thestressexperts.com/blog/silencing-the-inner-critic

07/24/2025

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
-William Shakespeare

This quote is very true when it comes to the topic of emotions.

All of your emotions are neither good nor bad. However, the way you think about your emotions - your beliefs about your emotions - determines whether you see them as “good” or “bad”.

Beliefs can be described as thoughts with strong feelings behind them. You may not even be aware that you have beliefs about emotions.

Why do your beliefs matter?

Because your beliefs affect your experience of emotions, and your experience of emotions affects the level of your stress and the quality of your life.

If you believe that anger is a “bad” emotion, you will try to suppress the angry feelings you have. This can lead to angry outbursts about seemingly little things.

If you believe that showing emotions make you look weak, you will be sure to keep them hidden. This can lead to physical disease, ailments, and/or pain.

If you believe that you must always be happy to be liked, you will stick a smile on your face and keep on going, regardless of how how hard it is to do so. This can lead to feeling inauthentic, alone, and disconnected from others because it seems like no one understands the real you or what you’re going through.

If you believe that emotions are just a result of what happens to you, you are at the mercy of your circumstances and situations in life. You will exhaust yourself by attempting to change your external world and other people in order to make yourself feel better. This is an exercise in futility and it will lead to burnout.

If you believe that emotions are obstacles or distractions from the facts, you will discount important insights and intuitions that your emotions provide. This can lead to diminished decision-making capabilities and poor understanding of your needs.

Where do beliefs come from?

Beliefs are usually formed in childhood, shaped by family, culture, upbringing, and personal experience. For example, children who witness their parents sharing emotions, will often grow up more comfortable with their own emotions. In some cultures, it is customary to hide unpleasant emotions in order to keep the peace, while in others, it is okay to openly share how one feels.

Beliefs may also come from:

Religion - Many religions have specific views on emotions like pride or lust and label them as bad and wrong and something to be punished. This can make followers believe that having these emotions is morally weak or flawed, causing them to deny these feelings rather than understand and manage them.

T.V. and Movies - The media plays a role, too. consider the emotionless tough action hero or the crying damsel in distress, which signals that certain emotions “should” be displayed by some and hidden by others. This might make people believe that some emotions are gender-specific or that vulnerability is only okay for certain people or in specific situations.

Social Media - Social media often focuses on happiness and success while stigmatizing feelings of insecurity or sadness, pushing the narrative that these are signs of weakness or failure. This might make people believe they must always appear happy and successful to be accepted or valued, which can result in hiding “undesirable” emotions.

Societal Norms - Societal norms and peers can also influence which emotions are deemed “acceptable” and which are not, leaving people feeling like they have to conform to the group’s beliefs. This might result in the belief that to “fit in”, certain emotions should be hidden, which takes ongoing effort and can lead to stress, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed.

Reflect:

What do you believe to be true about your emotions?

What are the potential consequences of having certain beliefs on how you feel, behave, and talk to yourself?

Do your beliefs help you or hinder you on your journey to being the best version of yourself?

Beliefs are not carved in stone; they can change! It usually takes a lot of time, perseverance, and consistency to change a belief. But with EFT, we can make it faster and easier! Schedule a free 30 minute discovery call, now, to learn how to erase ‘negative’ beliefs that keep you stuck and build ‘positive’ beliefs that propel you forward. https://thestressexperts.setmore.com/beta

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts
(Adapted and quoted from PositivePsychology.com's Emotional Intelligence course)

07/14/2025

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07/10/2025

I used to think that feeling anxious, overwhelmed, afraid, angry or any other “negative” emotion was simply an unpleasant experience - just something that happens to us humans. And that a “positive” emotion was something that happened when things go well, when the stars aligned.

I thought we had no influence over our emotions.

I was sometimes aware that when I had a negative emotion I didn’t feel the greatest - a pit in my stomach, tightness in my shoulders, a sensation of wanting to curl into a ball in a corner - but I didn’t know anything more than that.

I didn’t know that there are significant changes that take place in my body as a result of my emotions that have some serious health and well-being implications.

Did you know that your first line of defence against viruses, bacteria, and pathogens is a protein found in your saliva - immunoglobulin A (IgA) - and that high IgA means more resistance to respiratory disease and when you experience anger for 5 minutes, IgA drops significantly for 6 hours, leaving you more susceptible to disease! That’s with only 5 minutes of anger! (1)

And did you know, when you experience compassion, IgA levels increase, improving your immunity?

Did you know that with negative emotions such as fear, overwhelm, resentment, guilt and sadness, the stress hormone, cortisol, is secreted, increasing cortisol levels in your system? An elevated level of cortisol is associated with accelerated aging, brain cell death, muscle loss, weight gain, and delayed wound healing. In other words, negative emotions not only negatively impact your mental health, but also your physical health.

And when you experience positive emotions such as appreciation, care, peace, calm, and passion, the vitality hormone, DHEA, is secreted, increasing DHEA level in your system? An elevated level of DHEA is associated with longevity, good health, and improved performance. In other words, positive emotions not only positively impact your mental health, but also your physical health.

Did you know that when you experience negative emotions, your nervous system goes into chaos? The gas pedal and brake pedal of your nervous system stop working together and creates a random speeding up and slowing down of your digestive system, heart rate, breath rate, and blood pressure.

Think of driving your car while randomly pressing on the brake and gas pedals. What happens to the energy/fuel consumption? Goes up - you burn through the energy.

What happens to your car, longterm? Mechanical wear and tear - it breaks down.

What is your ride like? Bumpy, jerky - not fun.

When you experience negative emotions and your nervous system is in chaos, like the car, you burn through your energy, your body breaks down from the wear and tear, and your ride through life is jerky and not fun.

Did you know that when you experience positive emotions, your nervous system is in a state of harmony? The gas pedal and brake pedal work together, gently speeding up and slowing down bodily processes, in a state of coherence.

This state of coherence is the desired state for health, happiness, resilience, and social harmony.

We have the power to create this state of coherence, to use our energy intelligently, to secrete DHEA instead of cortisol, and improve our immunity!

It is the power to choose our emotions! (I didn’t know we could.)

Now, I don’t know about you, but I am pretty good at fooling myself into thinking that I feel relatively positive enough: “I feel fine”, “It is what it is”, “It’s not that big of a deal”.

But this is just lying to myself; I am actually still experiencing negative emotions and my nervous system is still in chaos.

How do I know there’s still chaos?

Because it is measurable!

I have an Inner Balance Sensor with an app on my phone that measures my nervous system and let’s me know how chaotic or coherent it is. With the feedback displayed on my phone as I use the sensor, I learned how it feels to truly be in a state of coherence and not stressing. It also taught me how to get to that state of coherence, on demand, anywhere, anytime.

Having the Inner Balance Sensor has been monumental for the transformative shifts I have experienced in the past few years. With guidance from the app and with practice, I have created more harmony in my nervous system that has translated to less stress, more calm, and a focused mind.

And you can have all this, too!

Get your Inner Balance Sensor here now, and experience less stress and more calm.https://www.heartmath.com/thestressexpertscom

Or give the gift of Inner Balance to your children, friends, or co-workers.

Imagine a world where we had the tools and skills to regulate our emotions, decrease stress, and create peace inside us and around us. Do you want that? Get started now with your Inner Balance Sensor! https://www.heartmath.com/thestressexpertscom

Here’s to conquering stress,

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts

(1) Rein, G., M. Atkinson, and R. McCraty, The physiological and psychological effects of compassion and anger. Journal of Advancement in Medicine, 1995. 8(2): p. 87-105

06/28/2025

My clients come to me because there is something in their lives that they would like to see/have/be different. This is obvious because they wouldn’t be working with me if they had nothing they wanted to change, right?

This problem can be anything really - troubles in relationships, struggling to regulate emotions ie. stuck feeling anxious or guilty, wrestling with self doubt, suffering with symptoms of PTSD, being unable to relax.

Admitting to having “a problem” takes courage!

Getting help with “a problem” takes courage!

The next courageous action to take is to say the magic word…and that word isn’t “please” or “abracadabra”.

The real magic word can be a very challenging word to say and even more challenging to mean when you say it.

That word is “accept”. “ I accept this problem.”

Typically, we can admit that there is a problem… but we often refuse to really accept it.

The acceptance that I am taking about is not about being a doormat and allowing injustice or unfair situations. I’m talking about acceptance of you and your responses to the situation/experiences.

Can you accept your fear of failure? Can you accept that you aren’t where you thought you’d be in your career by this age? Can you accept that you feel like a disappointment? Can you accept that you have emotions?

I tend to think of admitting to “a problem” like recognizing that it exists, as if saying that an object exists…over there. But accepting “a problem” is like holding that object in your hands, feeling the weight of it, noticing it’s temperature, seeing the shape, texture, and details of it, listening to it AND not having any judgement about any of it.

Why do we tend not to "accept”?

Here are some of the things I hear from my clients that tend to get in the way of acceptance:

Acceptance feels like resignation.
Feels like failure.
Feels like I lost.
Feels like losing hope.
Feels like giving up.
Acceptance is a curse word.
If I accept the problem, it means I’m stuck with “the problem”.
If I accept the problem, then I won’t ever be acceptable to others because I am only acceptable if I no longer have “the problem”.
If I accept the problem, it means I’m not doing anything to try to change it.

While these are valid feelings and beliefs, they block us from the “magical” healing power of acceptance.

American psychologist, Carl Rogers said “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

When we are focused on changing, being different than we are and not accepting ourselves until we are different, we cannot change. Without acceptance of where you are at, change isn’t possible.

Acceptance is the real magic word.

If acceptance is a challenge for you and you’re feeling stuck in your “problem”, let me help! Book your free 30-minute discovery call here to learn how I can help create the change you desire. https://thestressexperts.setmore.com/services/s5b801549920417000

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts

06/22/2025

Oprah Magazine wrote about EFT!
When you’re ready to try it for yourself, let me know and we’ll set it up.

06/12/2025

Every once in a while, I get an email from The Daily Wellness with great simple tips to improve wellness. I recently received one that I really resonated with. It made me feel like I’m not crazy, or alone. As I was reading it, I was thinking, “You mean it’s not just me?! Maybe I’m not actually “doing social situations” wrong!?”

I’m thinking that you might resonate with it, too, and benefit from the suggestions, so I am sharing their email with you here. Enjoy!

The Question: “Why do I get so emotionally drained after hanging out with people, even people I like?”

The Response: You're not imagining it, and there's nothing wrong with you. This is something often heard from clients who identify as introverted, emotionally sensitive, or simply very present in their relationships.

Here’s what’s happening: Social interaction requires more than just conversation. Your brain is doing rapid-fire work in the form of reading tone, processing body language, navigating group dynamics, and managing your own emotional responses in real time. Even in relaxed or loving company, your system is still engaged and working hard.

And here’s the part that surprises many people: Even joyful or fulfilling interactions can still leave you feeling wiped out. That doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real or worthwhile, it just means your energy has limits, and it was fully used.

You’re not exhausted because anything went wrong. You’re exhausted because you showed up with your whole self.

One Small Step: Start building in a post-social buffer. Give yourself 10–20 minutes of quiet after any kind of connection, whether it’s a phone call, a meeting, or dinner with friends. No stimulation, no demands. Just space to recalibrate.

Try This:
-Sitting in your car a few minutes before heading inside.
-Taking a short walk around the block or into another room.
-Lying down for a body scan or breathing exercise.

Then say to yourself: “This is me refuelling after connection.” Creating that buffer can help you enjoy your relationships more and recover faster. It’s not avoidance, it’s maintenance. The more you honour your rhythms, the more sustainable the connection becomes.

(Thank you, The Daily Wellness! https://thedailywellness.org/about/)

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts
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05/30/2025

May 2025 has been a very different month for me.

In February, I received an email about an in-person EFT course on May 2-4 that sounded really interesting and I decided I was going to go. Then I saw that it was in Gold Coast, Australia. “Well,” I thought, “I guess I’m not going.”

But then I thought, “Why not? What are my reasons?”

Honestly, I didn’t really have very good reasons. They were: “it’s outside my comfort zone” and “it’s just not what I do”. Staying in my comfort zone and doing what I always do is safe.

There is nothing inherently “wrong” with staying in your comfort zone and doing what you always do. Actually, it is important to feel safe. When we feel safe, our nervous system calms down and balances and our stress decreases. When we go outside the comfort zone - by trying something we haven’t done before or haven’t mastered - it feels unsafe. Without effective stress management skills, our stress level can become unmanageable and our only way to deal with stress is to retreat back into our comfort zone.

When you have the tools to effectively manage stress, you can stay outside your comfort zone while regulating your nervous system so you feel safe and your zone of comfort expands.

A while back, I heard someone say, “You can’t be too careful.” I disagree. You definitely can be too careful. So careful, in fact, that you don’t try, you don’t grow, you don’t live. Then, what’s the point of even being on this earth?

Also, when we stop approaching the edges or boundaries of our comfort zone, the zone will start getting smaller.

For example, if you find it stressful to drive in a large city - that would be outside your comfort zone - you may stop driving in cities to keep your stress low - to stay inside your comfort zone and stress levels low.

However, what happens is that your comfort zone gets even smaller. Because you don’t practice driving in large cities, you may start to get stressed driving in small cities or even towns. Eventually, in order to feel safe and less stressed, you may choose to not drive at all. But, really, this leads to more stress because now you are stuck at home and need to organize other transportation when your have to go somewhere.

And your zone of comfort gets smaller and smaller.

While staying within your comfort zone keeps you safe and less stressed (in the short term), it also keeps you small and stuck.

And I have had my fair share of feeling stuck. It was time to stretch my comfort zone and up-level my stress management skills! (Yes, even though I teach the skills, I still have to hone them myself to continue to grow!)

So, I booked tickets to the course and I booked my flights.

If I was going half way around the world, I was going to spend significant time there - I planned 26 days.

Before I left, I explored what was in that area to see and do - sightseeing, guided tours, rainforests, horseback riding, snorkelling, ebike rentals, scuba diving, sand tobogganing, ATV tours, whale watching, surfing…a lot.

Then I saw it. Skydiving.

“Yikes! I can’t do that.”

“Why not?”

On May 6, using my stress management tools, I jumped (actually, I was pushed) out of a fully functional airplane from 11 000 feet above the coastal water. It was terrifying at first. Then incredibly awesome! 6 minutes later, Phil, my skydiving partner, skillfully landed us on the Coolangatta Beach.

Safe.

And my comfort zone expanded.

And it got further expanded throughout many other aspects of the trip, including driving on the other side of the car, on the opposite side of the road! (Did you know that the blinkers and the wipers are flipped, too?! My wipers were going at almost every turn I made. LOL. Thankfully the pedals are the same as here in Canada.)

Is it time to expand your comfort zone and live more?

Do you have the tools to effectively manage the stress as you expand? Get them, starting with a free 30-minute discovery call with me. Book it now, here. https://thestressexperts.setmore.com/services/s5b801549920417000

PS. Here is the VIDEO of my skydiving experience!!
https://youtu.be/gE_HMoqsqqk

Here’s to conquering stress,

With heart,

Louise

The Stress Experts
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05/08/2025

I am in Gold Coast, Australia as I write this. I came here for a 3-day EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)/Tapping course and I am staying for about 3 weeks. The scenery is so much different than Manitoba, Canada!

When I arrived, I got an Uber from the airport to my AirBnB. After I got over the shock of seeing the steering wheel on the wrong side of the car and everyone driving on the wrong side of the road, I started talking with the driver. He was a super friendly guy. Turns out, he also has experience driving in Canada and USA. He started giving me some tips about being in Australia, right on the border of Queensland and New South Wales.

I told him I was thinking of renting a car after my course was finished so I could tour around. He thought that was a great idea. He then proceeded to give me pointers about driving: keep to the left, no turning on a red, wear your seatbelt otherwise the fine is hefty, take your time and in about an hour you’ll be more comfortable with the opposite side of things. He also said that the drivers here are very friendly, patient, and they watch out for each other. He said, “Road rage is not a thing, here.”

I was grateful to hear this. I could just see myself driving half the speed limit and maybe people would understand.

The next day, I got another Uber from my AirBnB to the venue of the course, about a 10-minute drive. This driver was also friendly. He asked me about what I do in Canada. I explained that I help people manage stress. He said, “Oh! We definitely need that here! The drivers have some really bad road rage!”

Which Uber driver was speaking the truth? Are the drivers in that part of Australia patient and courteous, or are they full of rage?

Both! It depends what the driver believes to be true.

See, there is a part in your brain called the reticular activating system. It is responsible for directing your attention.

You may not know it, but your subconscious (below conscious awareness) mind is processing about 11 million bits of information a second. The reticular activating system is filtering that crazy amount of information, “deciding” what bits of information are important to pay attention to, what is most important to you. This important stuff gets brought to the level of your awareness. This deciding is based on what you believe.

Beliefs are different than thoughts. Thoughts are fleeting and change with the context; beliefs are convictions and persistent. They are like your “conclusions” and “rules” about things.

You probably won’t “hear” beliefs in your head like you do your thoughts.

If, near the beginning of his driving career, the first Uber driver saw a couple drivers being nice to another driver, his mind would have made the conclusion (the belief) that drivers are polite. With that belief as the filter in the reticular activating system, he is more likely to be aware of future occasions of courteous driving and not be “aware” of rageful drivers, even if his subconscious mind actually registered these aggressive behaviours. This lack of conscious awareness of this information further reinforces his belief that drivers here are polite. (This is also known as the confirmation bias.)

If, near the beginning of his driving career, the second Uber driver saw a couple aggressive, rude drivers, his mind would have made the conclusion (the belief) that road rage was a problem here. With that belief as the filter, he is more likely to be aware of future occasions of aggressive, impatient driving and not be “aware” of kind acts from drivers, even if his subconscious mind actually registered these polite behaviours. This lack of conscious awareness of this information further reinforces his belief that drivers here struggle with road rage.

Believing is seeing - we only “see” what we pay attention to and typically we only pay attention to what we already believe.

If you believe your spouse never helps out around the house, you won’t be aware of the times he actually does.

If you believe no one likes you, you won’t see the times people reach out to connect with you…because they actually do.

If you believe you fail at everything, you won’t see the times you succeed…because actually you do.

If you believe the world is going to hell in a hand basket, you won’t notice the goodness in the world…because actually there is.

This is really good news! It means that if you want less stress and more positivity and ease, you don’t have to change the world, you only have to change your beliefs about the world, about you, about others, about drivers, about life…and everything will change.

How do you change your beliefs?

Changing your beliefs by yourself requires constant conscious effort to shift your attention to the opposite of your belief. This takes a lot of effort, persistence, commitment, and time.

There is an easier, faster way! One of the reasons EFT is gaining popularity so quickly, is its ability to bust beliefs quickly - even in one session! EFT helps you rewire your brain for positivity, happiness, ease, and abundance.

Try it for yourself! Use this link to book your FREE 30-minute discovery call with me.
https://thestressexperts.setmore.com/services/s5b801549920417000

And I’ll see you when I get back from Australia!!

Here’s to conquering stress.

With heart,

Louise

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