Ellis Counselling Therapy

02/22/2026

01/10/2026

When speaking with an individual recently, they requested I see them and they wished to participate in EMDR therapy again. They had reported they had been provided with this treatment a few years before to address childhood trauma. After interviewing them and discussing various therapeutic approaches which were in my scope of practice ( meaning having had accredited training and supervision and continued education), it was clear that they had not been treated correctly in the manner for which they believed.

Of greatest importance is the installation of coping skills in every modality of therapy. The rational is that once treated, the client can then use these tools going forward and manage to process life events in a more health manner.

Ultimately, life is about learning and amalgamation/processing of the information to grow forward.

12/18/2025

When I think of the human response options, it seems that while we have this amazing consciousness, we still haven’t evolved a higher level of response from other animals. The difference is that we rationalize our sensations using our intellect. We are an amazing piece of equipment.

12/14/2025

Since this is my work FB page it seems timely to remind people that this can be, and is for many, a difficult time of the year. We have the pressures that just don’t go away just because it’s the holidays, and on top of that we may be dealing with the demand of looking like we’re having a magical holiday experience when we just want it over with.
We may find that while we wouldn’t describe ourselves as “down” people, we are actually feeling down. The can be many reasons for this but remember that are days are getting shorter and our systems may be craving light, but everything is saying to hibernate!
It isn’t unusual at all to be honest. Just know, like many other things, keep chugging along as well as you can and try to be a little more forgiving of your feeling.

12/14/2025

We call it a boundary.

12/12/2025

my dream kitchen

12/12/2025

Lmao

12/12/2025

It’s that time of year again. Unexpected road conditions, white-knuckle driving treks, hi stress to what used to be a manageable drive to work. Everyone in front of you is personally trying to you, and the people behind are just lunatics that shouldn’t be on the road!

Over the years, I can honestly say that I’ve been one of each of these people.
At this point in my life I have worked hard to remove unnecessary stress from my life, or at best, restrict the duration of my personal hell.

On Monday we had some snow with winds and on that day I left 30 minutes early for what is normally a 1-hour trip to my work. I was behind someone who was going 40km in a 90km span, of which I tend to go a bit faster anyway! After a while it was apparent that I was going to be late for work. Then I did something that has taken me years to accomplish. I asked myself to consider what that person must be going through. Clearly they were scared, and they obviously would have rather have had the option to just stay home. I recalled m early days of having no choice it to drive to work for fear of losing my job. I suddenly was able to release the tension and just ease back from riding this persons bumper. I gladly took the pressure from what ended up being about 15 cars behind me. It actually felt good to think that I was able to try and help this person get to work with less trauma/drama. Ultimately I benefited regardless, from what has normally been road rage before starting a long day of work.
So, when you have that poor person in front of you, ask yourself, do you honestly believe it’s helping to put pressure on someone that is already clearly highly stressed. It does feel good to change your perspective. Give it a shot some day and see for yourself.

09/25/2025

It’s never just one path. We are never that straight forward, and healing is a journey.