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Spiritual Teacher - Trauma Therapy and the Role of the Nervous System in Healing and Spiritual Awakening - Private and Group Sessions

Fawning carries an implicit message that says, "if I can just make the case for my humanity clearly enough, I will be al...
05/30/2026

Fawning carries an implicit message that says, "if I can just make the case for my humanity clearly enough, I will be allowed to exist as I am.

This Sunday, I will be beginning a six week series of teachings on the Foundations of Healing Trauma. During week 3 I will be teaching about Fight; Flight, Freeze and Fawn.

Trauma healing is a bridge to embodying our true nature of Presence.

Sanctuary for the Heart

Sunday Online Gathering

May 31st, 10 am to 11:30 am PDT

Topic: The Foundations of Healing Trauma - a six week series.

Week one: The Restoration of Safety

The foundation of nervous system healing is the restoration of safety. When we have experienced trauma or chronic stress we lose our sense of safety and default to survival strategies as an alternative to vulnerability. These young survival patterns are well worn pathways in the brain and nervous system and take time to reorganize.

Recording will be available and sent to all who register.

I offer a sliding scale rate for donations. You can also purchase a package of sessions if that is more convenient for you.

If you have any questions please email Candace at candace@candacekirby.ca

I’ve started to notice that my pattern of “being relational” often includes disconnecting from myself.
05/30/2026

I’ve started to notice that my pattern of “being relational” often includes disconnecting from myself.

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The aching discrepancy between what the mind understands and what the body can actually tolerate.

The gap between intellectual understanding of our internal processes and our actual bodily integration is an important one, but it is rarelt talked about.

Marion Woodman captured a universal friction here in this passage from her book 'Bone: Dying Into Life' (2001).

It is entirely possible, even common in deep analysis, for our intellectual insight to skyrocket ahead, while our somatic, physical self lags behind, anchored to the familiar architecture of old defenses.

The mind can shift in a flash of lightning. An insight arrives, a pattern becomes conscious, and we think, “Ah, I see it now. I am therefore free."

But it doesn't happen that fast for the body.

The body does not speak the language of intellect; it speaks the language of regulated tissue, nervous system pathways, and deeply grooved survival strategies that were utilized for years if not decades.

The body is inherently conservative: it holds onto old eating patterns, codependent people-pleasing, or hyper-vigilance because those patterns kept us alive in the past.

Woodman’s final admission- "I know this is true, but I have to keep saying it to myself" feels incredibly validating.
It reminds us that honoring the slow, sometimes frustrating pace of the body is a daily, conscious discipline.

It is an act of deep compassion toward the "Volkswagen chassis" that is doing its absolute best to carry the immense energy of transformation.

Integrating intellectual insights into our lived, bodily reality requires a fundamental shift in how we relate to knowledge.
An insight is merely a map; integration is walking the actual path and terrain.
If the intellect has run far ahead of the body, the path down into the cells cannot be forced through more thinking.
It happens through slow, deliberate somatic choices.

Marion continues:

"I am trying to be as faithful as possible to my own evolving process. Sometimes my process is radically out of balance—my spiritual knowing is far beyond my body’s capacity to incarnate it.

Body is much slower to give up the past—old fears of not pleasing others, old eating patterns, old patterns of relationship.
I have a Jaguar engine in a Volkswagen chassis.

The images that come from my spiritual womb hold the energy that can destroy or heal.

They hold the transformative power that connects body, soul, and spirit. Internalizing the images, breathing, dancing, writing them into my body, giving them time to radiate my cells with new energy—that is healing.
I know this is true, but I have to keep saying it to myself."

— Marion Woodman, "Bone: Dying Into Life" (2001)

I spent most of my life believing I would not survive without subduing the survival energies in my physiology.  Many of ...
05/30/2026

I spent most of my life believing I would not survive without subduing the survival energies in my physiology. Many of my spiritual practices encouraged this. Healing at the level of the survival system is about relationship not dominance.

What so many of us don’t realize when we are “working with” our survival system is that we are coming into relationship ...
05/30/2026

What so many of us don’t realize when we are “working with” our survival system is that we are coming into relationship with a living breathing being. It’s not something to be controlled or dominated for the purposes of the personal identity but rather a frightened living being whose trust must be earned.

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A great distinction I make in trauma healing work is that we’re not seeking, we’re arriving, over and over again, and ge...
05/29/2026

A great distinction I make in trauma healing work is that we’re not seeking, we’re arriving, over and over again, and gently supporting the body to come into alignment with what is.

What is happening in the body is often experienced as proof of our alienation from God.  What if just for a moment it co...
05/29/2026

What is happening in the body is often experienced as proof of our alienation from God. What if just for a moment it could be experienced as an expression of God no matter how impossible that might seem. That very thing you’ve been trying to push away might be the sweetest and most sincere expression of your being.

Whatever is gained through practice will eventually have to be given up.  True practice is an orientation towards what i...
05/29/2026

Whatever is gained through practice will eventually have to be given up. True practice is an orientation towards what is already here while gently supporting the body to come into greater alignment with that truth. The simple truth of right now.

Photo courtesy of Richard Purple

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