Heather Rieder - Life Coach

10/26/2021

I don't know about you, but when I'm a wee bit under the weather, I lay in bed and "surf" the face and the gram.

And I think.

And me thinks that there's three things that everyone needs to remember:

Don't let a black cat cross your path
Always wear clean underwear
And good things come in three's

Also.....support others.

So today, because three amazing people have started three amazing business's...I am going to share and promote them here on my site. (I might be a big deal....well, I do make a mean cookie! That counts, right?)

So why not get curious, check these pages out, and pass on the support! You might find a service here that you can benefit from.

Anyway let's start with Jason Nilles.
Jason has a new side hustle. Still in the secrecy stage (his words) so you need to follow along to be in the loop and get to the prize.

https://www.facebook.com/KnowItAllsKnow

Chelsea Raine Grisack has opened up her own Reiki Studio. All work and no play....you know how that goes. Let Chelsea work on balancing your chakras and bring new energy and healing to your body.

https://www.allthefeelsreiki.com

And last but by no means least I bring you Roxanna Sabir. Roxanne has created Business in a Box. What's not in the box? Fear. Roxanne will guide you with everything you need to know and do in order to keep your dream business from becoming a nightmare. (see what I did right there? hehe!)

Roxanna@Abbotsfordlawyers.com

Now scoot!

Be well
Heather Rieder
xx

06/03/2020

In a quest to shine a loving light on the present state of our world, the heart and soul of a grandmother is the same in all colors.

Hope you can take the time to read and appreciate this article.

You can find more reading like this on
www.realblackgrandmothers.com

https://crosscut.com/2020/01/seattle-grandmothers-raising-kids-have-rely-each-other?mc_cid=9a78d7211a&mc_eid=5d8e8b897b

For kinship caregivers raising another family member's children, state support lags behind assistance for foster parents.

05/05/2020

I was challenged to post 10 of my favorite album covers, 10 days in a row. (thanks Hance!)

And I'm sure many of you have seen this circulating around here on facebook. (anyone who is friends with my hubby will have seen his favorites!)

However, I'm going to put my own spin on this, well.....because I'm the type that doesn't like to always do things status quo....AND because I can honestly say that I have NEVER owned my own album...until about 10 years ago when Joe and I bought an LP playing unit and we skittered into the city to a vintage LP store and purchased a couple of oldies.

Growing up we owned one of those console record players that were common in that time. My mom played her '78's on there from time to time.

Three channels on the black and white telly and the only music I was exposed to before I was a teenager, was Tommy Hunter, Don Messer, and Lawrence Welk.....yikes!

And then.....The Beatles arrived on The Ed Sullivan Show!

Girls were screaming and fainting and I was glued to the set. I was only 6 years old at the time, so I was more enthralled with these crazy teens than I was with the music.....however.....that music somehow got into my heart. And as I aged, my interest became piqued by Elvis and the Herman's Hermit's and The Supreme's....all regulars on that Sunday night staple called The Ed Sullivan Show.

When I was about 12 or 13, my older sister came home with what I recall as being two albums.

Carol King Tapestry and The Best of The Guess Who.

Sadly, there was no needle in our old music box.

I don't quite know how I figured it out, but I got a stick pin and I discovered if I manually moved the turntable and held the pin in the groove....as it turned, I could hear the music!

Believe it or not....I learned all the words to both of those albums by leaning my ear down inside that pop up lid on the record player and physically turning those LP's.

You can ask Joe.....I know every word!

And then.....along came the 8 track player.

By then I had my own money and a boyfriend with a Craig Powerplay 8 track player in his Gremlin. (he's my husband now!)

It was obvious to purchase my music on 8 track cassette.

So you see, I have never actually owned a Album.

But.....music is a major staple of my life.

In the car, in the house, while I exercise, while I clean house, while I create......it is with me in good times and bad.

I love a diverse variety of tunes....depending on my mood.

So I won't be sharing my favorite Album covers, but I will tell you my top 10 albums that I have sung my face off to over my many years. They all bring back special memories....and so Hance...thanks for the memories!

Carol King Tapestry.....duh!
The Best of The Guess Who
April Wine Greatest Hits
Rod Stewart A Night on the Town
Little River Band Greatest Hits
Meatloaf Bat out of Hell
Sade Greatest Hits
Fleetwood Mac Rumours
Donna Summer Album...not sure of the title
Carpenter's Greatest Hits

I love music

And these are mostly my first loves.

But they will be my forever loves.

And if the music is good....you dance!

Hxxther

04/01/2020

MONKEY MIND

According to Buddhist principles, the “monkey mind” is a term that refers to being unsettled, restless, or confused. ... It is also the part of your brain that becomes easily distracted, so if you want to get anything done in life, your challenge will be to shut down the monkey mind.

Let me back this up a bit.....

10 days ago my daughter woke up not feeling good.

She was achy and had a bit of a cough.

It was a Saturday.

She stayed in bed for the weekend and as per the protocol for work (she is a public health nurse with Fraser Valley Health) she stayed home on Monday.

She was feeling better, so phoned her manager to inquire about the process of returning to her job. She needed to get the "okay" from her doc.

He said that she would have to be tested for COVID.

I truly believed that it would come back negative, because her symptoms seemed fairly mild.

SURPRISE......POSITIVE!

Not only that, I was now experiencing chills and a very dry throat.

I am not required to get tested as the healthcare system cannot handle that much testing and it is assumed that I probably have COVID as well.

Seven of us live under one roof, so my husband Joe had to come home from his construction job, Jessie's husband Steve was already off from his job and the three kids were already home from school and daycare.

Aside from Jessie and Joe still working, we were all abiding by the STAY AT HOME UNLESS NECESSARY rules of conduct.

Now....we are under quarantine for two weeks.

No big deal.....small price to pay.

All of us here have expressed how grateful we are that our physical symptoms....Jessie and mine....are fairly mild.

We see the pictures of people hooked up to ventilators.

We are watching the numbers on the news increase daily.

We mourn for those that can't hold the hand of their loved ones as they slip away.

We have all read stories from the front lines....some of us read more than others.

I personally watch the news very little and read very little on social media.

It's because of my monkey mind.

However, right now that monkey has ingested some effing badass steroids and is now King effing Kong.

We have seen and heard the physical effects of COVID.

But the mental effects are overwhelming and at times....like for me last night...almost unbearable.

So I write....

It helps....

This as***le of a virus is tricky.

The symptoms ebb and flow.

I wake up feeling like it's over.....the beast has lost this fight!

And then it sneaks into my muscles and takes a foothold in my mind.

Last night I could feel a new simmering in my chest....

Would I wake up unable to breathe clearly?

Would I wake up?

Are the kids going to get it from me...even though we do what we can?

Is my son and his family safe in Alberta?

Will I see them again?

Damn it!

I tested my lung capacity many times before I succumbed and popped 2 Tylenol with codeine.

It was still 3 am before my mind allowed me to sleep....although I could still sense an awakeness in my slumber.

Jessie was finished her 10 day quarantine....the rest of us are required 2 weeks.....so she headed back to work this morning.

She was back home within the time it took to drive there, figure out she was having another dance with the devil....and drive back home.

Again....we are so grateful that our symptoms are mild in the big scheme of things.

We are grateful that no one else in the house is showing symptoms.

And we are awakened to so many other things in our lives to be grateful for.

I thank you for letting me vent...it helps.

I ask you to PLEASE stay home where you are safe.

I ask you to PLEASE stay home where you are helping to keep others safe.

I feel so blessed to be a Canadian...

"with glowing hearts we see thee rise..."

I am going to rise and live through COVID.....I'm sure of this.

I want you to live through COVID.....

Gosh....I can feel a swell of tears....lack of sleep and this effing monkey on my mind is a nasty bitch.

***excuse my language, but this release of anger feels good too!

One more time for good measure....

PLEASE....STAY HOME.

With massive amounts of love,

I'll see you when I see you...sooner if we all stay home! ;)

Hxxther
❤️🙏

03/18/2020

It's a beautiful morning....isn't it?

I see a sky reminiscent of a robin's egg, you know, that soft turquoise hue.

The plants are in bud, waking up and preparing to share their fruits and glory.

Crispy air greets us in the morning, but warms by the time the sun is fully awake.

Are you gettin' what I'm givin"?

I know that life is chaotic and full of mystery right now....

And many of you are probably internalizing your fears, trying desperately not to break.

And being "socially distanced" feels lonely.....like a prison even.

But there are ways to get through this.

As Einstein quotes....we need to embrace each other and widen our circle to embrace all living beings.

How do we do that when we have physical boundaries and restrictions in place?

May I make a couple of suggestions?.....
....tools in my repertoire to help me get through my moments of doubt and fear?

Start with gratitude....duh! Hehe. I know you've heard it before, but if you haven't put this into practice, maybe now is a good time to start.

Another pretty powerful strategy is to meditate, or be still, or take a moment.....whatever you want to label it, AND start blessing and sending love to humans, animals, plants, food, situations, governments, anything and everything!

THIS WILL REBOUND BACK TO YOU AND GIVE YOU PEACE AND LOVE AND HOPE.

I PROMISE....(this is a money back guarantee!) 😉

We are a collective whole.

If that wasn't evident before, well.....now it is crystal clear.

Devise your own practice and do it....cuz what the hell else are you doing right now?

And on that note.....

Read a book

Get into the garden

Bake a loaf of bread.....and eat it warm with butter!

Move your body

Talk to a friend....on the phone only of course!

Love yourself

And love your neighbor by making sure that others are well too.

I am centered in a place that is absent of fear right now, and I believe it is due to my daily practice. (along with making my bed every morning! 😆)

This is an opportunity.

Be creative, resourceful, loving and whole.

Namaste....I'm rooting for us....Many blessings to you....May the force be with you!

Much love
Hxxther

ps. wash yo digits!!

03/16/2020

Sigh.....

I have been pretty quiet on here for quite some time now.

Listening to the stirring in my belly has always been important to me, so I have leaned back into a hushed place in order to receive clues and clarity on my life moving forward.

Change is constant.

And it can be scary.

Because we love to control as much as we can.

That's why this evil monster of a pandemic has got people acting out in fear.

The have turned on the dreaded "WHAT IF" button in their brain.

BREATHE

When we feel anxious, we typically hold our breath.

So take some moments in your life to be still and BREATHE.

Exercise will ignite breath....

As will singing and dancing and making love.

I will share with you the coaching philosophy that is the cornerstone of the coaching model that I am trained in.

"People are, by their very nature, CREATIVE, RESOURCEFUL AND WHOLE. They are capable: capable of finding answers; capable of choosing; capable of taking action; capable of recovering when things don't go as planned; and, especially capable of learning. This capacity is wired into all human beings no matter their circumstances.."

So EVEN IF our present world dilemna is as it is for the time being....and this too shall pass....then you must know that you are CREATIVE, RESOURCEFUL AND WHOLE, and as humans we will rise up with more strength, more wisdom, and more love.

We've collectively got this!!

Have faith....in whatever makes you feel good. Your god, Bill Nye, the universe....but above all, in yourself.

With deep love and an un-wavering belief that

We are gonna be even better than we were!

Hxxther
❤️🙏

ps. wash your hands and keep your distance!!

01/06/2020

It's the 6th of January and some of you may or may not have made some resolutions. I personally do not resolve to adhere to ANYTHING anymore.....as I am a person who tries and faulters and tries again....and it is too much pressure to aim for perfection.

If you have made resolutions and have "started" or if today is your start day (after all, it is Monday and if it t'were me and I was the old me, I would have pushed to Monday....old habits die hard....thankfully those patterns that didn't serve me are d.e.a.d.)

Ahem....back to my point.....

Please.....be kind with yourself.

Be thoughtful about what's REALLY important to you.

Be realistic.

Be kind with yourself.

I know....I already said it, but it's worth saying again.

Whether this is a repeat journey that you've strived for before....or a new adventure.

I want your heart to sing and your every wish to come true.

Happy New Year and Happy New Decade!

Hxxther

11/25/2019

In a world so focused on the visual.

On how we appear on the outside.

Our Insta posts.

Face-book.....sounds a little superficial don't you think?

If you are worrying right now about how you "look" for the holiday season....

Your body

Your face

Your house

My suggestion?

Focus on your actions.....

Your kindness

Your caring

Your forgiving

Then....then, your beauty will be seen.

Hxxther

11/18/2019

What if......

What if this was your new mantra?

What if you realized that you get to decide?

What if you knew that you were allowed to walk away?

What if you awakened to the fact that you deserve more?

And what if you grasped the fact that you could probably eliminate a huge portion of the s**t storm by controlling how you treat yourself.

It starts at home....your home.

Teach people how to treat you and lead by example.

Be kind to yourself.

Hxxther

11/13/2019

Be the "kinda" person that you wish others to be.

In honor of world kindess day

Do something kind

I love you

Hxxther

11/08/2019

My name is Heather and I have a book addiction.....but I’m not mad about it. This story of this woman’s life is so alarming that I thought it was fiction. Not so...have a read...you won’t be disappointed.

11/04/2019

So I had a heart attack just over 10 years ago.....

blah, blah, blah

Shocked at my cavalier attitude?

It's how I keep living a full life.

Do I do the best I can to make decisions that contribute to my overall health and well-being?

Yup!

And that includes my thoughts.

A week post heart attack my doc told me to forget it ever happened (it was a rare type of cardiac incident that was not lifestyle related).

So I told myself then.....

And I tell myself now......

That if it's actually going to happen, it is out of my control anyway.

Que sera, sera.

What will be, will be.

I will not shut down my life and live in fear.

I had bad, bad anxiety for years leading up to that health occurrence.

I WAS living in fear......every damn day!

This heart experience helped my anxiety in a huge way!

I have applied this strategy to all parts of my life.

And that monkey mind that I suffered with?......

Pretty much gone.

And if those little s**theads show up....

I know exactly how to show them the door!

So let me repeat the message.....

"If it's out of your hands it deserves freedom from your mind too"

I truly hope this can support anyone that struggles like I did.

Every little bit helps.....right?

With peace and love

Hxxther

10/28/2019

My writing is really just a "sharing" of my thoughts.....

And there's a s**tload of thoughts constantly percolating around in this noggin.

Although, I must admit that as I am increasing my time here on earth, my "don't give a crap" game is getting strong. 💪

This empties out a lot of the nonsense real quick!

But this morning as I was mulling over some changes that I was considering, it dawned on me that starting over again, no matter the scope, is kinda uncomfortable for me.

I want the change (or at least in the moment I want the change until that change becomes unmanageable or undesirable) because I want the outcome.

But the failures along the way.....

Well if it's something I really want....it feels like a failure.

And if it was only a "hey, I'm gonna try this cool thing just to see what it's like" moment....like wearing your hair in a bee hive style, then we can choose to not call it a failure but a whim!

So....what's your freakin' point Heather?

My point is that this morning I realized that starting something again is UNCOMFORTABLE for me.

Like the big life stuff!

Careers...life style choices....fitness plans...dietary changes...moving....letting go of the old and looking for the new!

And letting go of the safe stuff....even if it doesn't serve me is hard to give up on. hmmpf.

So do a girl a favor....let me know if this holds true for you as well?

I hate to suffer alone!

In the meantime, it is now on my list of things to start working on.

And because I haven't worked on this before....it will not be a start again situation! 😉Just so you know!

Hxxther

10/24/2019

It's a dance sometimes but I think if you could wrap it up into a tiny one word little package it would be KINDNESS.

To yourself and to everyone.

It's a practice.....so don't cheat!

Cuz you know...you're only cheating yourself!

(well known prophecy right there!)

Hxxther

10/21/2019

Cast a vote today....because it matters.

Hxxther

10/09/2019

I subscribe to something called notes from the Universe.

It's a fun little daily ditty....I don't always take the time to read all of them...but today.....a great message for everyone who thinks that happiness comes from "things"

And for those of you manifesting your asses off...keep this in mind!

Go ahead and substitute your name in there for mine!

"Neither a promotion, losing weight, finding a soul mate, writing a book, nor becoming a billionaire, Heather, will ensure happiness.

Because happiness, dear Heather, that's not present at the start of a manifestation will usually not be present at its end.

Après vous,
The Universe"

10/07/2019

Oh Mr. Rogers

You are a wise man!

Thank you!

Hxxther