The Healing Corner: Counselling Hypnotherapy

01/06/2026

HOW TO PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS (Without Being Controlled by Them)

Feelings are not problems to fix.
They are messages to understand.

Most suffering doesn’t come from emotions themselves —
it comes from resisting them, suppressing them, or becoming lost inside them.

Here’s how to process your feelings with awareness, not avoidance:

1. PAUSE
Before reacting, pause.

Take a breath.
Slow your body down.

This pause creates space between what you feel and what you do.
In that space, wisdom can arise.

In Buddhism, this moment of pause is mindfulness —
the ability to see clearly instead of acting blindly.

Not every emotion needs an immediate response.
Some only need your attention.

2. NAME IT
Give the feeling a name.

Anger.
Sadness.
Fear.
Disappointment.
Joy.

Naming an emotion takes away its power to overwhelm you.
What is named becomes observed, not possessed.

You are not “angry.”
Anger is arising within you.

This subtle shift reminds you:
You are the observer, not the emotion.

3. FEEL IT (WITHOUT JUDGMENT)
Sit with the emotion instead of pushing it away.

Don’t label it as good or bad.
Don’t rush to escape it.
Don’t shame yourself for feeling it.

Feelings are like waves —
they rise, peak, and fall if you don’t fight them.

In Buddhist practice, this is equanimity:
allowing what is, without clinging or aversion.

What you resist persists.
What you allow, softens.

4. ASK WHY
Gently explore the root.

What triggered this feeling?
What expectation was unmet?
What attachment was touched?

Often, emotions reveal hidden truths —
unhealed wounds, unmet needs, or false stories we tell ourselves.

This is not about blaming yourself or others.
It’s about understanding.

Awareness turns pain into insight.

5. RELEASE
Once understood, let it move through you.

Breathe deeply.
Write it out.
Speak to someone you trust.
Sit quietly and watch it fade.

Feelings are energy.
If they are not expressed or released, they become stored tension.

Release does not mean forgetting.
It means not carrying unnecessary weight.

6. SHIFT
After release, gently redirect your energy.

Toward calm.
Toward kindness.
Toward something constructive.

Not as an escape —
but as a conscious choice.

This is wisdom in action:
choosing peace over rumination, growth over repetition.

FINAL TRUTH.

Feelings are temporary guests.
They come to teach, not to stay forever.

Suffering begins when you cling.
Freedom begins when you observe, understand, and let go.

You don’t need to control your emotions.
You need to befriend them — and know when to let them leave.

🧘‍♂️ Nothing that arises is meant to be held onto forever.

12/31/2025

A Gentle Wish for Mental Well-Being in 2026

As we step into 2026, I want to offer a simple, heartfelt wish: may this be a year where your mind is treated with the same kindness you so readily offer others.

Mental health isn’t about being positive all the time or having everything figured out. It’s about permission—permission to rest, to feel deeply, to pause without guilt, to ask for help, and to grow at your own pace. It’s about honoring the quiet work you do inside yourself, even when no one else can see it.

In 2026, I hope you allow yourself gentler inner language.
May your voice inside becomes less critical and more compassionate.

May your mind feel safer, your heart feel steadier, and your life feel more spacious—one gentle moment at a time.

With warmth and hope for the year ahead.

Carrie

07/30/2025

Reality VS How People Are Really Doing

Have you ever read what some people post on social media to be the opposite of what’s really going on in their life? Some people wear their heart on their sleeve and have no problem expressing real emotions or posting about problems. With others…you’d think they live a drama-free and problem-free enchanted life. Usually, that’s not the case.

This phenomenon is not exclusive to social media either. Often when you ask how someone is doing, they’ll say things like: "Great! I’m doing fine! Everything is awesome!" Meanwhile, they might be quietly battling depression, struggling with an alcohol addiction, facing chronic physical ailments, or wrestling with money issues. What they project to the world is a facade—an image that doesn’t always match their reality.

This is not only denial but also a reflection of past and present trauma. Our real-life inner world can feel overwhelming at times, and the weight of these struggles may feel too much to bear. There is a deep sense of embarrassment that accompanies these challenges, a feeling of shame for not being able to “handle it” on their own. Because of this, many people choose to present a very different picture to the world—one that is polished, perfect, and free of problems. But this often comes at a cost: emotional isolation.

The real danger of hiding one’s struggles in this way is that, without asking for help or reaching out, these issues go unnoticed and unchecked. Without intervention, the situation can escalate to a breaking point. The signs of inner turmoil may be subtle at first, but they build up. The feelings that one is “too much to handle” can grow louder and more insistent, until eventually, the truth is revealed—often in the form of an emotional breakdown, a health crisis, or even a major life event that forces the person to face their hidden battles. At that point, it's no longer just a quiet struggle—it becomes an emergency situation, with everything at stake. For friends and/or loved ones, it's all hands on deck.

There are always signs when someone is struggling. Sometimes, it's in the way they speak or the little things they say in passing: “I’m just so tired all the time,” “I don’t know if I can keep up with this,” or “I’ve been feeling off lately.” If we pay close attention, we might notice the shifts in their behavior: avoiding social situations, becoming withdrawn, or suddenly isolating themselves or even being overly angry, aggressive or combative. Their body language might shift as well—avoiding eye contact, fidgeting, or tense posture. Sometimes it’s in the way they talk about their day-to-day life: feeling overwhelmed by tasks, avoiding any mention of personal struggles, or putting on a smile when we can sense there’s more beneath the surface.

The key is to ask the right questions—ones that go beyond the surface level. Instead of simply asking, "How are you?" which often elicits the standard, "I’m fine," try asking, “How are you really doing? Is everything okay?” It might take some time and patience to break down the walls someone has built, but showing genuine concern and empathy can help them open up. Sometimes, they might not even know where to start or how to ask for help, but your willingness to listen can be a powerful catalyst for change.

It's important to understand that these struggles don’t have easy solutions, and there’s no quick fix. Supporting someone through their dark times requires compassion, understanding, and sometimes, professional intervention. But by creating an environment where they feel safe enough to be vulnerable, we can help them face their difficulties without fear of judgment.

The truth is that we are all carrying something. No one’s life is free from problems or challenges. The more we acknowledge and accept this, the better we can support each other. Instead of accepting the perfect versions of people we see online, let’s look for the real, messy, beautiful truth. Everyone deserves help, understanding, and the chance to heal—so let’s be the ones who offer it, before it’s too late.

06/17/2025

What are you struggling with?

I find that, lately, clients are approaching me with lots of worry, anxiety and depression as well as grief. Many are uncertain about the world around them and where it's heading. Others are dealing with personal and family issues, toxic relationships and challenges from trauma. There are belief systems like: I'm unlovable, I'm not good enough and feelings of being stuck.

Whatever you're coping with, know that reaching out to someone to talk about it is not only brave but necessary. You're not alone. You Matter.

05/11/2025

Happy Mother's Day to all moms out there. Be it you're a caregiver to human kids or Fur Babies. xo

In today's politically charged environment, let's do a check-in.

How are you feeling?

04/15/2025

Feeling uncertain about the world around you? Our latest blog post dives deep into 'Navigating Being Canadian' amidst political and climate changes. Discover tips and perspectives to help you navigate these complexities. Read more: https://wix.to/8k0LnoD

In recent years, the world has felt increasingly unstable—from political upheaval and economic uncertainty to climate-related disasters and international conflicts. For many Canadians, the emotional ripple effects of this global turmoil are deeply personal. Even though we live in a country often k...

02/03/2025

CANADA STRONG

As we move into 2025, Canadians are facing a challenging landscape both at home and abroad. The global situation is uncertain, and the consequences are being felt right here on Canadian soil. With the looming threat of tariffs from the United States, the escalation of global conflicts, and an ever-changing economic outlook, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Add to that the ongoing stresses from the pandemic and environmental concerns, and the weight of the world can seem unbearable.

Yet, throughout our history, Canadians have shown an unwavering spirit of resilience. From enduring harsh winters to overcoming global financial crises, we have faced adversity head-on and emerged stronger. In the face of the tough times ahead, our collective ability to adapt, persevere, and support one another will be more important than ever.

In this blog post, we’ll explore how we can build our mental resilience and persevere through these trying times, rooted in our Canadian strength and solidarity.

The impending tariffs from the U.S., global instability, and potential economic fallout are huge issues that may feel beyond our control. The global conflicts—wars, trade disruptions, political instability—can create a sense of helplessness as we watch from afar. But one of the most important things to remember is that while we cannot control international politics, we can control our reactions and actions in the face of these challenges.

*Control what you can

Focusing on what’s within your immediate control is a powerful way to regain a sense of agency. This might mean adjusting your personal budget in anticipation of price hikes, seeking professional advice about managing your finances, or keeping a calm mind when reading news that causes anxiety. Even if you can't change the big picture, your response to it is entirely yours. Build resilience by keeping your mental and emotional well-being a priority—maintaining routine, staying connected with loved ones, and taking breaks from the news can help.

*Leverage Our Community

As Canadians, we take pride in our sense of community and mutual support. This time of uncertainty is an opportunity to lean into that spirit, whether through helping your neighbor, supporting local businesses, or advocating for fair policies. During tough economic times, the most vulnerable in society are often the hardest hit. By offering your time or resources to those in need, you can help create a collective wave of support that strengthens the entire community.

Support doesn’t always have to be grand gestures. Small acts of kindness, whether it’s offering a listening ear to a friend or contributing to a food bank, can go a long way in preserving not just your own mental health, but the collective well-being of those around you. Together, we have the power to ride out the storm.

*Prioritize Mental Health in the Face of Uncertainty

The global wars, trade disputes, and geopolitical instability can feel like an ongoing emotional burden. Constant news coverage of conflict, shifting trade policies, and rising tensions can leave you feeling drained. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and give yourself permission to take a step back. While it’s vital to stay informed, it’s equally important to create boundaries around your media consumption to protect your mental health.

Practice self-care by staying grounded in the present moment—whether through mindfulness, journaling, or simply taking a break to enjoy the outdoors (even in the dead of winter). Regularly checking in with yourself and your emotions will help prevent burnout. If you find that the anxiety or stress of global issues is affecting your daily life, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support. Therapy, support groups, or even talking to friends and family can help process these overwhelming feelings.

*Adapt and Be Flexible: Resilience Through Change

Resilience is not about resisting change but rather about adapting to it. Canada, a country often defined by change—whether through fluctuating weather, evolving political landscapes, or shifting economic conditions—has learned time and again that flexibility is key to survival and growth.

With the potential for tariffs affecting trade, inflationary pressures, and shifting global supply chains, we may all need to adjust our expectations and behaviors. The rise of remote work, for example, can be an opportunity for some and a challenge for others. Embrace these shifts by focusing on learning new skills, exploring new ways of connecting, or finding creative ways to keep your business or career moving forward.

Even small changes can make a big difference. Perhaps it’s adjusting how you approach your work, diversifying your income streams, or finding innovative ways to adapt to new circumstances. Embrace resilience by turning change into an opportunity for growth.

*Focus on the Long-Term: Build a Strong Foundation for the Future

It’s easy to become fixated on the daily struggles, but resilience often requires a long-term perspective. While the tariffs and global conflicts may affect us immediately, Canada’s ability to persevere will depend on how we build a sustainable future. This means not only weathering short-term economic impacts but also focusing on the larger picture—creating systems that promote economic, environmental, and social well-being for years to come.

As individuals, this might mean making strategic decisions to invest in long-term goals, like saving for retirement, pursuing further education, or focusing on health and wellness. For Canada as a whole, it’s about advocating for policies that promote sustainability, peace, and fairness in the global arena.

By keeping a long-term vision in mind, we can find motivation to persevere through the tough moments, knowing that our actions today will shape a stronger tomorrow.

*Celebrate the Small Victories and Progress

In times of uncertainty, it’s easy to overlook the small wins. But resilience isn’t just about surviving the big challenges—it’s also about celebrating the everyday victories. These small moments of progress—whether it’s handling a difficult situation with grace, adjusting your budget to accommodate for increased costs, or simply getting through another day—are what keep us moving forward.

In the face of economic turmoil and global unrest, take time to reflect on your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating progress, even in challenging times, reinforces our inner strength and helps us stay connected to the bigger picture of growth and perseverance.

As Canadians, we’ve always faced difficult times with grit and determination. Whether it was rebuilding after natural disasters, navigating economic downturns, or overcoming personal hardships, our collective ability to persevere has been our greatest asset. In 2025, with global uncertainty, economic turbulence, and political strife on the horizon, it’s more important than ever to remember that we are in this together.

By focusing on what we can control, staying connected to our communities, prioritizing mental health, adapting to change, and celebrating our progress, we will continue to show resilience in the face of adversity. It’s not about avoiding challenges—it’s about meeting them with the understanding that we have the strength to overcome, as individuals and as a nation.

Stay strong, Canada. Brighter days will come, and together, we’ll navigate the path ahead.

01/04/2025

Happy New Year; Feeling Overwhelmed?

As we navigate the complexities of 2025, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of global issues that seem to be mounting by the day. Climate change, social inequality, economic uncertainty, and technological advancements are just a few of the many challenges that can leave us feeling anxious, helpless, and uncertain about the future. Let's explore some effective coping strategies to help you manage anxiety and find calm in the midst of chaos.

Recognizing the Impact of Global Issues on Mental Health:

Before we dive into coping strategies, it's essential to acknowledge the significant impact that global issues can have on our mental health. The constant stream of news and social media updates can create a sense of perpetual stress, making it difficult to disconnect and relax. Moreover, the feeling of powerlessness that comes with witnessing global crises can lead to feelings of hopelessness, despair, and anxiety.

Here are some basic coping strategies that I'm sure you already know but they are worthy of a reminder:

*Stay Informed, but Set Boundaries: It's crucial to stay informed about current events, but it's equally important to set boundaries around your news consumption. Limit your exposure to news and social media, and prioritize sources that provide balanced and accurate information. I want to stress the word 'accurate' because there is a TON of disinformation out there.

*Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, or creative pursuits like art. Make time for activities that help you unwind and recharge, like reading, taking a warm bath, or spending time in nature.

*Focus on What You Can Control: Rather than feeling overwhelmed by global issues, focus on what you can control in your own life. Make conscious choices about your daily habits, relationships, and community involvement. If something or someone isn't working for you; it's okay to let it/them go.

*Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with people who share your values and concerns. Join online communities, attend local events, or participate in activism that aligns with your passions. Having a support network can help you feel less isolated and more empowered.

*Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing, yoga, or meditation, can help you stay present and focused on the moment. Regular mindfulness practice can reduce anxiety and increase feelings of calm and clarity.

*Take Action: Channel your anxiety into action by getting involved in causes that matter to you. Volunteer, donate to organizations, or participate in peaceful protests. Taking action can help you feel more empowered and connected to the world around you.

*Reframe Your Thinking: Challenge negative thoughts and reframe them in a more positive or realistic light. Focus on the progress being made, the resilience of humanity, and the opportunities for growth and innovation.

*Prioritize Sleep and Nutrition: Adequate sleep and a balanced diet are essential for maintaining good mental health. Make sure to get enough rest, eat nutritious foods, and stay hydrated to help regulate your mood and energy levels.

*Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety is impacting your daily life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. We can provide you with personalized guidance, support, and coping strategies tailored to your needs.

*Practice Gratitude: Reflect on the things you're grateful for, no matter how small they may seem. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help shift your perspective and cultivate a sense of hope and optimism.

Coping with anxiety in a chaotic world requires a multifaceted approach that incorporates self-care, mindfulness, and action. By recognizing the impact of global issues on our mental health, setting boundaries, and prioritizing our well-being, we can build resilience and find calm in the midst of chaos. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there is hope for a better future. By working together and supporting one another, we can create a more compassionate, equitable, and sustainable world for all.

Taking care of your mental health is essential for navigating the complexities of our world. By prioritizing your well-being and seeking support when needed, you can build resilience and find calm in the midst of chaos.

12/26/2024

One Powerful Message

https://annawharton.substack.com/p/what-would-a-woman-do-to-an-unconscious?fbclid=IwY2xjawHaXs9leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHS1j6lCJQE2YK21Odqx-7Y6EnszfkVBpUN_Xc8zmsYcA0g10HufaSoJjWg_aem_mDjPgsd5GTS5KdijtswEwA

I’ve been thinking about this a lot over the course of the trial of Dominique Pelicot and his fellow accused: what would a woman do to an unconscious man if she thought no-one would find out?

12/07/2024

When Hypnotherapy Is Not Advised

Often I write about different therapeutic techniques and how they can help. That said, techniques that work with your subconscious like hypnotherapy should, under specific circumstances, be avoided as they can be unsafe.

Hypnotherapy can be an effective treatment for various conditions, from stress and anxiety to chronic pain and smoking cessation. However, it is important to recognize that, like any therapeutic approach, there are certain situations where hypnotherapy may not be suitable or could potentially cause harm.

For individuals with a history of dissociative disorders, such as Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder) or severe dissociation, hypnotherapy may not be the best approach. Hypnosis can sometimes exacerbate these conditions by triggering further dissociative states or creating false memories, leading to confusion and emotional distress. In these cases, therapy should focus on stabilizing the individual's mental health with more appropriate, non-hypnotic methods.

People with a history of serious head injuries or certain neurological conditions (e.g., epilepsy, brain tumors, or neurodegenerative diseases) should approach hypnotherapy with caution. Hypnosis can sometimes affect brain activity and may interfere with neurological function in ways that are not fully understood. It is essential to consult with a healthcare provider before pursuing hypnotherapy, especially if there is a history of seizures, concussions, or cognitive impairment.

While hypnotherapy can be effective for helping with certain habits, it is generally not recommended as a primary treatment for active addiction. Addiction often involves complex physiological, psychological, and emotional factors that require more structured, medically supervised interventions such as counseling, medication, or rehabilitation. Hypnotherapy may complement traditional treatment, but it should not replace it in cases of severe addiction.

Pregnant women or individuals with certain medical conditions (like heart problems or serious psychiatric disorders) should also consult their doctor before undergoing hypnotherapy. Some relaxation techniques used in hypnotherapy may not be safe during pregnancy, particularly in later stages, and any therapeutic intervention should be evaluated in light of the individual's overall health.

While hypnotherapy can be a powerful tool for many people, it is essential to recognize when it may not be appropriate. Anyone considering hypnotherapy should consult with a qualified healthcare provider, especially if they have a history of dissociative disorders, head injuries, severe mental illness, or specific medical conditions. By ensuring that hypnotherapy is conducted safely and appropriately, individuals can maximize its benefits while minimizing potential risks.

First and foremost, it is a psychotherapist's job to 1) Do No Harm and 2) Keep you safe at all times.

11/09/2024

A lot has happened and it's been a tough week for many. There is anger, despair, sadness and grief.

We Stand With You. xo

How are you feeling?

11/06/2024

What Does Trauma Look Like?

Trauma is often misunderstood as something that only occurs in dramatic, life-altering events like natural disasters or accidents. However, trauma is much more subtle and can stem from a wide range of experiences, from childhood neglect to toxic relationships or prolonged stress. The effects of trauma are not always visible on the surface, but they can deeply influence how we interact with the world and ourselves.

Trauma is essentially any experience that overwhelms our ability to cope and leaves us feeling helpless, unsafe, or out of control. While everyone’s experience of trauma is unique, it can cause a range of physical, emotional, and behavioral responses that persist long after the event is over.

Here are some of the ways Trauma can manifest in our daily lives:

1. People who have experienced trauma often struggle with intense emotions that feel out of proportion to the situation. Something as small as an unexpected change in plans or a minor disagreement may trigger a feeling of being "flooded" with emotion. This can be seen in sudden bursts of anger, anxiety, or tears, even when the cause doesn't seem to justify such a reaction.

2. Trauma survivors can feel constantly on edge, as if something bad is always about to happen. This might manifest as difficulty relaxing, trouble sleeping, or an exaggerated startle response to loud noises or surprise. They might be overly cautious or avoidant, anticipating danger even in safe environments.

3. A person with a history of trauma may find it hard to trust others, even in situations where trust is necessary. This could look like withdrawing from social situations, pushing people away, or becoming overly dependent on others for reassurance. They may also struggle with healthy boundaries, either overcompensating by being distant or becoming overly attached out of fear of abandonment.

4. Sometimes, trauma survivors disconnect from their emotions altogether as a way of coping with overwhelming pain. This might appear as emotional numbness or a feeling of being detached from reality. They may struggle to experience joy or feel disconnected from people they care about, as if they are going through the motions without truly feeling present.

5. Trauma can leave lasting marks on a person’s self-esteem. They may feel unworthy or "broken," and this can manifest in self-destructive behaviors, such as procrastination, unhealthy coping mechanisms (e.g., substance use), or a tendency to undermine their own success. They might also have a harsh inner critic, constantly doubting their worth or abilities.

Recognizing your trauma in day-to-day situations is an important first step toward healing. It can be incredibly helpful to talk to a therapist who specializes in trauma recovery, as they can offer tools and strategies for managing triggers and working through the emotional scars. Practices like mindfulness, grounding techniques, and self-compassion can also help trauma survivors reconnect with their present reality and find more balance in their lives.

It's important to remember that the journey of healing from trauma is not linear, but with patience, support, and self-awareness, it is possible to move toward recovery and reclaim a sense of safety and peace.