Danielle Lambrecht owner of Island of HOPE Counselling Services

11/06/2024

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"They will call you “crazy” because you are, because you were born with the gift of seeing things differently and that scares them.
They're going to call you “intense” because you are,
because you were born with the value well placed to allow yourself to feel it all fully and that intimidates them.
They're going to call you “selfish” because that's right,
because you found out that you're the most important thing in your life and that doesn't suit them.
You're going to be called in many ways, with many judgments, for a long time, but stay firm on yourself and what you want, and I promise you one day they're going to call you to say, “thank you for existing.”
— Frida Kahlo

08/27/2024

Everyday try and set your intention to inspire just one person

06/14/2024

As a therapist, I help clients reparent their “frozen” inner child. Some inner children are waiting to finally be rescued but instead of a past parent it will be your adult core self. Reparenting can change an insecure to a secure attachment formed between the inner child and the adult you!!

06/13/2024

In my practice I have learned that developmental trauma can create resiliency but as one gets older and incurs more traumatic events their personal window of tolerance gets smaller and smaller~

05/09/2024

From my personal family experience~Not all people who relapse from addictions reach out for help. Why?
1. Fear of asking for help, possible rejection.
2. Use to helping others, and finds it very difficult to ask for themselves.
3. Worried that others who are not in addiction or are clean and sober may judge them for relapsing.
4. Trying to protect the ones they love from more trauma because of another relapse.
5. Not wanting to stop the relapse and not wanting anyone to intervene.
6. Feeling so shameful about the relapse the only solace from the shame is to hide it, and numb the pain.

These are but some of the reasons why people “don’t” reach out and get help when they do need it.

If you’ve lost a family member, friend, your own child, a sponsee, roommate, to drug poisoning the worse thing to do is post the answer to relapse as a simple problem that is fixed if only the addict reached out. They should have reached out!! It feels like blaming and shaming not only the addict but those left behind in grief. It may not be intentional by no means and I do agree that if you feel like your going to relapse call your family, sponsor, a friend but this is more of a message for those who loved the addict and believed the easy answer of reaching out is easy but it’s NOT. Maybe for some it is easy, but it is not for everyone.
Please don’t expect people will or can reach out even when they want or need to. If you know someone is showing signs of relapsing-withdrawing from family and friends, going to less and less meetings, not engaging in their regular routines, is dealing with new or old problems that have been re-triggered, know less likely to reach out (see above reason’s), crying/sad more days than not. Can you please take the time to reach out to them, even if they don’t answer the first phone call or text? Please keep trying and don’t give up on them, or think it’s best to leave them alone.

Remember some have a hard time reaching out, instead of expecting them, how about you remember these reasons and know that everyone isn’t the same and some may have a harder time. Some people may fall through societal expectations of others (just reach out) causing missed opportunities of letting those who are hurting and may be relapsing, that you are there for them no matter what. I’m not saying this changes any outcomes at all, I’m saying stop believing if a person needs me they will come to me, ITS not a fact at all.

Sharing my Lived experiences~

04/23/2024

GRIEF & LOVE Go hand in hand~

This is what grief is.
A hole ripped through the very fabric of your being.
The hole eventually heals along the jagged edges that remain. It may even shrink in size.
But that hole will always be there.
A piece of you always missing.
For where there is deep grief, there was great love.
Don’t be ashamed of your grief.
Don’t judge it.
Don’t suppress it.
Don’t rush it.
Rather, acknowledge it.
Lean into it.
Listen to it.
Feel it.
Sit with it.
Sit with the pain. And remember the love.
This is where the healing will begin.
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03/22/2024

Really Important to Distinguish and Remember😀

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