Anam Cara - Soul Friend

Anam Cara - Soul Friend Guiding souls in exploration and integration of the unconscious parts of oneself to bring hidden parts into consciousness and awareness.

I work out of my home and have two lovable dog's.

THE OVERTHINKING WOUND ✧ Part 3I don’t need to think my way through this…For so long…I tried to figure everything out.Ev...
04/15/2026

THE OVERTHINKING WOUND ✧ Part 3

I don’t need to think my way through this…
For so long…
I tried to figure everything out.
Every word.
Every feeling.
Every possibility.
As if thinking more
would make me feel safe.
🌿
But it never did.
It only made me feel…
more overwhelmed.
more disconnected.
more exhausted.
🔥
So this time…
I did something different.
I stopped.
Not to avoid it…
But to feel it.
🤍
I breathed.
I let the thoughts pass
without chasing them.
I let the feeling exist
without trying to fix it.
🌿
And slowly…
I came back.
Back into my body.
Back into the moment.
Back into myself.
🔥 TRUTH:
Safety doesn’t come
from controlling your thoughts…
It comes from trusting
you can handle your feelings.
🤍 Closing:
And for the first time…
I didn’t need answers.
I just needed to stay.

👉 Comment “I’m learning this”


“I thought I was protecting myself…”I thought I was protecting myself…So I didn’t say anything.I waited.Analyzed.Replaye...
04/15/2026

“I thought I was protecting myself…”

I thought I was protecting myself…
So I didn’t say anything.
I waited.
Analyzed.
Replayed.
Tried to figure it out first.
What you meant.
How you felt.
If something had changed.
🌿
But while I was in my head…
I started pulling away.
Not because I wanted distance…
But because I didn’t feel safe.
So I became quieter.
Less open.
Less… me.
And you felt it.
You felt the shift…
But didn’t understand why.
🔥
So now you’re confused…
And I’m overthinking…
And neither of us
is actually saying what we feel.

🤍 TRUTH:
I wasn’t protecting the connection…
I was slowly creating distance.

🌿 Closing:
Because overthinking doesn’t bring clarity…
It creates space
where connection used to be.

👉 Comment “I’ve done this”

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💭 THE OVERTHINKING WOUND✧ “The Mind That Never Rests” ✧Emotional Neglect → I wasn’t feltSilent Regret → I didn’t know ho...
04/15/2026

💭 THE OVERTHINKING WOUND
✧ “The Mind That Never Rests” ✧

Emotional Neglect → I wasn’t felt
Silent Regret → I didn’t know how to feel

👉 What happens AFTER disconnection

🔥 This wound is:
Not about emotions…
👉 it’s about living in your head instead of your body

🧠 Core experience:
replaying conversations
overanalyzing tone, texts, behavior
trying to “figure it out” instead of feel it
anxiety disguised as thinking
🤍

👉 SAME ROOT: “If I can understand everything… I won’t get hurt.”

👉 multiple faded versions of the same moment:
replaying conversation
imagining outcomes
reading into messages

layered thoughts
blurred duplicates
mental noise
👉 Outside = still
👉 Inside = chaos

I can’t stop thinking about it…
What they said.
How they said it.
What they meant.
I replay it.
Again.
And again.
And again.
Trying to find the moment
where something changed.
🌿
Maybe I said too much.
Maybe I said too little.
Maybe I misunderstood everything.
So I think.
And think.
And think.
Not to understand…
But to feel safe.

🔥 TRUTH:
My mind is trying to solve
what my heart is afraid to feel.

🤍 Closing:
And the more I think…
The further I get
from what’s actually real.

👉 Comment “I do this”

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04/09/2026

SOUL ALCHEMY STORY — EMOTIONAL NEGLECT WOUND

SOUL ALCHEMY STORY — EMOTIONAL NEGLECT WOUNDThis is what emotional neglect actually feels like…You were there.Right besi...
04/09/2026

SOUL ALCHEMY STORY — EMOTIONAL NEGLECT WOUND

This is what emotional neglect actually feels like…
You were there.
Right beside me.
Same room.
Same bed.
Same silence.
I didn’t need you to fix anything.
I just needed you
to feel me.
But instead…
I learned to hold it in.
To stop explaining.
To stop expecting.
To stop reaching
for something that never met me halfway.
So I sat with it.
Alone.
Even though you were right there.
And the hardest part?
You didn’t even know
I was hurting.
I didn’t mean to shut down…
I just didn’t know how to feel.
She thought I didn’t care.
That I was distant.
That I was choosing not to show up.
But the truth is…
I didn’t know how.
No one ever taught me
how to sit with emotions.
So when things got heavy…
I went quiet.
Not because I didn’t feel it…
But because I felt it all
and didn’t know what to do with it.
I didn’t have the words.
Didn’t have the tools.
Didn’t even understand
what was happening inside me.
So I shut down.
And the more she reached…
The more I pulled away.
Not to hurt her.
But to protect myself
from something I couldn’t explain.
When we both stopped hiding…
we finally felt seen.
It didn’t happen all at once.
No big moment.
No perfect words.
Just…
A pause.
Where I stopped pretending
I was okay…
And you stopped pretending
you didn’t feel anything.
For the first time…
I didn’t chase.
And for the first time…
You didn’t shut down.
We just stayed.
Uncomfortable.
Honest.
Real.
I told you how it felt…
Without blaming you.
And you listened…
Without running away.
And in that moment…
Something shifted.
Not perfect.
Not fixed.
But finally…
felt.

🤍 FINAL TRUTH:
We were never too different.
We were just
protecting ourselves
in opposite ways.

🌿 FINAL CLOSING:
And healing didn’t come
from changing each other…
It came from finally
meeting each other
where we really were.

👉 Comment “this is healing”

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I chose myself… and everything changed.Not all at once.Not perfectly.But in quiet moments…I stopped chasing.Stopped prov...
04/04/2026

I chose myself… and everything changed.
Not all at once.
Not perfectly.
But in quiet moments…
I stopped chasing.
Stopped proving.
Stopped abandoning myself
just to be loved.
And instead…
I stayed.
With my feelings.
With my truth.
With myself.
🌿
This isn’t the end of my story…
It’s a rebirth.
🤍
Because the moment I chose myself…
I stopped feeling lost.

👉 Comment “I choose me”

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I choose how I respond now.The feeling still comes.The fear.The tightness in your chest.The urge to fix it… or shut down...
04/04/2026

I choose how I respond now.
The feeling still comes.
The fear.
The tightness in your chest.
The urge to fix it… or shut down.
But something is different now.
You notice it.
Before you react.
Before you spiral.
Before you lose yourself in it.
🌿 THE PAUSE:
You breathe.
Not to ignore it.
Not to push it away.
But to stay.
With yourself.
Because this time…
You’re not trying to control the outcome.
You’re learning how to hold yourself
through the feeling.
🔥 SHIFT:
You don’t send ten messages.
You don’t pull away to protect yourself.
You sit.
You feel.
You choose your response…
instead of reacting from fear.
🤍 TRUTH:
The fear may still show up…
But it doesn’t get to decide
what you do next.
🔥 Closing:
Because healing isn’t about
never being triggered…
It’s about choosing
who you are
when you are.
👉 Comment “I choose calm”
or
👉 “I’m learning this”




04/03/2026

Abandonment Wound part 3

I’ve been reacting from fear.
It didn’t feel like fear.
It felt like:
caring too much
needing reassurance
protecting myself
But underneath it all…
It was fear.
Fear they would leave.
Fear they would change.
Fear I wasn’t enough to stay.
So I reacted.
Sometimes I held on tighter.
Tried to fix things.
Tried to be more… so they wouldn’t go.
Other times I pulled away first.
Acted like I didn’t care.
Pretended I didn’t need them.
Different reactions…
Same place:
Fear of being left.

🔥 THE MOMENT IT CLICKED:
I wasn’t reacting to what was happening…
I was reacting to
what I thought would happen.
And for the first time…
I saw it.
Not as something they were doing to me…
But something
I was doing to protect myself.
🌿
And that truth?
It didn’t break me…
It woke me up.
🔥
Because I can’t change what others do…
But I can change
how I show up.

👉 Comment “I see it now”


The Abandonment Wound part 2This isn’t random.It feels like it is.Different people.Different situations.Different ending...
04/02/2026

The Abandonment Wound part 2

This isn’t random.
It feels like it is.
Different people.
Different situations.
Different endings.
But the feeling?
Always the same.
They pull away.
They get distant.
They leave.
And every time…
You’re left wondering:
“Why does this keep happening to me?”
But what if…
It’s not about them?

What if it’s the pattern?
The way you:
feel it early
fear it happening
react before it even does
Some people:
hold on tighter
overgive
try to fix it
Others:
shut down
pull away first
act like they don’t care
Different reactions…
Same fear:
“They’re going to leave anyway.”
🌿 REALIZATION:
So without realizing it…
You start reacting
to something that hasn’t even happened yet.

Abandonment Wound part 1Why do they always leave me?It doesn’t happen all at once.At first… it’s small.A message that sl...
04/02/2026

Abandonment Wound part 1

Why do they always leave me?
It doesn’t happen all at once.
At first… it’s small.
A message that slows down.
A shift in their energy.
Something you feel… but can’t explain.
So you tell yourself:
“It’s nothing.”
“They’re just busy.”
“I’m overthinking.”
But deep down…
You feel it.
That familiar ache.
The one that whispers:
“Here we go again…”
So you check your phone.
Re-read the messages.
Replay everything in your mind.
Trying to figure out:
What you did wrong.
What changed.
What you missed.
Because part of you believes…
There must be a reason
this keeps happening.
And even if you don’t say it out loud…
You feel it:
“Why does this always happen to me?”
👉 Comment “this hit” if you’ve ever felt this

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