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08/23/2025

If you grew up with unpredictable parents, you never knew if love would be there or disappear in an instant 💔

Maybe comfort and closeness were available one day, and gone the next 😔
Maybe affection felt conditional on their mood, stress level, or expectations

Your nervous system stored that unpredictability as proof that connection isn’t steady or safe. So you learned to stay hyper-attuned to any sign of withdrawal so you could brace yourself 😬

Now, as an adult, even small moments of distance (like a delayed text, a partner needing space, or a shift in tone) can trigger panic 🚨
Not because you’re “too needy,” but because part of you remembers how quickly love could vanish 💨

Healing isn’t about never feeling fear of loss
It’s about learning that closeness and connection can be steady and safe, and you don’t have to fight to keep love from disappearing 🧡

✨ Follow along for more of this “Behind the Adult Who…” series ✨

08/19/2025

If you only felt seen when you achieved certain goals or brought home good results, it makes sense that achievement became your way of feeling valued, loved, and noticed 😔

Maybe your accomplishments were celebrated while your struggles were met with “try harder” or silence 💔

Maybe it felt like your achievements were the part of you people cared about most 😬

Your nervous system learned that success was the surest route to connection and approval

Now, as an adult, you might keep chasing the next goal, not just for the satisfaction of achieving, but because a part of you remembers when achievement felt like the only way to be noticed and loved, and the only way to protect against rejection 😔

Healing isn’t about losing your drive. It’s about keeping that drive without the crippling fear attached to every move. It’s about knowing you are worthy, with or without achievements 🧡

✨ Follow along for more of this new “Behind the Adult Who…” series ✨

08/15/2025

When you grew up being told your feelings were “stupid” or being called “too sensitive” every time you expressed yourself, you learned it was safer to keep it in 😔

Those phrases don’t just shut down the moment. They teach you your emotions are wrong, that they make you somehow less acceptable or lovable 💔 They can leave you feeling like you’re “too much” and that sharing your emotions will only lead to dismissal or rejection

Your nervous system stores that as proof that showing your authentic self isn’t safe. For a child, that’s deeply threatening to their connection with the person they depend on most

Now, as an adult, you might keep your emotions bottled up or struggle to share how you’re feeling, not because you don’t want to connect, but because your body is still protecting 🚨 you from a familiar kind of hurt

Healing isn’t about becoming “less sensitive”. It’s about learning your emotions are valid, safe to express, and worthy of being heard 🧡

Therapy can help you trust your voice again

✨ Follow along for more of this new “Behind the Adult Who…” series ✨

08/12/2025

When you grew up hearing “you should have known better” after making mistakes, you didn’t just learn to avoid getting it wrong, you learned to fear it 😬

That word “should” is inherently shaming. It says: you failed, and you were expected to know better, but you didn’t 😞

For a child, that’s internalized as “I’m bad,” not “I made a mistake” 💔

Your nervous system stored those moments as proof that mistakes = shame, rejection, or disappointment …which felt threatening to your attachment with your parent - aka, the person your survival depended 🚨

Now, as an adult, every decision can feel high-stakes, because deep down you’re still trying to protect yourself from that same feeling

Healing isn’t about becoming 100% certain all the time, it’s about learning that you can make a choice, get it wrong sometimes, and still be safe, worthy, and loved 🧡

Therapy can help you rebuild that self-trust

✨ Follow along for more of this new “Behind the Adult Who…” series ✨

08/08/2025

If this hit home, you’re not alone 🧡
 You don’t have to keep proving your worth by staying busy 😮‍💨

Therapy can help you unlearn the patterns that make rest feel unsafe 🥹
 ✨ Follow the link in my bio to book a free 15-minute intro call ✨

03/23/2025

Reflecting on progress is important, but often easier said than done—especially for high achieving perfectionists 🙋🏻‍♀️

It’s easy to get stuck in the cycle of constantly pushing forward, always striving for the next big goal.

This is a gentle reminder to pause. Take a moment to reflect on how far you’ve come, on how many wonderful things you’ve already achieved, and on how much you’ve grown 🧡

✨ Follow along for more helpful reminders ✨

03/11/2025

It’s tempting to keep pushing. I too had those thoughts of “if I just reach that next step, then I’ll be able to slow down…” But the truth is, you can’t outrun your perfectionism, and the bar you set will always continue to move ahead 🙈😬

Slowing down, resting, and creating balance, aren’t things you need to earn, they are things you need to intentionally choose and create—which may require healing some barriers along the way 🧡

✨ If you’re ready to loosen the grip of high achieving perfectionism and create balance, follow the link in my bio and schedule an intro call! ✨

03/06/2025

As a recovering perfectionist myself, I get it. These are some truths I’ve had to accept along my own journey 🙋🏻‍♀️

Having your worth directly tied to your accomplishments is an exhausting cycle. You find yourself constantly pushing, fearing making mistakes, and trying to outrun any feelings of inadequacy.

It’s hard to imagine a reality where you can feel “good enough” without the evidence of your accomplishments to support it, but it’s true— that reality exists! And we don’t get there by outrunning or outworking the perfectionism; we get there by doing some healing work to rewire our internal beliefs about ourselves.

✨ If you’re feeling ready to make a change, follow the link in my bio and schedule an intro call ✨

03/02/2025

I see you, and I’ve been there… Asking for, and accepting, help can be so hard. This is a gentle reminder that it’s okay to need support.

Needing help doesn’t make you weak or incapable; it simply means you are human — which, sometimes, is really tough 🧡

You are worthy of the same kindness, compassion, and help that you so freely give to others.

✨ Share this with a friend who might need a reminder of this! ✨

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