
09/13/2025
This was a rough week. On so many levels.
And although it's very rare that I ever get political here, I'm not sure that this is even political. More human than anything. And it feels right to share it here.
I do invite you to read through to the end, without jumping to conclusions as to where I'm going with it...
So, I go back to last weekend. Saturday night, I took the boys to a demo derby in Bonners Ferry, Idaho. Something I noticed is that they had the Canadian flag hanging alongside the American one. And when we stood for the anthem, they sang ours first.
I was honestly surprised. I looked around, waiting for the reaction, and there wasn't one. Just respect, followed by cheers. Given the state of North American affairs right now, and how much the media tries to convince us that Americans are the enemy, it touched me.
I've spent a lot of time in Northern Idaho throughout much of my life. And what I can tell you is that these are some of the kindest, salt of the earth people I have ever met. Many of them would literally give you the shirt off their backs.
One night when our vehicle broke down and we were trying to find a room, owners of motels were offering to come pick us up and even set up beds so we had a place to sleep even though their motels were full. And on this particular night, my bank card wouldn't work at the grocery store and three men, including the cashier, had their wallets out offering to pay for my order, literally within seconds.
You know what else. This is Republican country. Big time.
Jump ahead to later in the week, a teacher who I've learned a lot from and have looked up to in many ways posted a video on social media about the fear of Republicans becoming n***s. It made me instantly feel sick to my stomach.
This person is positioned as a leader with thousands and thousands of followers. Huge communities of followers. Teaches about love, acceptance, unity, and non-judgment. And in this one post, this one moment, all I felt, right to the sickness in my core, was division, alienation, and hate.
I felt shocked. Angry. Sad. Maybe even betrayed.
The very next day, Charlie Kirk was murdered.
It shook me harder than I ever could have imagined.
I want to be clear. I'm not a Republican or Democrat. I'm not left or right, or Liberal or Conservative. I'm not a Trump supporter, nor am I a hater. And the same goes for Charlie.
But I have watched a lot of Charlie Kirk content. I've seen the discussions and debates, even the ones being madly cherry-picked and quoted out of context.
Charlie was a disruptor, a challenger. And he did it in a way that was respectful and intelligent. I personally have not agreed with everything that Charlie said. But I always admired his approach and the way he got me to really think about big, complex things.
I've always felt that we need more Charlies. Not in belief and ideologies, but in approach, in the ability to have uncomfortable conversations and respectfully debate opposing points of view. Because it's in those spaces - if we're willing to be open and get curious - that we can actually learn, grow, and maybe even gain new perspectives. That simply doesn't happen by sitting in communities where we surround ourselves with people who only think the way we do. Who only see the world the way that we do.
Some of these are the ones celebrating his death, or justifying it. Like he deserved it because of his beliefs. I honestly appreciate the clarity this has given me because I know, without any doubt, that these are not the communities where I belong.
I feel like there's a bigger point here being missed. Maybe it's not about choosing sides. Maybe that's the exact fu***ng problem. That everyone feels this great need to be on a side and as soon as we do that, we've become superior to the other. Whether we want to admit to it or not. And it doesn't matter what side you choose, it's the same evil at the top.
They don't care who you choose. They just want you to grab on to that side and not let go. Because that's how they divide, control, and conquer. We're all playing into it beautifully, aren't we?
The thing is, I do not give a s**t who you vote for. I don't care what your political ideologies are, or if you meditate, or if you're spiritual or Christian, or how much yoga you do or how many enlightened experiences you have, how many books you've wrote or retreats you've led. I don't fu***ng care.
I want to know if you're kind. I want to know how you'll behave when someone is down. Especially if they're different than you. How do you show up when life gets hard? Who do you become when things get uncomfortable? What really shows when the mask slips? I want to see if your words align with your actions. I want to see if you really put words like love, diversity, and inclusivity into practice, especially among people who are seemingly opposite of you.
I want to see if you're still in touch with your humanity. The rest of it? It does not matter.
I choose humanity.
I support humanity.
That's it.
Ram Dass had it right: love everyone and tell the truth.