09/28/2023
Sometimes at the end of my day, I feel like I'm not doing enough because of all the things I said I would do but then didn't. Can you relate to this? I go to bed feeling like I'm a failure and promise myself that the next day will be different because I will be different - better, worthy, enough.
I often find it remarkable when others seem to marvel at all I do and accomplish, because that's not what I typically see. I'm too blinded by all the things I haven't done yet but should have. One day I made a conscious decision to focus more of my attention on what I get done in a day rather than what I didn't. It's seems like such a small mindshift and yet it's extraordinary.
The truth is that I accomplish a lot, every single day, and I bet you do, too. Just because something seems little or is just something you do because you have to, doesn't make it insignificant. When I get up before my kids to enjoy a cup of coffee and read for 15 minutes, then get them up with enough time to get ready for school, feed them breakfast, make their lunch, ensure they have brushed their teeth and their hair, have everything in their backpacks they need for school, have written down what dinner will be that day and what activities will be after school, gotten myself dressed and ready for work - if I pretend I'm another person looking in on my life, the truth is that by 8am every single day, I have accomplished quite a lot. Why have I not celebrated this before? Why have I not considered this as part of my self-worth, rather than fixating on the one thing I didn't do like put in my dry eye drops?
So here is my challenge to you - when you notice that your self-talk is telling you that you are not enough, that you're a failure, challenge those thoughts by looking at your day like you are another person, listing all the things that you have actually done. THAT is what matters.