Perceptions counselling

07/23/2025

Choosing the wrong partner..that seemed like the right partner..but then was the unavailable, hurtful, toxic partner is not a coincidence. Childhood Trauma can shape how we choose and love, and who we are drawn to. If you grew up feeling unloved or unseen, your nervous system..your reality , what you see as normal, can shape the abuse you endure and create the feeling that it is your own fault you are suffering. You can tolerate way too much , to avoid abandonment. If this sounds like you ..message me for a session to talk. Deb

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02/19/2025

06/14/2024

One of the hardest things you will ever do is heal alone, and what I mean by healing alone is not using other people to create temporary lack of pain ...not dating because you know you are not ready...not filling your schedule to distract yourself from sitting alone in your grief to think about it....but if you do heal alone..and let yourself sit in the suffering until you heal..You will heal from the inside out..and you will be ok. Be brave my darlings..one more time...just one more time.. You are worth it.

10/19/2023

Just 'down to earth" Approachable Counselling...The office entrance for a couple of weeks.

09/17/2023

Office Entrance...Welcome to Autumn.

02/15/2023

Covert/Vulnerable/Malignant Narcissism. You have heard the words..but do you recognize it? Are you living with it ? Do you have a knot in your gut that seems to never go away ? Do you feel like you are crazy sometimes because you can't understand the person you are living with ?
Do you feel invisible? Disregarded? Suspicious? and exhausted?
Want to talk about it ? Get help ?
Perceptions Counselling...
email me at debbyjoy@gmail.com

01/17/2023

BLUE MONDAY..... Today...coined "Blue Monday" is said to be the most depressing, sad day of the year. Named that due to the post holiday wind up..January bills.....grey skies and temperatures..and the spike in feelings of burnout, and can be very fatiguing. Taking a look at this ...and changing your perception, can lead to a better, more calm and happy day. Not just on Blue Monday, but any day that 'feels " like one.

Choose to ENJOY the time. Walk away from the stress, give yourself time to relax, take time to read a book you have wanted to..finish that chore that will give you a sense of accomplishment..spend a little time with a friend you have not seen for a while. Take a little extra time to create that meal you wanted to try. Do nothing...and refuse the stress...Refuse the gloominess..and see the time as a gift. Time to stop stressing and worrying.

The hustle and bustle..the sunshine..and the paycheck will all come back in due time...For just these "moments in time"......see them as a gift..and allow yourself to unwrap them.