Perceptions counselling

03/30/2026

Thought to ponder for today..... Our language. The language we use to describe the way people treat us. Using phrases like...Oh my mother can't help the way she gets angry..or my husband is just unable to control his anger because he grew u p that way...or this person just doesn't know how to be any different..etc.. That is YOU , choosing to believe that they are just dumb , instead of cruel. That they are just magically unable to treat you right, or see their behaviour. They DO know, but it is easier for you to pretend that they are unable or don't know how etc..than to accept the fact that they just mean and cruel, and they just don't care. I know it hurts..but give it some thought.

11/28/2025

People who need therapy don't come to us...their victims do. Think about that.

11/09/2025

Here for you ...At the office..or online..all through the cold weather season...Welcome.

07/23/2025

Choosing the wrong partner..that seemed like the right partner..but then was the unavailable, hurtful, toxic partner is not a coincidence. Childhood Trauma can shape how we choose and love, and who we are drawn to. If you grew up feeling unloved or unseen, your nervous system..your reality , what you see as normal, can shape the abuse you endure and create the feeling that it is your own fault you are suffering. You can tolerate way too much , to avoid abandonment. If this sounds like you ..message me for a session to talk. Deb

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02/19/2025

06/14/2024

One of the hardest things you will ever do is heal alone, and what I mean by healing alone is not using other people to create temporary lack of pain ...not dating because you know you are not ready...not filling your schedule to distract yourself from sitting alone in your grief to think about it....but if you do heal alone..and let yourself sit in the suffering until you heal..You will heal from the inside out..and you will be ok. Be brave my darlings..one more time...just one more time.. You are worth it.

10/19/2023

Just 'down to earth" Approachable Counselling...The office entrance for a couple of weeks.

09/17/2023

Office Entrance...Welcome to Autumn.

02/15/2023

Covert/Vulnerable/Malignant Narcissism. You have heard the words..but do you recognize it? Are you living with it ? Do you have a knot in your gut that seems to never go away ? Do you feel like you are crazy sometimes because you can't understand the person you are living with ?
Do you feel invisible? Disregarded? Suspicious? and exhausted?
Want to talk about it ? Get help ?
Perceptions Counselling...
email me at debbyjoy@gmail.com