09/04/2024
Self-love, self-care and self-esteem…
Love is a feeling we only experience as truth in action. If someone tells us they love us yet treat us poorly, we doubt their words. It might even cause an eye roll when they speak it out loud and some sort of rhetorical comment inside your head. The exact same is true for the self. You can do daily affirmations and say “I love you” in the mirror until you’re blue in the face, but you cannot create lasting change or personal contentment if you’re not taking actual steps to care for yourself…if you talk the talk and don’t walk the walk, it may brighten your world for a bit to have hope for change but faking it until you make it will only take you so far, if you’re not proving it. The proof is in the pudding, so to speak. Make pudding.
What does your inner talk sound like? Are you gentle, caring and compassionate when you talk to yourself? Are you playing a fake track on repeat to make believe “I’m fine.” when you know you really aren’t? If you’re not speaking truth to yourself your bu****it detector will go off and negate every positive word you’re trying to speak into yourself.
Are you patient and kind to yourself? Tolerant of the fact you’re a perfectly imperfect human? It’s one thing to be nice to and support others, but do you do it for and to yourself?
How do you flip that switch, you ask? By becoming hyper aware of your body, your mental state, your needs and vowing to place them above all else. By acknowledging your problems and asking with genuine interest, “I’m experiencing ______. Self, what must I do to remedy or work through this challenge?” Then stop and listen, take some cleansing breaths…wait for an intuitive answer. Then honour it, without judgement or question. We tend to get focused on the problems and fail to see the solutions. If we’re stuck in “brace for impact” mode all the time, the hits will come hard, fast & frequent. This is the universe’s way of responding to your vibe and providing the results of your expectation.
Trying to give from an empty cup creates an exhausted, overwhelmed, hyper-irritable, irrational, unstable, discontented, anxiety/depression ridden, scattered, unbalanced state…and eventually that will either spill over onto the people you love or manifest in your human machine as physical ailments, conditions and malfunctions. Stress kills, even science won’t refute that fact.
“But I have all these responsibilities and all this pressure and I don’t have time to care for myself!” Blah, blah, blah. We all have excuses for why we can’t. But those of us who have dug deep to do the work and talk the talk have come to know that healthy boundaries are PARAMOUNT. Teaching your loved ones you need some space to take care of you is a healthy boundary. If they see you doing it, perhaps they will choose similarly for themselves in the future.
I hear so many say, “I have too much to do and not enough time. I can’t stop for that.”
But…if you take the time to rest, recover & reset…to unplug, check in and fulfill your needs first…you’ll be exponentially more productive and efficient. Plus you’ll have much greater powers in creation, attraction & manifestation and won’t need to hustle hard to make it work. Forced vs flow state.
I’m a very busy person that juggles a lot in my day to day, but if I want to be at my best, I have to put it ALL down sometimes and feel GOOD about doing that…for me, because I deserve it. Let it go because I love myself. And I know after I serve me, I’ll be able to help others and conquer my world of tasks & problems way faster and be much healthier doing it.
Care takers take care of everyone else but what many don’t understand is that if we take care of ourselves first, the rest of the pieces around us will fall into place. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner state. If you find yourself surrounded by unmanageable chaos and problems, stop looking outside the self for the answer…if you get your own house in order, the universe will respond with support & abundance. As above, so below.
If you want to actually love yourself, prove it. Take actionable daily steps for a consistent period of time. Commit to yourself and the process of self-discovery…love and care for you as you would anyone else and you’ll be amazed at your new found resilience, balance, ability to cultivate presence, grounding, happiness, peace and attract all you require to thrive in the world. But don’t take my word for it…try it for yourself. If you’re dedicated, consistent and steadfast, you’ll notice drastic changes within a few short months.
Good luck on your journey and blessed be. 🙏🏼💖
