Cyndi Millett Registered Psychologist

05/27/2026

Long-term relationships aren't supposed to feel like the beginning forever. Here's what's actually normal.

Seasons of disconnection. You won't always feel deeply connected. That doesn't mean the relationship is broken. It means you're human and life is happening.

Being triggered by your partner. Even in healthy relationships, your old wounds will get touched sometimes. The work is noticing how you respond, not expecting that it shouldn't happen.

Not being attracted to your partner all the time. Desire ebbs and flows, and is often a reflection of the other stuff going on in your lives.

Re-negotiating roles over time. You and your partner will grow and change. The dynamic that worked in year one might need to evolve in year five.

Alone time and separate interests. You don't need to do everything together. Space creates room for individuality and ultimately for desire.

Therapy or support. Seeking help isn't a sign of failure. It's a sign you care enough to invest in doing things differently.

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05/27/2026

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05/26/2026

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05/26/2026

Moving into motherhood from being an individual brings many changes. Here they are acknowledged.

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05/12/2026

05/12/2026

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04/28/2026

Special Grand Opening at Insight Psychological/ Grief and Trauma Healing Center North office Edmonton. Glad to be part of this team!

04/26/2026

Anger in relationships gets a bad reputation because of what it can look like when it's expressed poorly. But underneath most relational anger is information that's been waiting to be heard. And when you shut it down instead of listening to it, you usually just end up carrying it longer.

A boundary that's been crossed but never enforced. A need that's been communicated but not taken seriously. A pattern of accommodating that's quietly become resentment. Anger tends to show up loudest when something important has been minimized for too long. It's not asking you to react. It's asking you to pay attention to what you've been letting slide.

Your anger is not the problem. What you do with the information it's carrying is where it gets interesting.

04/21/2026

02/18/2026

“I know this is silly…” I get curious when I hear this disclaimer rise before sharing pain. Is it? How do we evaluate this? Why is this the first thing that rising when we are about to share something painful? Is it our own belief or one we’ve been conditioned to believe? It may also indicate we’ve been taught shame around sharing pain. In truth when we confess pain to supporting witnesses, we can find healing~ what’s revealed can heal. What’s stuffed down into the furthest recesses of our heart rumbles and may erupt in a space less desired. Unprocessed pain and emotion brings health to our souls.