Empowerment Liberator

05/03/2023

Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP)

What is it?

I often get asked this question.

I honestly feel bad I have not written this up sooner.

I remember when I was desiring to invest in learning why I had a brain that was full of vile thoughts. I seeked out traditional talk therapy, cognitive behavior therapy and many other healing modalities for help over the years with little to no success.

I became very disenchanted with modern approaches to psychological healing and no wonder. These institutions don't want you to heal! They desire for weak populations of people to support their industrial medicalized complex by never truly healing and requiring pills or therapy forever.

I did a deep dive worm hole on the internet, read books and research papers exposing the wickedness in today’s psychiatry and psychology industries. It was astoundingly shocking to learn how these institutions have grown to be forces on our planet that are extremely disempowering to the human spirit.

Then a friend told me about Neuro Linguistics Programming. My life did a complete 360. My practitioner radically decoded my traumas and limiting beliefs I was telling myself to finally heal and empower me. The sessions were extremely effective.

Breaking down that our life events are anchors. Our anchors are our traumas, our trials and tribulations are events that cause anguish and weight to carry around, left unchecked they solidify limiting thoughts and poor behaviors.

NLP is a psychological systematic approach that involves analyzing the correlation between our language (anchors) and our behavior patterns.

NLP gets to the root of why we are stuck, limited, blocked, unhealed and holding on to trauma. It utilizes techniques that seek to build effective communication between conscious and unconscious mental processes. It is intended to help clients understand their own minds and how they come to think and behave the way they do. This type of therapy discipline focuses on solution belief outcomes.

What we think is typically how we feel, which has a pattern of how we will act.

Words cast spells. We affirm our realities by the language we speak.

NLP revolutionized my life. It defragged my brain, recalibrated my beliefs and implemented behavior modification patterns that would lead me to the life I was desiring. That was 9 years ago. As a result of being disenchanted with modern psychological approach to healing, I certified in Neuro Linguistics as a practitioner to mentor those that want a radical self-sovereignty approach to everlasting healing.

I never gave up on my healing. My tenacious heart implemented disciplined belief and solution based practices to overcome the traumas I experienced in life. I knew deep down I could heal for good. I knew I could have the life I desired.

In the last couple years I have participated in seeing many folks as a result of this empowering NLP therapy radically reshape their life’s. It has been a wild ride witnessing the many transformations many folks experience as a result.

Curious if Neuro Linguistics can help you?

Private message me to find out.

04/15/2023

REPOSTING here to correct it.

My upcoming EVENT TIME WAS LISTED 2 different TIMES!

CORRECT TIME 11:11am to 2pm

I made a mistake!

What FUN!
How our daily human experience plays out in dramas, of our actions, and reactions in real time, unfolding in front of you!

I am chuckling as I write this, over the time oversight, noting the wrong time on the event, and reminding myself that perfection is not the goal. I felt shame, as my gut dropped into judgment. The shame of having a huge oversight, and people judge that, and let's be honest, especially in business.

Stuned at my oversight, a course correction will support the blindspot.

I land on creating a "final edit" habit, to catch such silly mistakes!

Celebrating my friends who picked up on my mistakes and reached out, enquiring. Blessing to them! Thank you, friends.

We all make mistakes. We get back up. We learn to give compassion, and forgive ourselves. I am humbled by this painful experience to seek the lesson.

The lesson appears to create an "editing habit". Possible choices that I could employ.

✨implement a space gap for final edits
✨take break for X amount of hours before returning
✨sleep on it for larger projects before posting
✨hire an editor on a freelance service
✨ask friends who are apt to reading this kind of content
✨last I wish to manifest my partner who snuggles up reading it to me. LOL

Possibilities and potentials.

I hope nothing else, by sharing my mistake, the importance of showing compassion, for our mistakes in life. Have a forgiveness practice. And most of all what I learned was to move my shame to a solution.

What are your practices when you make a mistake?

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04/13/2023

Could humanity witness each other in our differences as a blessing?

04/12/2023

To live I must have faith,
I must trust myself to the total unknown,
I must trust myself to a nature that does not have a boss,
because a boss is a system of mistrust

We are made from this place, for this place

You don't have to go into to nature to be with nature,

You are nature.

04/11/2023

I'm trying a new practice, the curiosity mindset!

I am having wild experiences traveling and hosting many conversations with a variety of people from all over the world.

And while most times it’s fun to explore others through their stories, to know someone is to know what they value in life.

Value conversations can be a bit tricky these days. There is a lot that the world is discerning through its values, at least that is what my experiences have been lately.

So I was met with a difference. The complete other side is where my friend is positioned in her political view.

And so instead of being defensive, which has been a theme of mine, I'm trying out a mindset shift.

“You don’t agree with me?”

“Wow! Awesome. I'm curious about our differences!”

And it worked. We softened into the conversation by being curious and not defensive. We were investigators seeking to understand. It was a wild shift for us both. We both left relieved to just be heard. We both were encouraged to come back and continue unpacking our differences.

I am so happy to share this because I am a reformed defensive opponent.

I know that where I am going in life I will be met with loads of opposition. This is giving me the opportunity to find ways to bridge us rather than defend and cancel each other.

I encourage you to try it out the next time someone does not agree with you.

Get curious and celebrate the difference as an opportunity to create a bridge between you.

Let me know what other tools of mindsets you use when met with differences.

And let me know if you tried the curiosity mindset and what happened for you?

04/03/2023

But how do I have “that” conversation?

Was me so many years ago.

I had the pattern of holding a grudge. Avoiding people and places to preserve my grudge.

Can you relate?

I realized that holding grudge energy was creating poison in me.

I felt so zapped in my mind, looping the grudge, and letting it fester into anger, cause I was not dealing with it.

The grudge energy was too much to manage and I wanted to navigate better.

Right? And who doesn’t want to manage better?

What I have learned from my recovered grudge holding self is that I went through behavior changes, mindset changes, emotional intelligence and communication skills overhaul.

No one is perfect and yet I have come so far. I have been committed to these changes and practices everyday in search of the life I desire.

Reflections I would offer to my younger self….

Discern my truth.

Get clear about what is really going on.

Be curious about that grudge. Ask myself why this is bothering me to hold a grudge.

Give myself grace and compassion to love myself enough to host the conversation.

Meet that person with “I” statements. When you did this…I felt that.

Place my hands on my heart when reporting my feelings.

Speak from my heart.

Listen from my heart.

Ask questions when they are reporting their side.
This is just a tasting of what I practice now. It is not easy to be vulnerable to open up to the above process. And yet in my experience it gets better the more I practice.

Are you a grudge holder or a curious conversationalist?

What are tools you employ to not hold a grudge, care to share in the comments below?

03/31/2023

https://studio.youtube.com/video/WwYhGGYuPho/edit

In this short reel video Im explaining a question that someone asks me the other day.

Why do I call myself a Conflict Crusader?

It stems from desiring different outcomes for my future self when life disruptions occur.

I desired to wake up one day better equipped with tools to manage the day to day obstacles, and struggles.

✨I value regulating my emotions.

✨I value peace internally and externally.

✨I value curiosity mindset.

✨I value understanding my I play role here. That I am responsible and accountable to waves I create.

✨I value having the tools to manage life better. And by better I mean walking with ease and grace through some of my darkest times.

I will always be on the crusade of understanding how to manage life with more ease and grace.

Do you have tools that you use to manage that you desire share, please drop a comment below.

thank you for watching

Lena

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03/30/2023

Yup.

There are awful truths about conflict.

I had this utopian view that ALL conflicts could/should be resolved.

I had this grandiose notion that all people desired for peace in their lives.

I have this perspective that everyone is "doing the work".

I summarized that people were responsible and accountable to their harms to make the behaviour changes required.

And nothing could be farther from the truth.

I also had to come to what I now teach are the awful truths about conflict:

😩That conflict should never occur.

😩Conflict can be a daily occurrence.

😩There are risks and costs within conflicts. There are consequences.

😩There are dysfunctional ways in which people deal with conflict that can cause more harm.

😩The harms caused by conflict may never be irreversible.

😩Resolution and restoration can only be achieved when “ALL” parties are open to take responsibility and accountability for their contribution to the conflict.

I had trouble coming to terms that people don't value peaceful lives as much as I do.

I had to come to terms that some relationships would never grow back to what they were.

I had to come to terms that when I stepped into my self worth I would prune my relationship tree.

Facing the truths allowed for the growth I needed. And to address reality for what it is, hard awful truths.

It is an art of self mastery to accept the truth of our reality. And there is a grieving when we grow.

Learning to value the awful truth of conflicts has unburdened me from expectations on myself and others.

What are your awful truths experiences that you care to share?

Let me know I m not alone.

Like comment and share below.

If you are curious about my story or working more with me, reach out.

If you are desiring a deeper dive into managing conflicts better I am hosting a masterclass April 1 on line.

Gratitude for reading this far....you are awesome! 🙏

Art of Conflict Masterclass
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03/28/2023

Did you know that I retired from the corporate Matrix at age 43?

Yup! I sure did in 2018, I hit rock bottom in my career, realizing operations management is a soul sucking job, and my family was feeling it. Years prior I had been diligently planning my “great escape” knowing I desperately needed a change….

The day came, when I cleaned out my desk, and never looked back.

Why?

I was excelling as a leader, I was working with an amazing team that felt like family, the team and I consistently exceeded the stakeholders 10% increase to the annual bottom line. I was challenged, which kept me engaged. I was working on lean management strategies to improve my team's quality of work.

I became disenchanted.

In my humble beginnings I never thought I would make it, let alone climb that far up the corporate management ladder. One day it hit me with the quote from Michelangelo:

“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we hit it.”

I never thought, I would ever, have scaled my dreams.

I blazed trails in male dominated fields, owning a consulting company, educating myself along the way, taking third place as a fitness model, single mother of 2, holding it down lack of basic family/community support, coaching both my kids in soccer and finding my way spiritually to have a strong faith practice.

And the biggest achievement to which there is no certificate for is healing my childhood trauma, rewiring my mental mind and overcoming a learning disability. I am dyslexic, I basically read backwards.

I'm not writing this post to brag…hey everyone look at me!

No.

I am writing this post to share my story of not dreaming big enough!

I became disenchanted because I only dreamt of making, to, a certain outcome. And looking back on my younger self with no family support and with a government label “orphan”, the future did look bright when you have to do it alone.

Parental/family support and guidance is PRIVILEGE! And lack of it, is a very steep climb to one’s personal success.

Years leading up to the “great escape” I invested my time in exploring a new dream. I had to because the current one was outdated. Coming to terms that dreams can come true, I became overwhelmed with what I will do, with the next 40 years. I plan to live until I am 91, I even have my 91st birthday party all planned out!

I am passionate about helping others achieve their dreams. Share with people that discipline, dedication to your plan and you could soar higher than me, cause you will have learned to dream big, by learning from my error.

I often recite to folks that hire me for empowerment coaching, “I’m not special to have achieved my dreams, all I did was, have the dream and worked towards it”. It seems clique and in my lived experience it is fact.

I had a dream and worked towards it.

What is your dream? Maybe I can show you what I did?

I am very curious about your thoughts on this post, comment below.

03/26/2023

That is a good goal, right?

Managing our day to day conflicts with peace and ease even if the floor might be falling right out from underneath us.

The ability to sail through life's trails and tribulations is the great work.

Having goals for how you desire to react, act in this world is character building a lost art.

My younger self was a train wreck when it came to opposing views.

I had zero skills to regulate much less have the ears to listen to the other side.

Conflicts internally and externally would suck the life out me. Stuck in brain loops continuously robbing me of my creative life force energy.

I had to grow up and set forth on becoming responsible and accountable to myself first then the greater external world, by creating tools to manage conflict.

And why did I desire for different outcomes when confronted?

I desired to:

✨Manage day to day conflicts better

✨Offer compassion

✨Hold a space of grace

✨Seek to understand

✨Have communications methods that deescalate conflicts

It is not easy to behaviour modify oneself much less commit to "do the work".

And yet I did just that!

I went from a frothing animal that was defensive as f #*& to a tamed version of my previous self.

I feel blessed to be in a place of pure curiosity when someone opposes me now. I'm by no means perfect however who I was back then is not who is here today.

The value I have received from "doing the work" to change has opened me up to 25 years later being mentoring and teaching others real world conflict management.

Our lives can be what ever we desired for them to be.

And if you are like me, desiring to ride life's treacherous waves with ease and a waxed board is a vision you desire, then let's do this!

Reach out for a mentoring call.

If you are desiring a deeper dive into your self mastery of conflict I am facilitating a masterclass April 1 on line. Link below.

Gratitude for reading this far. You are awesome.

Like, comment and share if you value me or my work.

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03/22/2023

I am so stoked to host this again. I keep adding and learning so much as I continue my journey with understanding our discomforting differences and how to mange them better.

Art of Conflict MasterClass On line

Seek to understand others is an art, especially when in times of conflict.

One might suggest that we have entered a "conflict poverty society" and that humanity is growing increasingly divided in recent years. Ways of understanding each other to resolve our differences will be an asset skill to invest in for the future of all humankind.

Every day, every interaction can bring about conflict internally or externally.

Our human experience of conflict has left many of us wounded and unhealed. We also often bottle resentment for our own inaction to life's indecisions. Resulting in closed off, guarded, resistant to learning from our past and the other side. We no longer value discussion for the opportunity to grow through understanding diversity. We lack curiosity in our understanding of differences.

Globally we are carrying heavy burdens of discord to see how "hurt people hurt people". And we are on the brink of a society that has little to no desire to work it through. Socially accepted to ghost and instantly gratified our egos we move on without truly seeing the gift that conflict can highlight. We even have notions permeating terms such as "cancel culture".

The Art of Conflict is designed to help to increase our personal awareness into how to better equip ourselves when experiencing conflict. Conflict is our greatest teacher. It teaches us patterns about ourselves. It teaches where we are not healed, because we failed to take responsibility. It teaches us how to discern truth about our reality and the greater world around us. It informs us of how to be accountable to ourselves internally, externally and as global citizens of where we need to grow.

Art of Conflict Master Class outline:

*Define Conflict
*Learn about the body's nervous system, primitive neurology/biology/chemistry during conflict
*Learn what blocks you in conflict
*Learn if your conflict pattern avoidant or confrontational
*Learn how to discern personal truth
*Learn the art of listening from a place of curiosity
*Learn non-violent communication skills
*Learn how to de escalate conflicts
*Learn how to resolve internal conflicts and external conflicts
*Learn the step by step art of restorative harm process
*Practice and demonstrate the tools and methods

Join me in being a conflict crusader. Be the change we wish to be!

About Lena Parnell
After working in fields of profession where my very job description was confronting conflict every day. I studied then became certified as a Neuro Linguistics Practitioner. Which briefly is the art of understanding language and discerning what is being communicated. Furthering my studies I attended impactful training courses such as High Conflict Management, Non-Violent communication, and countless leadership/growth mindset courses have benefited me as I hope it will help you.

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Course timeline investment 6 hours (one 20 min break)
Course Cost by donation to $111
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For all inquiries please message Lena Parnell by email lparnellnlp@gmail.com

03/13/2023

I often wonder if people actually desire to lead peaceful lives?

You would think if peace was a value in our world we would have achieved it.

So why don't we?

Why has humanity continued for thousands of years at odds with itself?

As far as I can understand, our entrenched ideologies and identities are the foundations of the human psyche to ground us. And yet, everytime we identify and label ourselves we limit ourselves to that identity.

Differences in the natural world we can accept. We accept that there are several different flowers and even the same flowers in a bush blossom uniquely divinely different and we accept that.

So why can we not accept the differences in each other and be curious about them? Why is their human blossoming that differs from ours so terrifying that it causes world wars.

Are any of the realities we made up worth fighting for to the extent that we fight for them?

I might be alone here and traveling on a very lonely path in life committed to seeing the world unified. One that would sacrifice everything for peace and harmony.

I am blessed to have my faith to keep me afloat during these turbulent times. I hold steadfast to the notion that humanity is toiling to find its way. I pray everyday that we make the choice for peace with our brothers and sisters before it’s too late.

How much value do you place on leading a peaceful life?

And in what ways do you achieve it?