04/24/2026
Fridays Feeling.
I feel one of the best senses to experience is when another person " just gets me"! For some this could be absolute rubbish and nonsense, and for other readers, it hits home deeply.
By now, even I have to admit that I am familiar with the new concepts of algorithms and the generalized functionality (although old enough to remember the mathematical applications only). When I place that understanding and apply it to our personal interactions, the OG of interfacing, it can explain how we have moved to listening for sound bites, key words, and catch phrases, to spit out our response still on context.
How many dear reader, have experienced the phenomenon of listening to respond instead of listening to comprehend and understand the sent message?
It is most likely one of the biggest irritants for my daughter, when the style of communication is bulletpoint statements. Linguistically speaking ( yes that was puny), if there is no interrogative, a reply is actually not necessary. When I hear the deluge of sound bites, stream of consciousness, thoughts, firstly I need time to translate to a vocabulary which applies to my version of understanding and secondly process what the intended message and meaning.
It is definitely the therapist in me that has conditioned the ability of listening to sentence structure, syntax, vocabulary choice and intonation, to fill out a fuller version of what is being communicated.
For me there is significance between knowing what is being said and understanding the intended message being shared.
When understanding takes place, there is that sense of connection, that this person " gets me" and it is incredibly refreshing and welcomed. I preach from the highest pulpit that the rendition and understanding of MY world is specifically developed from my life experiences, as yours is unique for you!
Communication and understanding takes place in that sweet spot we know on the Venn diagram, where we can both share and relate. It is here that true connection takes place and where " they just get me" is borne.
Are you listening to respond or to understand?
Be well