Kayla Huszar - Chill Like a Mother

01/10/2026

Things I do as a counsellor for mothers that look different from “traditional” therapy:

💬 Swear in the first session so you know you can be real.
🌙 Tell you your coping tools kept you safe.
🖌️ Call out the pattern where you learned your needs don’t matter.
🛠️ Won’t let you take on more mental load than your partner.
😝 Don’t shame you for yelling - we get curious instead.
➡️ Not everything is childhood trauma (sometimes it’s overstimulation and patriarchy).
😡 Teach you how to go back after you’ve yelled.
🤔 Ask what version of me you need - cheerleader or reality check.
🎨 We make art because your nervous system learns better that way.
🫣 I tell you when I f**k up with my own kids (when you ask).

If you’d like to join me for a Free REPAIR workshop, I’m hosting three different days January 26, 28, 31.

Message me “REPAIR” for the link.

If you need the part that comes after losing it, I’ll see you there.

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01/09/2026

FREE ☀️ WORKSHOP 🔥 FOR MOMS

REPAIR: What to do after you lose it
a FREE 60-Minute workshop for moms who’ve lost their s**t a time or two and want to stop spiraling in guilt

January 26, 28, 31.

Message me “REPAIR” for the link. (It’s also in the bio now)

If you also need the messy middle between losing it and fixing it, I’ll see you there. 💚

12/22/2025

Maybe we don’t become good parents.
Maybe we unbecome everything we were taught we had to be.

Because so much of what society drilled into us never actually served our children:
the perfectionism,
the pressure to perform,
the fear of judgment,
the belief that authority requires distance,
the idea that love must look a certain way to be “right.”

We inherited rules about parenting that weren’t built for connection —
they were built for control, image, convenience, and compliance.
And somewhere along the way, many of us confused that with “good” parenting.

But when we start peeling those layers off —
the shoulds,
the expectations,
the old narratives about what strong, strict, or successful parenting looks like —
we find something truer underneath.

We find ourselves.

And the more we return to who we actually are —
not who we were taught to be —
the more naturally we show up for our children.
With softness when it’s needed.
With boundaries that make sense.
With presence instead of performance.
With connection instead of control.

Our children never needed the version of us that the world tried to shape.
They needed the version that exists beneath all that noise:
the one who feels,
who questions,
who learns,
who repairs,
who grows right beside them.

Maybe we don’t “become” good parents at all.
Maybe we simply let go of who we aren’t —
and who we ARE is exactly what our children needed all along. ❤️

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12/20/2025

How’s the Saturday before Christmas going mamas?

12/17/2025

Had three sessions last week where moms just… cried.
The good kind. The “wait, I can choose differently?” kind.

Here’s what I told them that broke something open. →
(Swipe for all three + the link to go deeper)

Drop a 💚 if you’re ready to choose differently.

My Chill Christmas Workshop: $30 for more permission + tools.
Comment “WORKSHOP” for the link.

New here? I’m Kayla - counsellor for burnt-out magic makers who are done performing.
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12/07/2025

My favorite boundary is one sentence:
“That doesn’t work for our family.”

That’s it. That’s the whole sentence.

No over explaining. No justifying. No apologizing.

You could try it when you wanna say no but are tempted to say yes when:
🎄 Your MIL asks you to host Christmas this year
📅 Someone adds another event to your already packed December
🍪 You’re voluntold to make 4 dozen cookies for the school thing
🏠 Someone invites themselves over “just for a quick visit”

The beauty? You don’t owe anyone an explanation about what works for YOUR family.

Drop a 🎁 if this kind of boundary setting feels hard for you.

If you want to walk into the holidays with a full toolkit of boundaries that actually work - my Holiday Workshop for Moms is your soft landing.

Pre-recorded. No fluff. 90 minutes of real strategies you can use today.

$30 to learn how to hold boundaries without guilt, share the mental load, and create Christmas on your terms.

So many women keep hoping it’ll be different this year… but don’t know how to actually do it different.

Comment “WORKSHOP” for the link.

New here? I’m Kayla - therapist who helps magic makers stop doing guilt-fueled things.

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12/04/2025

What if buying gifts for your in-laws wasn’t your responsibility? 🤭

I know. Sounds impossible. “But Kayla, if I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” I believe you. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Maybe. And that might feel uncomfortable.

Here’s the thing: letting go of responsibility feels scary. There might be tension. Guilt. Awkward conversations.
But the discomfort of setting boundaries is temporary.

The exhaustion of doing everything forever? That’s got its own consequences. 💀

If you WANT to buy them gifts? Great. But if it’s pure obligation? What would it feel like to let it go?

If you want to explore what it might look like to stop doing everything - my Chill Christmas Workshop is that space. 
🎄🍾 $30 for 90 minutes to think through what you could let go, how to share the load, and what it might feel like to set boundaries.
I can’t promise no pushback or guilt, but I can give you tools to navigate it.

Comment “WORKSHOP” for the link.

What are YOU considering letting go of this Christmas?

11/29/2025

11/25/2025

If you’re making Christmas magical for everyone else while secretly resenting the s**t out of it, this one’s for you.

You know that feeling when you’re wrapping presents at midnight thinking “why am I the only one who cares about making this special?”

When you’re managing everyone’s emotions, expectations, and excitement while you’re just... tired?

When Christmas morning feels more like disappointment than something you get to actually enjoy?

Yeah. That hits different when you’re the one carrying the mental load.
You’re not broken for feeling this way. You’re not ungrateful. You’re not a bad mom.

You’re just exhausted from being the unpaid Christmas coordinator who doesn’t get to enjoy any of the magic you’re busting your ass to create.

What would change if you gave yourself permission to want something different this year?

If We Haven’t Met Yet: I’m Kayla Huszar - Registered Social Worker & Expressive Arts Therapist who helps moms stop doing allllll the things.

You know, all those things fueled by the guilt you feel when you’re NOT doing them?

Want to get curious about over-functioning, sharing the mental load, and being allowed to just be human?