New Spring Counselling

07/15/2025

In healthy relationships, both people’s values and dreams need room to breathe. So the question might not just be “Is this good for the relationship?”—but also, “Is this good for me in the relationship?”

This is something we unpack again and again in therapy and learn not to abandon ourselves in the name of connection.

06/28/2025

If we really look around, we can notice notice that mind reading does not seem to be working.

Of the many couples that I listen to in my practice, very few people clearly identify their relational wants and needs and figure out the best way to ask for them, and go after them😍😍

And if that first attempt fails, asking again. Or getting help trying to figure out how to ask in a way that can be heard.
What both sexes seem to do equally is complain🙃.

Couples counselling will help you learn to speak up without complaining and ask for, and sometimes get, what you really want❤️

06/24/2025

The sadness that a loss brings has certain effects that are unique to mourning. It closes down our ability to be interested in distractions and pleasure; our attention is fixed on what is lost.

Our desire to take on anything new, or pursue an interest is gone for the time being. In short, grieving forces us to go into a contemplative retreat from life’s busyness and leaves us in a suspended state.

Have patience with yourself in those moments. Trust that life will come slowly trickling back in🙏

06/06/2025

Suppress, not express.

Traditional masculine values often reward emotional control, independence, and stoicism.
But in therapy, vulnerability is strength, not weakness.
And that shift can feel unfamiliar, even threatening, for many men raised to suppress rather than express.

•Because asking for help clashes with what they were taught strength looks like.
•Because vulnerability feels like weakness in a culture that rewards silence.

Therapy doesn’t make you less of a man, it helps you become more fully human.

05/28/2025

In a time when genuine connection can feel harder to find, love still shows up.
Not always in grand gestures—but in quiet repair, in choosing to stay, in learning how to really hear one another.

As a couples therapist, I see it every day: love isn’t always about ease—it’s about effort, growth, and showing up, especially when it’s hard.

Connection is possible. Love is resilient. And even in difficult moments, it’s never too late to build something strong, safe, and real.

05/02/2025

How do I stay flexible, warm, humble and forgiving in my relationships without letting someone walk all over me? These are skills we learn in couples counselling.

Finding a voice that doesn’t have to be harsh, that can be loving but firm, is truly evolving to be a better partner and creates a different dynamic between you and everyone ❤️

05/02/2025

When two triggered selves try to solve problems in a relationship, we are no longer listening.

04/27/2025

When we strive to achieve top grades, be perfect moms, get perfect performance reviews, to dress just right for every occasion, sometimes it’s because we’re scared to death of letting the mask slip to reveal our secret: the shame we carry as a byproduct of childhood beliefs that we are not good enough.

♥️

04/22/2025

If any of this feels familiar, it might be time to set firmer boundaries—or even walk away. You deserve peace.☮️

04/20/2025

04/12/2025

There’s nothing wrong with pushing ourselves to excel and pursue our goals. But we can’t be perfect. And the drive to try creates anxiety and prevents us from enjoying life’s pleasures, large and small. Rather than motivating us to be our best, perfectionism seeks to cover up what we see as our worst.

Understanding the messages, experiences and beliefs that cause us to believe we need to be seen in a certain way begins to lessen their power, and we heal.