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03/08/2026

Happy international women’s day ❤️❤️❤️ don’t forget ladies, the most powerful thing we can do to be powerful is to love yourself, marry yourself, and never abandon yourself FIRST. That doesn’t mean we’re tough, hyperindependent and have to go it alone. It means we have the courage to be in relationship and ask for what we want. That relationship is with our partners, our bosses, our children, our parents.
Strength doesn’t always look like doing everything alone.
Many women were taught that being “strong” meant never needing help, never resting, and carrying the world on their shoulders. But real strength isn’t about that.
Strength is knowing when to stand on your own — and when to lean on others.
Strength is building community, asking for support, and supporting other women in return.
Strength is setting boundaries, protecting your peace, and allowing yourself to be human, with all the imperfections that entails.

12/11/2025

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12/08/2025

Let’s normalize boundaries, not burnout.

12/05/2025

You don’t have to earn rest.
Your worth is not based on productivity👊

❤️

12/04/2025

•Who did I try to keep happy this week at my own expense?
•What did I fear would happen if I didn’t?
•What would a healthier version of that moment look like?

11/30/2025

When we grow up in a home where our parents made us feel responsible for their happiness by performing or taking care of them emotionally (i.e. listening to their problems or managing their moods) we learn to prioritize other’s needs over our own.

We learn to feel anxiety, guilt, and resentment when we want to be independent or not care-take.

You can heal by practicing small boundaries-saying no. Also by taking a breath and staying grounded when you feel the urge to rush in and fix someone else’s feelings (when we act impulsively in these moments, we lose the pause between what we feel and what we can change about our fixing behaviour) and also differentiate “that’s your feeling, it’s not mine and it’s not facts”.

Therapy can help you learn to let others take responsibility for their own feelings, walk on eggshells less and experience way less stress.

11/19/2025

When your partner is passive aggressive, and acts like you’re the one with the problem, getting dysregulated quickly is a thing😮

When we respond to unclear boundaries or unspoken expectations and it feels unsafe, it’s normal to feel emotional; ie fearful, anxious, etc.
The part that feels confusion is, these relationships start to feel normal. Why?
🤔 even if it’s stressful, your nervous system being activated can start to feel normal (hypervigilance, walking on eggshells).
🤔 when your partner occasionally communicates clearly or apologizes it reinforces hope that things are improving, and that keeps us invested
🤔 blaming ourselves, sneaks in “I have to be less naggy, bitchy, etc.
Over time we start to see the dysfunction as our own fault rather then theirs.

Remember, feeling normal doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

How do we take back our voice in a passive aggressive relationship?
👊 Name the behaviour-notice when they imply, hint or make a face. This will help you stop internalizing the blame
👊 Pause before reacting. Urgency to respond is the enemy, taking a deep breath is our friend.
👊 Use clear communication and set boundaries

11/16/2025

You deserve a partner who doesn’t edit the truth to keep the peace.

Sometimes people don’t lie because the truth is unsafe
they lie because conflict feels uncomfortable and they want to be seen in the best possible light.

This kind of “protective” lying often comes from:
• conflict avoidance
• fear of disappointing their partner
• wanting to maintain a positive image
• not knowing how to repair after tension

But when someone edits the truth to manage how they’re perceived, it creates:
• emotional distance
• confusion and mistrust
• anxiety and second-guessing
• resentment over time

In healthy relationships:

✅ Difficult conversations are a must
✅ Discomfort is tolerated
✅ Repair is possible
✅ Honesty is safer than smoothing things over

When a partner only shares a curated version of themselves, the relationship becomes built on performance — not intimacy.

Real connection requires:
🟣 accountability
🟣 honest communication
🟣 compassion for imperfection
🟣 the ability to navigate conflict together

Remember: peace created by avoiding truth isn’t peace — it’s fragility.

Healthy love can handle honesty, repair through conflict, and grow through transparency.

11/13/2025

If you’re feeling lost, out of touch with yourself and others, and in a fog for much of the time, therapy might help. If you often feel as if you’re doing nothing more than going through the motions, you may agonize over feeling insecure and adequate, unloveable and alone, and look for ways to ignore deny cover-up or numb the ache of feeling empty with alcohol, food, overworking, p**n, drugs, or a combination of the above,then it may be time to take a look.

Certainly, you are not alone with these kind of feelings most of a struggle with periodic reoccurring emotional pain for significant portions of our lives. This happens because we don’t know another better way or because we’re unwilling to try.

Unfortunately, the pain often has to become intolerable, or a crisis must force the issue before we take action on our own behalf.

In therapy we learn to value ourselves so that we become our own source of care and a source of love for others.

11/11/2025

Being with a partner who implies rather than says what they mean can be exhausting.😩

You’re left guessing, walking on eggshells and questioning yourself-instead of feeling safe and accepted.

Healthy connection is not about mind-reading or guessing games.

11/09/2025

Over time, when our partners drop little digs, smirks, comments, we start to shrink: editing our words, hiding parts of who we are, and walking on eggshells just to avoid criticism.

A judgemental partner can erode emotional safety and our relationship shifts from connection to self-protection.

Therapy can help you rebuild your voice and set boundaries. Remember, you deserve a relationship that sees you for who you are, not who you should be.

11/08/2025

When you give more than is asked for or explain more than is needed, or stay silent just to keep the peace, you’re not protecting your relationship; you’re protecting your fear of losing it.

A love built on overfunctioning is actually just survival.❤️‍🩹

Real love requires two people showing up not one person doing the work of both 🙏

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