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Sunday meditation is back and it starts this Sunday, September 7th. Please text to let us know you’re coming 🙏
09/03/2025

Sunday meditation is back and it starts this Sunday, September 7th. Please text to let us know you’re coming 🙏

The secret to having strong boundaries🤫You know how we’re always saying that we need to build better boundaries? Well…yo...
08/12/2025

The secret to having strong boundaries🤫

You know how we’re always saying that we need to build better boundaries? Well…you don’t have to build anything.

The truth about boundaries is that they already exist in their perfect form for every single situation. Your boundaries are actually already in place all the time. It’s not your job to build your boundaries; it’s your job to be aware of where they already are.

And this can be difficult if you grew up in a household where you had to caretake, perform, put other’s needs in front of your own, people please, be perfect, be good, not make trouble, where you didn’t have a say, where saying no was treated as a betrayal, where you learned to comply rather than negotiate or express discomfort.

If your childhood didn’t teach you that your voice matters, or that you’re allowed to take up space, it makes perfect sense that setting boundaries now feels unfamiliar or even threatening.

But boundaries aren’t rejection or selfishness. They’re self-respect and clarity — and they can be learned, practiced, and strengthened with time.☝️

Being around someone who is conflict avoidant can be difficult because it often leads to unspoken tension, miscommunicat...
08/11/2025

Being around someone who is conflict avoidant can be difficult because it often leads to unspoken tension, miscommunication, and emotional disconnection. Here’s why it can feel so hard🙌:
🫠Lack of Honesty or Clarity: Conflict avoidant people often withhold how they truly feel to keep the peace. This can leave you feeling confused, unsettled, or mistrusted, like you’re walking on eggshells.
🫣Unresolved Issues Pile Up: When someone avoids conflict, problems don’t get addressed, they linger or fester. You might find yourself carrying the emotional weight of things that should be shared or worked through together.

🥵You End Up Doing All the Emotional Labor: If you’re the one always initiating difficult conversations, it can feel one-sided. Over time, this imbalance leads to resentment or burnout.
😑Intimacy is Blocked: Real closeness requires vulnerability, including the ability to navigate disagreement. Conflict avoidance can create a barrier to authentic connection, even if everything looks calm on the surface.
🤔You Might Doubt Yourself: If they deny or dismiss tension, you might start questioning your own perceptions. This can feel invalidating or even gaslighting, especially if you’re emotionally aware.

In short:
Avoiding conflict may keep things “peaceful” — but it doesn’t make them healthy.😱

Healthy relationships require brave conversations, even if they’re uncomfortable. When that’s missing, emotional safety and trust can erode.

A therapist’s office in a garden.You might imagine it holds only trauma and tears, and yes, sometimes it does.But it als...
08/08/2025

A therapist’s office in a garden.
You might imagine it holds only trauma and tears, and yes, sometimes it does.
But it also holds:
quiet breakthroughs
new beginnings
deep learning
unburdening
the beginning of safety in connection

and the kind of healing that grows slowly, like roots beneath the soil.

This is not just a space for pain
it’s a space for transformation. 🌱

In healthy relationships, both people’s values and dreams need room to breathe. So the question might not just be “Is th...
07/15/2025

In healthy relationships, both people’s values and dreams need room to breathe. So the question might not just be “Is this good for the relationship?”—but also, “Is this good for me in the relationship?”

This is something we unpack again and again in therapy and learn not to abandon ourselves in the name of connection.

If we really look around, we can notice notice that mind reading does not seem to be working. Of the many couples that I...
06/28/2025

If we really look around, we can notice notice that mind reading does not seem to be working.

Of the many couples that I listen to in my practice, very few people clearly identify their relational wants and needs and figure out the best way to ask for them, and go after them😍😍

And if that first attempt fails, asking again. Or getting help trying to figure out how to ask in a way that can be heard.
What both sexes seem to do equally is complain🙃.

Couples counselling will help you learn to speak up without complaining and ask for, and sometimes get, what you really want❤️

The sadness that a loss brings has certain effects that are unique to mourning. It closes down our ability to be interes...
06/24/2025

The sadness that a loss brings has certain effects that are unique to mourning. It closes down our ability to be interested in distractions and pleasure; our attention is fixed on what is lost.

Our desire to take on anything new, or pursue an interest is gone for the time being. In short, grieving forces us to go into a contemplative retreat from life’s busyness and leaves us in a suspended state.

Have patience with yourself in those moments. Trust that life will come slowly trickling back in🙏

Suppress, not express. Traditional masculine values often reward emotional control, independence, and stoicism.But in t...
06/06/2025

Suppress, not express.

Traditional masculine values often reward emotional control, independence, and stoicism.
But in therapy, vulnerability is strength, not weakness.
And that shift can feel unfamiliar, even threatening, for many men raised to suppress rather than express.

•Because asking for help clashes with what they were taught strength looks like.
•Because vulnerability feels like weakness in a culture that rewards silence.

Therapy doesn’t make you less of a man, it helps you become more fully human.





In a time when genuine connection can feel harder to find, love still shows up.Not always in grand gestures—but in quiet...
05/28/2025

In a time when genuine connection can feel harder to find, love still shows up.
Not always in grand gestures—but in quiet repair, in choosing to stay, in learning how to really hear one another.

As a couples therapist, I see it every day: love isn’t always about ease—it’s about effort, growth, and showing up, especially when it’s hard.

Connection is possible. Love is resilient. And even in difficult moments, it’s never too late to build something strong, safe, and real.

05/02/2025

How do I stay flexible, warm, humble and forgiving in my relationships without letting someone walk all over me? These are skills we learn in couples counselling.

Finding a voice that doesn’t have to be harsh, that can be loving but firm, is truly evolving to be a better partner and creates a different dynamic between you and everyone ❤️

When two triggered selves try to solve problems in a relationship, we are no longer listening. ...
05/02/2025

When two triggered selves try to solve problems in a relationship, we are no longer listening.

When we strive to achieve top grades, be perfect moms, get perfect performance reviews, to dress just right for every oc...
04/27/2025

When we strive to achieve top grades, be perfect moms, get perfect performance reviews, to dress just right for every occasion, sometimes it’s because we’re scared to death of letting the mask slip to reveal our secret: the shame we carry as a byproduct of childhood beliefs that we are not good enough.

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