Mental Maintenance

08/03/2025

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08/02/2025

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If you're feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or like you're about to flip a table… this visual might help.
I have to remind myself daily that I cannot control traffic, the weather, or what that rando on Facebook thinks of my art. But I can control how I talk to myself while I spiral about it. (mostly kidding!)

08/02/2025

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08/01/2025

This is SO true. If you are just beginning your journey this is likely to happen.

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I remember the first time I had a big healing moment and opportunity, and I took it. I walked right through the healing door and expressed myself - telling someone I wasn’t okay with something instead of pleasing and pretending and fawning. It was a BIG deal. And you know what happened afterward?⁠

I cried. A lot. I questioned myself. I didn’t feel empowered. It wasn’t a mic-drop moment. It felt like death. It was awful…for a while. Until it wasn’t.⁠

When we move in the direction of healing — choosing to do things differently than before — it’s normal to expect contraction. It’s normal for it to not actually feel good or relieving or light. I share this with you because I don’t want you to experience it and then think it must be wrong or convince yourself that healing should feel easy and aligned…because it honestly doesn’t tend to feel that way in the beginning. You’re doing something brand new for the first time, and your system is unfamiliar. Unfamiliarity rarely feels like ease. Leave your thoughts below.

08/01/2025

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Healthy relationships require intentional actions from both parent and adult child.

You are not entitled to access in relationships.

07/31/2025

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You can inspire others, but you can’t change them. What person in your life have you been trying to change, trying to inspire to change, holding out hope for, etc? Who is it? Is it a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend? Just tune in here and name who it’s been for you. Most of the time we want another to change because we do believe it will benefit them, but let’s tune into ourselves here for the purpose of this post and exploration.

“If they change, what I get is…” Be with that. What gets offered to you if that other person integrates change? What relief do you feel? What validation or affirmation might you receive? What about the dynamic do you believe shifts, and why is that so important to you?

Reflect in this space. Yes, we want people to change because it often benefits them, but we also want people to change because it tends to benefit us as well. Maybe it’s relief for us, maybe it’s a witnessing of us that we’ve craved for so long, or maybe it’s having our pain finally understood. Deep breath here. Notice what it is for you, and notice how if you’re being asked to release trying to get another to change, you might also be releasing and letting go of the hope that you’ll get the relief in the way you thought, get witnessed in the way you’ve craved, and be understood in the way you hope for.
Ahh…grief.

If I release needing to control you I must begin (or continue) to grieve. There is loss that shows up when we release. Might you make a bit of room to feel into that loss?

07/31/2025

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07/30/2025

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07/30/2025

Looking for ways to support your young person? Struggling to find ways to communicate effectively? Join Foundry Virtual BC in our upcoming Emotional Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) workshop! This 2-day workshop will help caregivers learn skills to connect and support their loved one. Any caregiver of a youth aged 12-24 living in BC can join this virtual workshop.

Register today through the Foundry BC app! Questions? Please email efftworkshop@foundrybc.ca 🐚

07/30/2025

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07/30/2025

Being kind and gentle with yourself goes a long way

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🌸 gentle reminder 🌸

You are doing better than you think. Even on the days that feel heavy or chaotic, you’re still worthy, still enough, and still deserving of love💜

This is your sign to pause, breathe, and show yourself the same kindness you give to others.

07/28/2025

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