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07/22/2024

𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗖𝗼𝘀𝘁𝘀

No matter where you are headed… in your career, in your personal life, or just down the road.

No matter who you're going with… by yourself, with just the one or with more or less than a friend.

No matter what… it’ll cost you something or things.

Could be money, definitely would take time, might be something even costlier…

While on your way, take a moment to think about where you are travelling today.
On your flight, before putting a movie on or reading your book.
On your drive out of or into town, before connecting your bluetooth or turning the radio on.
On the sidewalk, before bumping into neighbours and friends for a chat.

Even if you might just be taking a joyride, or you’re out for a leisurely stroll. Even if you think it’s nowhere in particular that you’re headed. You are going somewhere.

Everywhere you go, you are spending something. At the least, energy. Then there’s gas, if there are others with you, they might get hungry. Then, even if you aren’t, you might spend on a little something. After all, people in groups don’t eat alone.

In your business, in your relationships, no matter where you are headed… It will come with its set of expenses. Some that are hidden, or are a surprise.

Accepting the Travel Costs means welcoming the set of sacrifices you might need to make to keep getting where you’re going.

Pretending you can swing it, with no real plan but to wing it… That's first accepting you might not make it.

07/17/2024

𝗥𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

Do you ever think of past events? Ask yourself over and over again why you did something this way instead of that way... Do you get caught up in your thoughts and wish you could stop?

Thinking of past events is not a bad thing. It's how we can plan different ways of doing things in the future. It's when we start thinking about past events again and again, and it doesn't seem to help us. On the contrary, it might start to make us feel down more than anything else.

This is rumination. It's often associated with one type of depression.

It's also frequent with anxiety. An anxious kind of rumination is more readily focused on future events.

We think over scenarios that haven't happened yet. This can make it difficult to find out what the real outcome would be. We play back and back the same possible way a situation might go and every time we do... it's less likely that we can imagine any other way this could go. So we might avoid the situation all together.

Thinking of future events is not a bad thing. It's how we can anticipate the way how what we do today might affect tomorrow.

So the best way to help rumination might not be to stop thinking about the past and the future. What you can do today, is try to accept what happened and what will happen.

If you're looking for ways suited to you specifically, reach out! 👇
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07/16/2024

𝗜𝘀 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗤𝘂𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴?

Have you ever gotten to a point where you don’t know how to go on?
That’s okay! Maybe you just need a break. They’re healthy and useful.
If you’re on the fence about taking a break, keep reading!

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘀 𝗟𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀

1) 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
It doesn’t mean the sentence is over and done with, breaks are there to let us catch our breath.
(Try it: Read that last sentence out-loud.)

2) 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘀. But, only if they’re followed by another sentence.
They work not only by letting you catch your breath, but to let the thought sink in.
What about the last period of the last paragraph? Isn’t that like taking a break which leads to quitting?

Sometimes, breaks do lead to the end of a text. Everything comes to an end. It’s not quitting, if it’s just the right time to stop.

3) 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹;
They can reveal new information… They can also change your feelings around!

Like in sentences, you’ll take a whole bunch of different breaks in life.

They all work like punctuation.

1) It’s okay that you need time to recuperate or recover, to take a comma:
• Lunch break at work
• Water breaks between sets of exercises
• Quitely listening to music after a long day of phone calls

2) To help rearrange your thoughts, you’ll want to take longer period breaks too:
• painting, sketching or scrapbooking
• a loose hour of stretching or yoga
• 2 weeks vacation

3) There are breaks that we might not want to accept they could be very useful
• Social media detox
• Setting a manuscript aside due to writer’s block
• Taking a break as a couple

Why is it we don’t usually want to accept the likely mental health benefits of the 3) kind of break?

We might be attached to our phones, tender about our craft, or devoted to our partner. Some periods might be the end of the end of the last sentence of the last paragraph, right? Some breaks lead to endings…

Yes, it’s true that they sometimes do:
• Your social media detox could lead you to find new ways of getting some socializing hours in.

• Abandoning a piece of work that’s so close and personal to you, all those hours put in… you might realize that it’s another one for the Drafts-I’ll-Never-Finish-Though-I-Pretend-I-Will pile.

• Breaks in relationships can help couples (now ex-partners) come to terms that they need some time to work on themselves, without having to worry so much about another person in the meantime.

But taking breaks can also lead to the opposite:
• The detox helps you get a grip on your screen-time so you can keep both your on-line and off-line circles in the loop.

• Taking some time away might revitalize your enthusiasm for the piece, and can even bring inspiration back by broadening your perspective on the narative through differing life experiences.

• Taking breaks are known to help couples realize they really do want to be so close in eachother’s lives. They can get partners back together stronger than ever, with new middle-grounds that lead to a more fruitful relationship and cohesive unit.

When you feel like quitting all-together… You might want to accept that you could use a break instead. Taking some time to recover, some distance to get an overall look, and some reflection on your thoughts and feelings is a generally healthy piece of advice.

If you are getting ready to take a break, from work, from a hobby/craft, from a relationship, make sure to get in touch with the right kinds of specialists! Each kind of break has its own special ways of going about them.

If you’re looking to quit something, though… 👇
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07/09/2024

𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘂𝗮𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

When you hear 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙪𝙖𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣, what do you think about?
• A car salesman trying to upsell you an old be**er?
• A coworker trying to get rid of shifts you don’t want?
• Getting gaslighted into losing an argument?

These are all valid forms of 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙪𝙖𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 – When your decisions might actively be influenced by others. These are One-sided persuasive examples… when someone is trying to get you to do something to their benefit, but at your disadvantage.

Other forms of 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙪𝙖𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 can include:

1) Mutual: Classic closing on a win-win deal. Each side wants to influence the others’ decision to work towards a common goal together.

2) Unnoticed: Everyday, we get persuaded. To cross the intersection when the walking icon turns on, for example.

- Or, Social Proof (Cialdini, R.) where we assume a video will be good because it has a lot of likes.

- Or, when you get hungry after seeing a food ad. Or, when we suggest you reach out if you want to work on improving your mental wellbeing…👇

3) Other-sided: Some forms are more wholesome. The persuader gets the least benefit. Convincing someone to let you carry their heavy things. Reminding someone of all the wonderful things there are to live for down the line.

Opportunities can be a form of Mutual persuasion. So if you notice someone trying to persuade you, don't miss out on opportunities by shutting them off right away!
Wonder:
Is this likely One-sided against me?

07/05/2024

“Can't is the worst word that's written or spoken[…]
[It] robs us of courage we need through the day[…]
And laughs when we falter and fall by the way.” (Edgar A. Guest, Can't)

Edgar was an old-timey version of an inspirational content creator, who “posted” over ten thousand poems. Despite Dorothy Parker’s opinion of his writing, they were appreciated by many. One even made it in an Audi commercial.

Guest had been a British guest in the USA for so long that, in classic American hospitality, they just let him stay. His work was so well received, they gave him naturalized citizenship. This means he didn’t have to apply for one.

His Wiki is slim on details of his personal life. When a prolific content creator doesn’t have much history on the person, this is usually a sign of someone who lived a peaceful and reserved life. This would be important to be able to churn out so much content in 50 writing years.

Whatever your personal goal it is that you want to achieve…

Accept You Can

Or really…

Refuse to Accept You Can’t

How are you sure that what you want is impossible to get? With that attitude, you’ll be right. Is being right what you want? Or is it what you want that you want?

Have a gaol-oriented Friday!

07/04/2024

𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗔𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲

Do you like drama? You know… emotionally charged social interactions.

Recorded Drama
Maybe you like to read romantic novels, or you can appreciate a well-done war movie. You might be using these outlets to escape your own difficult situations. Maybe you like to learn from other’s mistakes. Is it that you could use some hope in knowing that if the characters can find a way out of their tough spots, so can you.

Hey, ever looked at geology as the history of the ground? Zero drama in dirt. History with a capital H, though, is the record of people who did things so consequential, other people thought it should be written down. That it shouldn’t be forgotten. That’s all drama. Not the kind that typically evokes strong feelings, but still…

Drama is not always a good or bad thing.

Interpersonal Drama
Unhealthy drama is the kind that you purposely get involved into. If you:
• take a bit too much interest in the drama of others around you,
• seem to get involved in drama too often, or
• participate/encourage drama to distract you from your own situations

It might be time to Accept Some Alone Time.

The best way to gain an overview on a situation you are involved in, is to distance yourself from the situation.

Some distance away from the strong sentiment-causing situations will help approach it later, with more consideration.

Help spending some time alone? 👇
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07/03/2024

Accepting the Silence

When things go quiet in life...
Maybe you're getting the silence treatment.
It could be that you've lost contact with someone.

When everything goes still and quiet, there is only one way to welcome it for what it is, and that's to-

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07/02/2024

𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲𝘀

Ever had a disagreement with someone close to you? Maybe it's
• a friend
• a romantic partner
• a parent or child
• could even be with a caretaker, MD or mental healthcare worker.

Being close is to be more vulnerable than with strangers.
Friends have your back, spinal surgeons might literally have your back.
It's perfectly normal that your disagreements with significant others hits deep.

Conflicts and contradictions with those close to us will be demanding on our feelings (at varying degrees of intensity). It's because we've let ourselves become familiar. We want to keep their longest-term company, a bit like a good family. We have wants and needs, but if having those means we risk losing them…

There are a few things you can do when faced when your desires clash with those who are close:

1) Drop to overflow the bucket - that's it, I'm leaving to take some time away. I might or might not come back.
The more familiar, the harder this is to do.

2) 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲 - we meet in the middle where everyone gets closer to what they want. Two people closer to being happy is better than one person happy, the other completely unhappy (eventually making neither happy).
Acceptance leads to compromises.

3) Show our bellies - we submit to the other's demands, although we are not happy with the results. This is not usually a healthy form of acceptance.
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06/18/2024

𝗜 𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁

This expression is crammed with acceptance talk.

By reminding yourself that you can live with a certain situation, you are making the choice of accepting certain aspects of your life that aren't in your control.

There are things we don't have that we can't live without. Food or sleep, for example.
There are things that if we do have, we can't live with it. Carbon monoxide, for example.

The expression
𝗜 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁
reminds us that, even if uncomfortable, there are other things that we literally cannot live with.

If you're looking for a way to encourage your acceptance, ask yourself if you can live with it. Then you can decide if you want to live with it or not, and figure out how to make either or happen.

If there are things you think you can't live with anymore, book 👇
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𝘗𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘺 𝘑𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘏𝘦𝘺𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯 𝘜𝘯𝘴𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘩

06/17/2024

Accepting a Refusal

Ever got that abrupt answer?

No.

Rejection might not feel nice. We could feel like:

• our perfectly reasonable request was somehow misinterpreted,
• that our authority is being challenged,
• that our needs aren't being met,
• that we, not our request was rejected, or
• that others won't do like us (and then, what's wrong with how we do things?)
• the list could go on...

Part of being able to accept something means that you should also be able to refuse it, right? If you can accept a certain flavour of ice cream, you should also be able to decline that one for a different one.

If you usually go for vanilla, but pick chocolate this time... haven't you accepted chocolate, but also refused vanilla? Is it that you don't like vanilla, now that you have chocolate?

Ice cream probably doesn't have feelings. So choosing one flavour over another won't do anything to your treat. It's likely that the ice cream doesn't care.

But people do care about the choices of others. And sometimes, they have to make decisions that end in two letters.

No.

If they can also choose to accept your offer, they would need to be able to refuse as well.

When this happens, you can always start by accepting the fact that a refusal of a choice is not the rejection of a person. It also means that those who stick around think you should also be able to refuse things down the line. That your refusal won't be taken as a rejection of their person.

If refusal still = rejection 👇

06/13/2024

2) Accepting What You're Made Of

The Jersey doesn't make the hockey player.

It's good to have inspirational people. Those helping you stay focused on your goal. If you wanted to be an NHL player, having your national team's jersey can keep you motivated. Putting on your favourite player's jersey won't help you reach your goals just because you look like a pro. You don't start playing like a pro by slapping a famous name and number on your back, right?

It's the effort, the hours, the dedication that scores the Ws.

If we get how we look to others and how we really are deep down mixed up...

The jersey is a reflection of the player, not the other way around. If we are sure that appearing or acting a certain way will give us the results that only consistent work on ourselves brings, we might have a hard time figuring out why we never really feel like we know ourselves. Like we know what the next steps are, to feel like we are really improving.

The jersey is the reflection of a hockey player's career. Whom you become and look like to others is an exterior representation of who you are. The jerseys of those you get inspired by are the product of the effort. If you are looking to accept yourself, try to find out what your jersey looks like.

It's by not comparing and trying to look like others that we can learn to accept ourselves. Then we figure out what parts we can change that gets us to act like those who inspire us. Accept your jersey, then work on making it a collectible

06/12/2024

3) Accepting the Offers - Acceptance Taken for Granted

Offers are exchanged between people.

This can be a piece of advice someone offers.
Unsolicited advice happens when the receiver is not interested in accepting what is being offered.

It could be a gift.
When you accept someone's gift, you let them know that you accept their offer of being on good terms.

Another kind of offer comes in the form of opportunities.
By taking an opportunity someone else makes available for you, you're also accepting their offer to help.

All 3:
- accepting shared knowledge
- accepting a gift
- accepting an opportunity
is also a way of letting others know that you accept them.

There are offers that we might not notice throughout the day.
For example, you probably live in a country. That country has laws that you probably did not write. You are still likely to accept to live in accordance to them.

This might seem like an obvious statement.
But, think about that fact. You might begin to notice other areas in your life where your acceptance to daily offers is taken for granted.
Think of it like accepting automatic phone updates.
You accept an offer for your phone to accept all future offers to update for you.

If you mind your acceptance being taken for granted, try and see if you can't notice anywhere in your life where things seem to be decided for you. Especially if you don't get notified.

Before making an offer to a friend, you can always ask if they'd mind being offered something first.

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