05/11/2024
There are so many things that could be said in relation to Mothers Day, so many ways each of us might experience it, so many feelings that might sound within us.
This year, I'm choosing to celebrate one aspect: All those who are doing what they can to interrupt intergenerational trauma. We may not be able to stop all of it from being passed on to our children, but every bit we do save them from matters. When we replace, transmute, transform through the gifts of our greater resources, awareness, and (on the more balanced days) capacity, we make the world a safer, more whole and loving place. Every act of acceptance of ourselves and our children creates possibility for growth, healing and freedom.
If you have been hurt by intergenerational trauma and are working to prevent the same injuries from happening to your child, you deserve a standing ovation. It is often not easy to do. Your own wounds can so easily get stimulated when your kiddo simply does typical kid things, things you did but were mistreated for doing. If you were raised by emotionally damaged or immature people, you're having to unlearn unhelpful ways of interacting, and find new ways to navigate the world of feelings, find new language that can sometimes be as difficult as learning a different dialect.
May you be gentle with yourself. May you have reverence for yourself. May you feel proud of this tremendous legacy you're creating for your family. On this Mother's Day, may you acknowledge and celebrate all the beautiful mothering that has come to this world because of you 💜
