Chantale Elliott Counselling & Wellness Steps

09/17/2025

08/29/2025

08/27/2025

Our monthly Peer-led ADHD Support Groups are back this September! 👏

Whether you’re a parent of a child with ADHD, an adult living with ADHD, a teen navigating your diagnosis, or someone managing both ADHD & substance use disorder, you don’t have to do it alone! All of CADDAC's support groups are led by trained peer facilitators who get it. 🧡

Learn more about all of our groups and register now at caddac.ca/programs-events

08/15/2025

This can be really hard if you’ve been socialized to be a caretaker. If on some level you believe you’re responsible for the feelings of other adults.

But what you’re responsible for is your behavior, not their feelings.
You’re responsible for getting in touch with and communicating your needs and limits in relationship, and taking action to make sure they’re reliably met. And to maintain a healthy dynamic, you have to allow the other person to have their own genuine response to your truth.

To show up fully in relationship, you have to be willing to let other people see you.
To connect from a place of authenticity means you don’t try to control the outcome; you allow them the space to respond to whatever you’re putting out there.
This allows you to see more of them, too.
If boundaries are threatening to them, that gives you information.
If they’re happy to respect and support you, that also gives you information.

But if you’re always trying to perceive in advance how someone might take something and avoid anything that might make them uncomfortable, you're taking on too much responsibility in that relationship. You’re actively controlling the outcome, and that isn’t good for anybody - for you or them.

Yes, this is an old pattern.
It often comes from a place of self-protection.
But your work is in developing trust in your adult self - in learning to process uncomfortable feelings and advocate for yourself as needed.
As this becomes clearer, it becomes more possible to let go of this interpersonal stickiness - to let other people be who they’re going to be.
Because it feels so much better when you learn that it’s safe to be authentically you!

If you want some help learning how to get clearer on your own needs and feelings and learning to communicate them more effectively, especially in conflict, that’s just one aspect of what we'll work on in the 12 month Cycle Breakers program beginning September 2nd.
Come learn new tools and ways of operating within human systems that might get you different results.
https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

08/14/2025

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08/14/2025

ADHD doesn't go away in the summer, and neither do our Adult ADHD Support Groups!☀️

Join us for the first meeting of our Summer Series on Wednesday, July 16th -- more dates coming soon!

Register: https://caddac.ca/programs-events/wednesday-adult-adhd-peer-led-support-group/

08/11/2025

Yes it would be nice, and yes it’s possible. What I’ve found as a couples therapist is that most problems will resolve themselves when each partner starts to feel heard and validated. Of course this isn’t true with every problem, but learning to navigate the lower stakes problems with health can dramatically improve the couples’ ability to navigate the higher stakes problems. This account has a ton of advice to help you learn how ❤️

08/05/2025

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07/26/2025