
08/03/2025
Narcissistic traits often stem from deep-rooted insecurity, early attachment wounds, or unmet emotional needs.
While it’s common to think of narcissism as purely selfish or manipulative, the truth is more complex.
Many people who show narcissistic behaviors aren’t trying to harm others—they’re trying to protect a fragile sense of self.
Recognizing these patterns doesn’t mean you’re a bad person—it means you’re aware enough to reflect and grow.
Healing begins when you stop avoiding the discomfort and start facing what’s underneath.
Here are 3 ways to help yourself gently and intentionally:
Practice radical self-honesty (with compassion): Begin noticing where you deflect blame, seek excessive validation, or struggle with empathy. Journaling helps bring unconscious patterns to light.
Focus on secure, mutual relationships: Seek connections where emotional safety, vulnerability, and reciprocity are valued. Try giving without expecting praise in return.
Work with a trauma-informed therapist: Therapies like EMDR, IFS (Internal Family Systems), or schema therapy can help address the underlying wounds driving narcissistic defenses.
You’re not stuck with these patterns forever. The fact that you’re willing to look at them is already a step toward healing.