Horsford Counselling, Coaching and Consulting

02/27/2025

Daily I hear people tell me they feel a lack of control in our uncertain world. You may not like the outcome we get today but the odds of getting closer to what you want goes up when you file an application. Our democracy is far from perfect but when we don't vote we erode our rights and freedoms. As a woman I vote because women before me could not. I vote so that the efforts and lives of those who sacrificed for my freedom were not lost in vain.

This election was slapped together (also not ok) so if you didn't get your voter's card or don't know where to go check online elections.on.ca for your polling station and show up with any piece of ID or a piece of mail, they can add you to a voter's list and you can still vote.

12/24/2024

Wishing you all a safe and restful holiday season!
Check your email for Holiday Season Tips and Office Hours.
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06/26/2024

On Sunday we walked for women's mental health. We still have a long way to go:
-In standardizing assessments for women (especially ADHD and Autism).
-In understanding that bearing a child is traumatic. -That mental health is not just "hormones".
-That pain, although perhaps somatic, is a result of caring for others and not "all in her head".
When women's mental health improves we all benefit. Each step on Sunday was another in the right direction.

06/17/2024

I am so grateful for your continued support of this practice and allowing me to walk with you through your journey. As the practice continues to grow, I have made the difficult decision to increase Individual Session Rates starting July 15th, 2024. Please check your emails for more information. Thank you!

03/22/2024

This! Here is the magic!

12/23/2023

I just want to thank you for a wonderful year! Returning clients, check your emails for info on sessions during the first week of Jan. I'll be back in the office January 9th! Have a safe and restful holiday!

12/02/2023

Need an appointment? Time to plan your holiday rest or how to cope with the holiday season.

05/08/2023

The Gottman method is the most researched approach to couples therapy. It's backed by 40 years of behavioural research. Want to know more? Reach out and set up a consultation with you and your partner. You would be amazed what simple things can make such a big difference in your relationship!

05/08/2023

Are you feeling heavy, exhausted, or irritated with everyone and everything? Not enough time to get everything done? Don't keep spinning tires. You could be experiencing burn-out. Contact me to find out more and get started today.
Both in-person and virtual options.

Looking for a counsellor who understands the pressures of school, work, relationships and life? Sarah Horsford provides an empathetic space for counselling in t

05/06/2023

This story...

Yasmine has been with Dan for 8 years. They met in her mid 20s and she instantly fell for his charm, his silliness, and how easy it was to be around him.

Dan has always had an impulsive, sporadic side. In her younger years, Yasmine loved this. He felt exciting. But, for the past couple of years, it’s felt draining. Dan has always been short-fused and highly reactive. He’s easily dysregulated and will slam things or call her an “idiot” if he’s frustrated enough.

She’s witnessed the same short fuse in his father. And she’s watched his mother tiptoe around his temper.

Yasmine is deeply concerned about Dan’s drinking. How frequent it’s become. And how he often drinks more than he planned on. She’s done healing work and has educated herself enough to know he’s struggling.

She also knows his other side: the kind, caring, deeply loving side. She knows the depth of how much he loves her. She knows that at his core, he wants to do better.

But she doesn’t feel like the relationship is two adults in love. A part of her feels like she has a child. Someone she can’t fully trust or depend on. Someone who can’t meet her needs because they’re struggling to take care of themselves.

Dan feels her pulling away. His insecurities and wounding get the best of him. He starts to become extremely jealous: making accusations and pushing her away even farther.

She knows Dan is emotionally immature, and she’s working on her own maturity. She wants this to work and fears starting over. She tells Dan: “I know you’re going through something. I want to be there for you, but we can’t go on this way.” She suggests therapy.

Dan gets reactive: “I’m never going to be good enough for you!” He leaves like he often does when he wants to avoid a situation. Or, feels vulnerable.

Yasmine is slowly awakening and facing the painful relation: that she must choose herself.

She’s worked hard to heal from her own version of survival mode of growing up in financial insecurity. She wants better for her life.

While she knows that Dan is full of potential, she knows she wants to build a life with someone and that behavior is the ultimate communication

04/27/2023

Current clients: I have a couple rare Thursday slots available for tomorrow April 27th!!! Shoot me an email if the booking link doesn't give you options.

04/06/2023

New and exciting things are happening! Check your email for more info!