Melanie Huffman Child & Family Counselling

11/16/2024

We spend so much energy trying not to feel when what we really need is to recognize the feeling, give ourselves permission to feel it, then let it go...

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09/16/2023

Love this Attachment Nerd

09/15/2023

Researchers have shown that we think more than 50,000 thoughts per day, of which more than half are negative and more than 90% are just repeats from the day before (Wood, 2013)

09/12/2023

I love this so much! I can still recall an adult caring for one of my littles literally saying to me “he refuses to co-regulate” 🤔

09/12/2023

Great tips!

Found at https://www.pinterest.com/pin/550002173257173819/

09/10/2023

I cringed a little when I read the title of this article. I’ve been thinking (and learning) a lot recently about how we “manage” not only ASD but any neurodivergence.

It feels icky in my core. Shaming, pathologizing, judgemental. So much of my learning up until recently has been focused at targeting the unwanted behaviour (read inconvenient for us allistic, neurotypical folks).

Forcing kids to be compliant - easier for us to manage, more like everyone else. Of course as a parent, teacher, human we do require cooperation at times - and life would be a lot easier (for us!) if kids just “did what they were told”!

But the question I keep asking myself and the parents I support is “yes, and at what cost?”

Anyway - back to the article - I read it with an open mind and did like a lot of what was there - as long as the goal is to improve the experience of the person - and not only make life easier for us!

Autism can cause challenging behaviors in children, and parents need to implement consistent interventions in order to create positive change. Here's how to get started.

09/10/2023

Managing expectations

08/19/2023

08/19/2023

Love is always undifferentiated - it never judges.

07/27/2023

Indeed it is! And the F word sometimes helps 🤷🏻

REAL TALK. Sometimes parenting is really really difficult. Sometimes you don’t have the right words or the next steps. There’s no handbook to consult for the unique situations that come up for your family. There may be days, weeks, months, or YEARS of uphill battles and sleepless nights wondering if you’re doing the right thing or doing enough or doing too much or or or....Just know you are not alone. Reach out to someone if you need help or a place to vent or kind words of reassurance. You are not somehow stronger by toughing it out and trying to manage everything by yourself. We are stronger together when we are in healthy community with one another 🖤

07/26/2023

A must read for anyone who loves or cares for adolescents 📚