10/19/2025
Not everything is meant to take root,and we can't always rush what is.
I’ve been thinking about how much of life and healing resembles the slow process of planting. You tuck something small and fragile beneath the soil. You water it, you nurture it, you do everything “right,” and still… there’s this long, uncertain stretch of waiting before anything appears.
It’s such a strange kind of faith to keep showing up when you can’t yet see any proof that your effort matters. To trust that something is quietly taking shape in the dark.
There have been so many moments in my own life where I wanted to rush that process. I wanted the answers, the healing, the clarity now. I wanted to know that what I was pouring my energy into would eventually bloom. But life rarely moves on the schedule we wish it would. Real, lasting, embodied growth happens underground first. In silence. In slowness. In murky and uncertain conditions. In unexpected ways.
Sometimes, what we’re tending to needs time to anchor. We need to work out the kinks. Sometimes, it needs stillness more than strategy. And sometimes, despite all our care and hope, not everything we plant will take root. Not every dream will bloom, not every relationship will grow, not every version of ourselves will make it through the seasons.
And that’s hard. It can feel like loss or failure. But it’s also part of how we learn about timing, readiness, and alignment. Some things are meant to root elsewhere, and some not at all.
Lately, I have been asking myself what kind of conditions am I creating for the things I hope will grow? As well as the things that have died.
I have been giving myself permission to wonder about the things that aren't growing. That have died a long time ago.
The truth is, we can’t rush what’s meant to root, or always save what's meant to die.The work happens quietly, often invisibly, while we’re learning how to hold space for what we can’t yet see.
So if you’re in that in-between space right now and tending to something that hasn’t bloomed yet, I hope you can remember this: unseen growth is still growth.
