Karameon Counselling & Support Services

08/28/2025

LEGO THERAPY...for those on the autism spectrum! Register today!

08/21/2025

08/15/2025

An exciting opportunity for children on the spectrum! Come and learn and grow using LEGO! Contact Betty at betty@karameon for more information or to register.

08/07/2025

Karameon Counselling Services Ltd is excited to announce a new group happening this fall, Lego Therapy.

08/07/2025

Karameon Counselling Services is excited to a new group happening this fall...Lego Therapy!

08/06/2025

When a Child Won’t Tell the Truth—What’s Really Happening? 🤔

You’ve probably had this moment before—you're with a child, and you know they’re lying.

Maybe you saw it with your own eyes. Maybe you have undeniable proof. Maybe you just know.

And yet, they won’t admit it.

You might feel the urge to say:
💭 “Just tell me the truth!”
💭 “I saw you do it—why are you lying?”
💭 “You’re only making this worse!”

But here’s something to consider: Telling the truth isn’t just about honesty. It’s about safety.

Why Do Children Struggle to Tell the Truth?

Before a child can tell you the truth, they first have to be able to tell themselves the truth.

And that? That’s not always easy.

1️⃣ It Has to Feel Safe on the Inside
Even beyond external safety, the child has to be able to sit with the truth within themselves first.

If a child already carries feelings of:

❌ Internalized guilt
❌ Internalized shame
❌ Internalized inadequacy

…then admitting the truth means facing those feelings head-on. And for many children, that’s too much.

Lying isn’t just about avoiding consequences—it’s about avoiding feeling like a bad person.

2️⃣ It Has to Feel Safe on the Outside
A child will only tell the truth if it feels safe enough to do so.

🔹 If telling the truth means shame…
🔹 If telling the truth means anger or rejection…
🔹 If telling the truth means getting in trouble…

Then why would they admit it? Why would they put themselves in harm’s way?

If the reaction to truth-telling is fear-based, the brain registers lying as the safer option.

So What Can We Do?

Instead of demanding the truth, try creating safety first.

✔️ Regulate before you respond. If your own frustration rises, pause. Take a breath. Shift from “I need them to tell me the truth” to “What’s making it hard for them to be honest?”

✔️ Normalize that mistakes happen. “Sometimes we make choices we don’t feel good about. That doesn’t change how I see you.”

✔️ Make honesty feel like connection, not punishment. “It’s okay to tell me the truth. I’ll be here with you.”

So the next time you catch yourself wanting a child to “just tell the truth,” pause and ask:

💡 Does this child feel safe enough—inside and out—to be honest?
💡 What fears or internal struggles might be getting in the way?
💡 How can I make truth-telling a safe and supported experience?

Because when we create safety first, honesty follows.

Much love on the journey 💜

Lisa

08/06/2025

Did I miss any tips for coping with change? I’ve got a big change coming for me tomorrow, and I’m scared (and excited)!!

08/06/2025

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08/06/2025

Responsive Parenting Inspirations 💕

07/31/2025

"Back to School Blues? Let's Paint Them Away! 🖌️💫"
📚✏️ School is starting—but feelings don’t stop!
Help your child ease into the new school year with colour, creativity, and connection in our Expressive Art Group for Kids age 7-12.
🎨 No art skills needed—just a big heart and a curious mind!
🧠 Kids explore emotions, build confidence, and make friends through fun, mindful art activities guided by a child art educator.
🕒 Starts August 7 for four weeks | Limited spots!
💡Because sometimes what kids can't say... they can draw
Contact Angela for more information angela@karameon.com
www.karameon.com

07/28/2025

🧠 Learning to Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Setting boundaries is not selfish. It is a healthy and essential part of emotional well-being. Still, many people struggle with guilt when they start saying no, expressing limits, or asking for space.

Here is the truth:
✅ Boundaries protect your energy and relationships
✅ They help you show up with intention, not resentment
✅ They are a form of self-respect, not rejection of others

Guilt often shows up when you are doing something new, not something wrong. If you were raised to prioritize others, keep the peace, or avoid conflict, boundary-setting can feel uncomfortable at first.

Therapy can help you unlearn patterns that keep you stuck, understand your emotional needs, and build confidence in expressing them clearly.
You deserve relationships that include your voice too.

Reach out today: https://karameon.com/contact/

07/24/2025

Getting Ready for Back to School!