Audhd Unfiltered

Audhd Unfiltered Canadian, Autistic, ADHD, and unfiltered. Welcome into my brain and daily life

09/29/2025

There are days when I look back and ask myself:
“Did I waste my time?”

All those things I started but never finished.
All those directions I chased with passion… then left behind.
All those projects, relationships, efforts, sleepless nights for something I don’t even pursue anymore.

But you know what?
No. I didn’t lose anything.

Because with every detour, I grew.
With every abandoned idea, I learned my limits, my needs, my values.
With every unfinished project, I discovered a new part of myself.

We live in a world that glorifies the straight line.
Consistency. The “finish what you start.”
As if changing your mind was weakness. As if exploring was a waste of time.

But what we forget is that detours, twists, trial and error… that’s what makes us human.
Not performance machines. Not maximum-efficiency robots. Living beings, in motion.

So if you’ve set something aside that once lit you up, you didn’t fail.
You just listened to yourself.

And that’s an achievement in itself.

You didn’t waste your time.
You built yourself. You adapted. You changed.
And that is anything but nothing.

09/28/2025

“I should forgive her… she’s my mother after all.”
“You only get one family.”

How many times have I heard that from clients, as if simply being related by blood gave someone a free pass for everything.

But no.
You don’t have to tolerate humiliation just because “it’s family.”
You don’t have to endure abuse just because “it’s your father.”
You don’t have to apologize for putting distance in order to survive.

Being a parent is a choice.
Giving life is not a favor you owe back.
It’s a responsibility to carry, a commitment to a child, not a lifelong debt contract.

You don’t owe them anything.
You don’t have to “stay in touch” just to please society.
You don’t have to “pretend” for Christmas dinners.

You have the right to say no.
The right to set boundaries.
The right to cut ties if it protects you.
And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for that right.

Blood ties mean nothing if they’re woven in pain.
What matters is safety, respect, real love, not appearances.

And if your peace requires distance, then that is the best decision you could have made. Even if no one else understands.

You deserve relationships that are good for you. Period.

Yes, I’m a psychosocial worker.Yes, I’m part of the mental health field.But I’m also autistic. With ADHD.I’m not “cured....
09/28/2025

Yes, I’m a psychosocial worker.
Yes, I’m part of the mental health field.
But I’m also autistic. With ADHD.

I’m not “cured.” I haven’t “become neurotypical.” And that’s not what I teach my clients either.

Of course, I’ve gained skills and knowledge through my studies.
Yes, they’ve had a direct impact on my quality of life.
Yes, I know a lot about psychology and the mechanisms behind behaviors.
But… my brain is still AuDHD.

I still take things literally.
I still need my bubble 95% of the time.
My sensory difficulties are still there.
My routines are still essential.
And so on.

My role isn’t to teach you how to stop being yourself.
It’s to help you build a life that respects your way of being.
A life that takes into account your needs, your functioning, your particularities.

The way I’ve learned to do with mine.

Not to be “high functioning.”
Not to look more “adapted” than I really am.

The goal isn’t to fit the mold.
The goal is to respect yourself.
And that, in itself, is huge.

Nebula painting!! Yeah it looks like a dolphin... wasn't on purpose xD
09/28/2025

Nebula painting!!

Yeah it looks like a dolphin... wasn't on purpose xD

09/27/2025

People love to call us lazy.
But laziness doesn’t exist.

What exists is lack of energy, lack of alignment, lack of access, lack of support, or sometimes just our brain saying “this task doesn’t make sense for me right now.”

None of that is laziness.
It’s context.

09/27/2025

I rarely get bored when I’m alone.
But surround me with people I can’t be myself with, in a noisy or superficial setting… and yeah. I’m gone. BORRREEEDDD out of my mind.

It’s not being antisocial.
It’s not snubbing people.
It’s just that my brain needs meaning, calm, real connection. STIMULATION!

I can spend hours reflecting, creating, dreaming, exploring ideas… without ever feeling bored.
But a dinner where I have to pretend I’m interested in surface-level conversations?
Exhausting. And honestly, dull.

If you see yourself in this: you’re not weird.
You just have a rich inner life, and you don’t need outside noise to exist.

09/27/2025

The ADHD brain and parentheses…
A true love story.

Because every idea comes with a sub-idea.
(And that sub-idea also has a nuance to add.)
(And that nuance has a fun fact on top of it.)
(And then I remember some random but relevant thing I ABSOLUTELY need to say right now.)

Result: I talk like I’m opening 14 tabs… and never closing them.

And I write the way I think. With parentheses. Inside parentheses.

And I know you do too xD

09/26/2025

Ever notice how people say “you don’t have time”?

The truth is: you do have time.
You just don’t take the time.

And that’s okay!
It’s about priorities, energy, and survival.

But saying “I don’t have time” makes it sound like time is a thief.
No... it’s about choices, not scarcity.

09/26/2025

Your nervous system doesn’t lie.
When it tells you “this is too much,” it’s not laziness.
It’s not drama.
It’s a call.

A call for rest.
A call for safety.
A call for regulation.

Your body isn’t trying to sabotage you, it’s trying to protect you.
It’s telling you where your limits are, even when your mind tries to push past them.
And ignoring it doesn’t make you stronger.
It just makes you disconnected.

Listening doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means you’re wise enough to stop pretending you’re a machine.
It means you’re giving yourself permission to be human : sensitive, alive, responsive.

So when your system says “too much”…
believe it.
Answer it with compassion.
Because every time you listen, you’re not just calming your body, you’re rebuilding trust with yourself.

09/26/2025

When I found out I was autistic… I started to breathe.
Not like “oh wow, everything makes sense now” (though yeah, a little).
But mostly… I started allowing myself to just be me. Really me.

I stopped hiding my stims.
I stopped apologizing for being “too much” or “not enough.”
I stopped performing a role just to look functional.

I didn’t become “more autistic.”
I just became more authentic.

Before, I compressed everything. I filtered. I smoothed out the edges.
Now, I exist.

And if that unsettles some people, so be it.
Because for once, I don’t need to twist myself just to make others comfortable.

09/25/2025

They told me I “don’t make good decisions.”
Reality check: decisions aren’t good or bad, they just lead to different outcomes.

Sometimes helpful, sometimes not.
But if I keep labeling myself as “bad at decisions,” I kill my confidence.

Decisions are just steps.
The path is what teaches me.

09/25/2025

I was taught to stay quiet.
I unlearned that.
Now, I speak.

Even if it makes people uncomfortable.
Especially if it makes people uncomfortable.

Because silence protected others, not me.
Silence kept their comfort intact while I drowned.
Silence made me small, invisible, easy to dismiss.

So I chose to unlearn it.
To let my voice exist.
To let my truth take up space.

I don’t speak to please.
I don’t speak to be agreeable.
I speak because my story matters.
Because my needs matter.
Because I matter.

And if my voice shakes the walls they built to avoid listening?
Good.
Then maybe it’s finally being heard.

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