One Life Wellness

05/06/2023

Join us this Wednesday, May 10th @ 11am-12pm MDT for Coffee Talk. Message directly for more details.

04/12/2023

Get curious with how you feel from the situation? Is this your own triggers or how they are showing up?

04/11/2023

02/06/2023

When a need or want feels like it's lacking, a good place to start is getting clear with ourselves. Am I truly doing all I can to meet this feeling within myself? For example, we may be in a people pleasing scenario where we have ignored our own needs/wants to please. We say yes to something we didn't want to do (choosing to ignore our own wants). Then we find ourselves frustrated with the other person because we didn't say "no." If you're not making your needs a priority, how will someone else?

I would love to hear below, what need you could choose to meet for yourself💗 (I'm working on my self worth)

01/31/2023

I catch myself using this "s" word!🙊 oops! It's a loaded one and has underlying tones of expectation, shame, lack and comparison. Read below to help process and find ways to untwist this.⏬️





First, acceptance.
Can we accept ourselves & others as we are showing up? Why is this happening this way? To help release the shame, guilt, resentment or frustration, what are the factors causing the need to be unmet? Some possibilities: health, knowledge, ability, rest, resources, communication, mental/spiritual/emotional/physical challenges, beliefs, past experiences, priorities or values.
As humans, our stories and capacities are different from each other. This affects how we show up. It's what we do with the moments that we desire more. How do we go about change? Also, it's easy to expect others to give as we do or expect ourselves to be or do the things that others do. However, the more we understand the factors that affect this, the more compassion and understanding can grow.

It's a choice to bring change with the parts that are in our control? If this "should" is in relationship with others, we can communicate the need, set boundaries or step out of an unhealthy cycle.

As we reflect on the factors that affect how we all show up, we can accept our human ways and choose new ways to show up without shame or frustration. Retrain the thoughts so the feeling and outcome can be more productive!

Thought>Feeling>Action

Please share in the comments on your unhelpful patterns! I catch myself doing all of them! Let's normalize this and yet find ways to retrain those thoughts that just do not help😉