11/09/2025
Embracing the Journey of Self-Discovery and Growth
I often wonder how much farther ahead I might be if I had grown up in an environment that fully encouraged and supported me. But the truth is, that wasn’t my path. I came to understand around 2023 that no one was going to come to save me, that I needed to start validating myself—I had to nourish and support myself in ways I hadn’t learned.
Today, I am grateful to have supportive people in my life, but I recognize how the old patterns and beliefs rooted in trauma impacted me in ways I didn’t even realize. It’s easy to wish things were different, but I’ve learned that all I can truly do is show up from where I am now. Every experience, every challenge, has helped me evolve into the woman I am today—and who I am becoming.
This journey has taught me to lean into compassion—for myself and for others who carry similar feelings and challenges. I once believed my weight was a barrier, a form of protection—a way to hide and stay unseen. As I unraveled that belief, I realized it was deeper than the weight; it was about safety, acceptance, and self-love, but mostly the safety. I started to challenge my old patterns and past experiences and for the first time, I felt safe in my own skin.
I made a conscious choice to trust my body, to let go of the need for quick-fix diets, fat burners, or crash fads. Instead, I embraced trust and patience, moving more and nourishing my body—not as a punishment, but as an act of love. Slowly, the armor I carried began to loosen, revealing the authentic, beautiful self beneath.
I don’t believe anyone has one single path to transformation—because you are the expert in your life, just as I am in mine. But looking back, I can see how far I’ve come. I am proud of the woman I am today. I am okay with not being for everyone, with loving my quirks, and with letting go of the need to people-please for validation.
Surrendering to myself and trusting my journey has allowed me to find peace—even as I leave behind old attachments, people I love and once had love for with shared memories that once felt like safety. Real safety, I’ve learned, isn’t in the external or in others—it’s within. It’s in the trust I’ve cultivated in myself and the beautiful unfolding of this new chapter.
To my fellow travelers on this journey: remember, your worth isn’t defined by the external world. It’s rooted deep within you. Trust that path, honor your process, and embrace the beautiful, imperfect progress of your transformation.
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