Randi O’Hare, Psychotherapist

11/23/2025

11/23/2025

Helpful read for estranged parents and estranged children 👍

11/22/2025

Self-compassion and accepting one’s limitations is crucial to wellbeing 💜

11/20/2025

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Trevor Gilliss, Tim Wilson, Chelsey Young-kemkes, Ryan Wilson

11/20/2025

A Narcissistic parent usually has a ‘favourite’ child and a child who is the scapegoat (who is seen as a ‘problem’, blamed for everything, and is often the truth-teller of the family).

11/20/2025

Some food for thought 🌳 😊

11/20/2025

Since we can’t make others change, sometimes we need to walk away from toxic people to save ourselves.

11/20/2025

It’s common to spend years distancing ourselves from our true feelings to survive childhood or domestic abuse. This is a problem if we continue doing it because our feelings are sources of information. I can help! Contact me for a free consultation.

11/19/2025

When a mother uses her son for emotional comfort, it reverses the natural caregiving roles.

The child becomes responsible for the parent’s emotional state. Instead of feeling safe to depend, he becomes the one who must stay calm, fix, or soothe.

That creates emotional enmeshment, he learns love means losing himself to meet someone else’s needs.

As he grows, closeness feels like pressure. Being needed feels like being trapped.

So when someone depends on him emotionally, it unconsciously activates that old burden.

He doesn’t feel free, he feels responsible again, and his body wants to escape.

That’s why avoidant men often pull away the moment someone needs more from them. It’s not a lack of care.

It’s an old survival reflex built in a home where closeness meant losing his autonomy.