05/01/2026
I find this to be true. Fear keeps others from calling out the toxic person on their behaviour. Experienced this? Write about it in a comment below!
Toxic families, friend circles, and work environments tend to dance around the most toxic person. You can spot a toxic person by how they react to being challenged or given feedback. ⠀
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If they respond with high reactivity, revenge, passive aggression, or profound victimization, it's a perfect clue about their toxicity.
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As childhood trauma survivors, we often miss such clues due to our shame or toxicity being so familiar. As a result, we also never have seen healthy accountability. ⠀
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Examples -⠀
Don't rock the boat with mom. You know how angry she gets.⠀
Don't rock the boat with dad...you know how neurotic he is. ⠀
Don't tell that to your brother right now. He's got too much going on. ⠀
Don't tell your mother about that. She'll lose it. ⠀
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Systems cater to the most toxic and...f**k that. ⠀
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Our tolerance for such systems diminishes as we grow, mature, and heal. It's a good thing. ⠀
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What would happen if you didn't take part in the catering of the most toxic person in your family? If you've stopped, what was that process like? How'd it go down? ⠀
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It's often a choice about reserving space for ourselves instead of the most toxic, and in my experience, it changes everything but is hard to do at first.
