Randi O’Hare, Psychotherapist

01/29/2026

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01/29/2026

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01/19/2026

“Find people who don’t need you to shrink to stay comfortable.”

Being “too much” usually means you’re in a room that only knows how to live on the surface.

Some people can only connect where it’s convenient. They’ll tease what they don’t understand, label what they can’t hold, then act like distance is maturity.

But depth is a skill. So is care. So is consideration.

Keep your heart. Refine your boundaries. Find people who don’t need you to shrink to stay comfortable.

01/15/2026

This!

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01/15/2026

ALL relationships involve work and discomfort. This is NORMAL. It doesn’t mean something is wrong 🕊️

01/15/2026

THE SAVVY DATER CLASS FOR WOMEN- Spaces still available! In person. Running 7pm-8:30pm on Jan 18, 26, and Feb 2 at Old East Village Health Quarters at 532 Adelaide St North in London ON ☺️ If you’re currently dating or plan to be, in this class you’ll learn some amazingly simple and concrete tools for finding a compatible romantic partner. Especially useful for anyone who has been out of the ‘dating game’ for awhile & has no idea where to begin. Email me at randiohare@gmail.com with questions or to register ($80), on or before Jan 18th.

12/22/2025

I asked my 5 year old if he wanted to go to dinner and he really said to me - "I've been in the large world today & now I need to be in a small space." There has been no point in my life that I've been able to express that feeling as well as he just did.

Out of the mouths of children comes the most profound wisdom we adults spend years trying to articulate. That need to retreat, to decompress, to make your world smaller after being exposed to too much—he captured it perfectly in one simple sentence.

We've all felt it. That overwhelming sensation after a long day of being "on”, dealing with people, responsibilities, stimulation, noise, demands. You get home and all you want is to curl up in your bed, sit in your closet, hide in the bathroom, anywhere that feels contained and safe.

You need your world to shrink for a moment so you can breathe again. But most of us have never been able to name that feeling so accurately.

Kids haven't learned to suppress or ignore their needs yet. They listen to their bodies and emotions without judgment or guilt. When they're overstimulated, they know it. When they need space, they ask for it.

When the large world becomes too much, they retreat to their small space without apologizing or justifying. Somewhere along the way to adulthood, we lose that honest connection to what we actually need.

Maybe we should take notes from this 5-year-old. It's okay to need to be in a small space after being in the large world. It's okay to say "I'm overstimulated and I need to be alone."

It's okay to honor your limits instead of pushing through. Sometimes the wisest thing you can do is make your world tiny for a while—and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

12/22/2025

You have to learn that honesty doesn't lead to punishment. That expressing needs isn't asking for too much. That calm isn't the silence before the storm, it's just peace.
You have to stop bracing for impact that never comes. Stop apologizing for having needs. Stop making yourself smaller to avoid conflict that healthy love doesn't create.

The healthy relationship asks you to trust again, but differently. To believe that safety isn't something you earn, it's something you deserve. To accept that love shouldn't require you to be a mind reader, a fixer, or a fortress.

It's relearning what normal feels like when normal was never your baseline.
And yes, it's the hardest thing you'll do. But it's also the most sacred. Because choosing to heal inside of love—instead of just surviving inside of chaos—is how you finally get the love and life you deserve.