02/21/2026
When we were first putting this exercise together we thought we’d film one of us alone, and something about that just didn’t feel authentic to how it might be used in the moment!
The reality is, is that there aren’t a lot of moments we’re alone without our babies. Primary caregivers with little to no village, we see you! 🤍 That doesn’t mean we have to deprive ourselves of micro moments to regulate our own nervous systems, especially on those days that our cups are feeling particularly empty.
You are the other half of the mother baby Dyad and deserve to be cared for and nurtured to support your own nervous system too. And it’s so essential for co-regulation!
So - what is Supportive Touch?
Touch activates the parasympathetic nervous system to help us relax and feel safe. Cognitively, it may feel awkward or embarrassing at first, but our bodies don’t know this. Imagine your body responding to gentle warmth and care, the same way your baby does when you hold them in your arms.
The skin is our body’s largest and most sensitive organ. Research shows us that physical touch releases oxytocin (that feel-good hormone!), provides us with a sense of security, and helps us to soothe distressing emotions and stress. So let’s give it a try!
One way to do this is hand-over-heart 🤍
* when you are feeling heightened emotions or stress try to take 2-3 deep satisfying breaths (eyes open or closed, your choice!)
* gently place your hand over your heart, tune into the gentle pressure and warmth
* pay attention to the rise and fall of your chest as you breathe in and out
* be with yourself and your body for as long as you’d like to stay here
If hand-over-heart isn’t for you, you might try other areas of the body that feel soothing and safe:
* crossing your arms with a gentle squeeze (think - giving yourself a hug!)
* hand on your belly (great for connecting with baby if you’re pregnant)
* gently stroking or tapping any other area of your body that you feel releases tension
Sending you all the love and gentle compassion you deserve 🤍