10/15/2025
Why would we want them to “feed faster?”
That question stopped me in my tracks.
Because somewhere along the way, we started treating feeding as a task, something to get over with, something to optimize, something to time.
But feeding isn’t just about milk transfer.
It’s about regulation, safety, and love.
It’s about a baby learning that when they reach for you, you’ll be there.
Breastfeeding isn’t meant to be efficient… it’s meant to be intimate. It’s the rhythm of connection, the rise and fall of a chest they know by heart, the smell that says “I’m safe.”
When we rush it, we miss the sacred part… the co-regulation, the hormones that calm both bodies, the moments that shape attachment and trust.
So no… we don’t want them to feed faster.
We want them to feel seen.
We want them to feel safe.
We want them to take their time
…because that time is the point.