01/05/2025
Food For Thought:
As we start 2025 off we begin to see many posts about resolutions, new me, etc. For some people that may involve a new relationship. As I work with many different clients, one of the questions I always ask is this:
What do you bring to the table?
Now, many women ask this of potential male partners, but to me it doesn’t matter what your gender is. If you are a person looking to get into relationship then ask yourself the above. And I’m not just talking about financial, although that is also important.
Some common things people look for are:
-Trustworthiness and honesty
-Respect and consideration for the other person's feelings and needs
-Emotional intelligence and the ability to communicate effectively
-A sense of humor and the ability to laugh together
-Similar values and goals
-Physical attraction
-Compatibility and shared interests
Relationships, especially adult ones, take work, they take commitment to listen and respect others needs, and they aren’t all about romance, fireworks and that movie screen ending.
If you are putting in more effort than your partner, or always asking to spend time together, or giving in to their way, or paying for most things; re-evaluate your worth.
And, before you start making that pros and cons list about a potential mate, consider what you are putting on the table and then you’ll know what you are looking for.