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Memento Psychotherapy & Counselling

Cayla Townes, MA, RP, CCC
Help for difficult childhoods, trauma, and relationships

02/09/2026

Beyond “Me” to “We” — a deep read of Terry Real’s "Us" and how we can move from toxic individualism to more loving, resilient relationships. Explore practical insights for couples and clinicians, and why connection requires moving past blame to mutual accountability in my latest post.

Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship offers a radical challenge to how we've been taught to think about relationships, mental health, and personal growth in contemporary Western culture.

01/26/2026

A thoughtful look at Kasia Urbaniak’s Unbound and what it teaches us about gender, desire, and authentic agency. My latest post explores the ideas she presents about how out internalized frameworks shape our power and what practices may help us to reclaim it.

Kasia Urbaniak's Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power is one of those rare books that makes you realize how deeply you've internalized frameworks that work against you. Drawing from her unusual background as both a Taoist nun and a professional do******ix, Urbaniak offers a radical reimagining of power...

01/20/2026

What we believe about people affects their behaviour—and ours. Take a look at my latest blog post on understanding the "nocebo" effect and how it influences our reality.

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What we believe about people becomes how people behave, including ourselves. This is the nocebo effect writ large, and understanding it might be one of the most important mental health interventions available to us.

01/12/2026

Intellectualization is one way we protect ourselves from emotional pain, but it can keep us stuck in a cage. Ready to free yourself? Ready my latest post about how to face the things that can feel impossible to confront.

Intellectualization—one of the most socially acceptable and often invisible ways we protect ourselves from emotional pain.

01/05/2026

Have you ever confused boundaries with limits? Terry Real's insightful framework helps you protect yourself without controlling others. A summary of his framework and some practical examples and applications are in my latest post.

One of the most misunderstood concepts in contemporary therapy culture is boundaries. Everyone talks about them, books are written about them, social media is full of boundary-setting advice. But much of what gets called "boundary-setting" is actually something else entirely—and the confusion caus...

12/17/2025

If you've been impacted by Complex PTSD or attachment trauma, Stephanie Foo’s memoir, "What My Bones Know" offers insightful reflections and shared experiences, along with a realistic and hopeful outlook for the future.

There are certain books that don't just tell a story—they hold up a mirror. Stephanie Foo's memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, is one of those rare works that manages to be both deeply personal and universally resonant for anyone who has lived with Complex PTSD or...

12/08/2025

There's a representation gap in our media that affects our emotional lives in a profound way. Discover how this gap shapes our understanding of ourselves and others in my latest blog post.

In North American media and leadership culture, we face a profound representation gap—one that doesn't just shape what we watch or who we vote for, but fundamentally impacts how we understand ourselves and relate to others.

11/24/2025

Navigating family dynamics during the holidays can be tough. Remember, it's normal to regress around family, even if you've done a lot of work on yourself. For tips, strategies, and practical support, check out my latest article.

You've been in therapy. You've done the work. You've developed healthier boundaries, better communication skills, and stronger emotional regulation. You've processed trauma, understood your patterns, and genuinely changed how you show up in your life. You feel good about your growth—proud, even.An...

11/17/2025

Do you struggle with understanding what’s "good enough" for you? My latest post explores why many individuals, especially those with attachment trauma, find it challenging to define their own standards.

One of the most common struggles I see in therapy, particularly with clients who experienced attachment trauma, is the question: "How do I know what's good enough?" This seemingly simple question touches something profound—the difficulty of developing your own internal compass for evaluating your ...

11/10/2025

Have you ever felt like your reality was being questioned? Gaslighting can happen in any relationship, from personal to professional. Learn more about what gaslighting is and isn't in my latest post.

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The term "gaslighting" has become ubiquitous in recent years, appearing in conversations about everything from romantic relationships to workplace dynamics to political discourse. But as the term has gained popularity, its meaning has become diluted and distorted. People now use "gaslighting" to des...

11/03/2025

We receive mixed messages about our emotions. We have "too much" of one feeling and "not enough" of another. My latest article explores how to understand and work with your feelings in a practical, meaningful way.

We live in a culture that sends deeply conflicting messages about emotions. On one hand, we're told to "follow our hearts" and "trust our feelings." On the other, we're praised for being "rational," "logical," and "in control" of our emotions—as if emotions are wild animals that need taming or inc...

10/27/2025

Parts work in therapy offers a unique way to engage with yourself. My latest article focuses on different types of parts work and the struggles they can help us with.

Parts work—the practice of identifying, dialoguing with, and healing these different aspects of ourselves—has a rich history across multiple therapeutic traditions.

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http://www.MementoTherapy.com/

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