Memento Psychotherapy & Counselling

05/25/2026

Sometimes we can't or don't want to do therapy, but we still want to engage in meaningful self-exploration. This post explores some exercises we can do on our own that can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our patterns, and our behaviours.

There's a particular kind of frustration that comes from knowing you want to understand yourself better — maybe you keep landing in the same relationship patterns, or a voice inside you is persistently harsh, or something feels stuck — and not being able to get into therapy. You know something i...

05/11/2026

Connecting with emotions is not a given. In my latest post, I explore how projective and creative techniques can access implicit emotions when words aren’t enough. Check it out for practical approaches and clinical insights to help move therapy forward.

There is a particular kind of client who sits across from you and earnestly answers every question, engages in psychoeducation, completes homework between sessions — and yet remains stuck. Something isn't moving.

04/21/2026

What stories are you living by? Our core beliefs quietly shape who we choose, how we argue, and how much space we take up in life. In my latest post, I explore how those beliefs form — and how therapy can help rewrite them for healthier relationships and greater self-compassion.


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Most of us move through our days without examining the assumptions underneath our behaviour. We just live — choosing partners, interpreting conflict, deciding how much space we deserve to take up — as if these choices emerge from nowhere. But they don't. They emerge from a set of deeply held bel...

04/07/2026

Why do we repeat the same patterns even when we know better? In my latest post, I break down the psychology behind familiar cycles and why awareness alone often isn't enough.

You understand your attachment style. You've read the books, maybe done years of therapy. You can explain, with impressive precision, exactly why you do the things you do. And then you do it again.

03/30/2026

My latest post takes a look at the unique exhaustion that shows up for people who are earnestly trying to change, but in doing that actually end up avoiding their problems. If you’re feeling like your self-improvement isn't actually improving your life, this one's for you.


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There's a particular kind of exhaustion that shows up in therapy offices, and it doesn't belong to people who are avoiding their problems. It belongs to people who are trying, hard, to fix themselves.

03/23/2026

There’s a quiet ache we have many names for — anxiety, depression, disconnection — but often it’s loss of community. In my latest post, we explore how disconnection shapes our inner pain and practical steps toward rebuilding belonging.

03/09/2026

You are not a symptom. Explore why mental health care should consider the full human experience, not just isolated symptoms. Read my latest post about rethinking what rigorous care can, and should, look like.


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This is the argument for a holistic approach to mental health: not as a soft alternative to rigorous care, but as the more accurate account of what a human being actually is.

03/02/2026

What are the invisible “if-then” rules that shape how you feel and act? My latest blog breaks down emotional schemas—how they form, how they express themselves in our behaviour, how they live in the body, and practical steps to notice and change them.

Emotional schemas are implicit learnings—"if-then" rules encoded in emotional memory—that predict what will happen if we do certain things. They're not thoughts we consciously believe. They're felt truths that live in our bodies and guide our behaviour automatically.

02/23/2026

What if our default story about human nature is wrong—and that shift could transform mental health? My latest blog post explores Rutger Bregman’s "Humankind" and what a more hopeful view of people means for mental health, relationships, and who we believe we are.

What if everything you've been taught about human nature is wrong? What if the cynicism baked into our institutions, our media, our parenting, and even our therapy models is based on a fundamental misunderstanding of who we are? These are the questions Rutger Bregman tackles in his book Humankind: A...

02/09/2026

Beyond “Me” to “We” — a deep read of Terry Real’s "Us" and how we can move from toxic individualism to more loving, resilient relationships. Explore practical insights for couples and clinicians, and why connection requires moving past blame to mutual accountability in my latest post.

Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship offers a radical challenge to how we've been taught to think about relationships, mental health, and personal growth in contemporary Western culture.

01/26/2026

A thoughtful look at Kasia Urbaniak’s Unbound and what it teaches us about gender, desire, and authentic agency. My latest post explores the ideas she presents about how out internalized frameworks shape our power and what practices may help us to reclaim it.

Kasia Urbaniak's Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power is one of those rare books that makes you realize how deeply you've internalized frameworks that work against you. Drawing from her unusual background as both a Taoist nun and a professional do******ix, Urbaniak offers a radical reimagining of power...